I'm a married woman, been that way for 4 yrs, in love with a woman. She is all that my husband is not and much more. She shows and treats me with all the love and respect in the world. Me and my husband havent been seeing eye to eye 4 a real long time.Do u think I should stay with the woman who cares and loves me or try and work things out with my husband?
2006-08-06 01:07:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am thinking of leaving myself . Not for anyone eles but I am attracted to other people. Everyone keep saying You have to do what makes you happy. No one else in your life can be happy unless you are. But there are always doubts in the back of your mind. With you I do not know if there are kids involed. That could be rough even without kids you will face the turmoil of a same sex relationship Are you confident enough in yourself to be happy with society judging you. Does she want to be with you as much as you do with her. Leaving your husband is hard It will affect allot of people. But he will never be truly happy unless you are. Can you live with that.
2006-08-06 01:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by soo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not smooth all the way .Be advised there are many more like you but still holding on to their marriage for better or worse.Please mend your relationship with your husband.have an open free talk and see the magic.No good marriage exists without hitches here and there.Do not be influenced by another womans love,Keep away from her,she might be the cause.See a pastor if possible and please keep your affairs in your hearts only.Communication plays a big role in relationships. Maintain your marriage institution Good luck .
2006-08-06 01:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Maxwell K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough married for 4 yrs, I dont think your married life was that satisfactory. You both would not have come out of your b/f, g/f levels. Marriage is something different than satisfaction of sexual desires and I think your husband failed in something serious in that.Suddenly this lady comes in to the picture and showers you all the things you wanted.Even if it was a man, you'd have done that.
If the crisis is beyond repair, think of staying with her, if not please patch up. A lady to lady relationship may satisfy you sexually but couples are meant to be more than that and it needs a man to woman relationship!!!
2006-08-06 01:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer this question because you are the only one that know how you feel about whats going on in your life but answer this 1 first are you not seeing eye to eye right now because you feel this woman is what you want so you figure its not worth trying to fix just think is it worth trying to fix is all love gone than go from there wish you the best
2006-08-06 01:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually woman go to the arms of another woman is because the man has wronged the woman in a trust issue( ie cheating, beating,etc) I think its kinda sick that you would run to the arms of a woman instead of talking to your husband and working things out. Do you have kids? what do you think they will feel if mommy is with another woman and they will wonder about dad. It appears you have not been faithful in your marriage and you are the one who wronged him.....tisk tisk!!!
2006-08-06 01:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by kram_7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why divorce should exist is because the love that once held it together is lost, or because love appeared in someone else.
You hold true on both accounts.
I say leave.
2006-08-06 01:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're unhappy with your husband, you need to either get counseling or leave. You ain't getting any younger. If you have kids, you need to be prepared for the consequences of introducing them to your new world. Hope this helps.
2006-08-06 01:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids? If not then follow your heart, I know it is a very long and hard prosess to get divorced but if you really care about this girl then it will be well worth it !
2006-08-06 01:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you start looking for someone else than the marriage is over anyway. I don't think you will be happy in a straight marriage no matter what. It is up to you what you do, but be prepared to start totally over in your life.
2006-08-06 01:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by MrsMike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt matter hey ya could end up with an ugly sod like Mario E (above)
2006-08-06 01:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋