my wife has been in an affair off and on for over two years. first time she and him were caught she denied ever having sexual relations. same as second and third. i wanted to believe in her more than anything. she is a very manipulative person and i only see the real woman i know when it is just me and her. we will never be again i do know that but my daughter is torn between us i am from a divorced family and know how she is feeling. divorce and everything has changed alot from25 years ago. what can i do to get custody of my little girl. my soon to be ex and daughter live with her parents now but every other night my soon ex stays night at bf house and leaves daughter with her parents.she has no job doesnt intend on getting one and is trying to get her parents to start her in college. she is 30 and also has two other children by two different dads. i have been there for all of them i consider them mine straight from the heart.
2006-08-06 00:55:34 · 10 answers · asked by rickey b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As the other posters said, it is hard to gain full custody unless the other person is some horrible axe murder.. and then even people in jail get to see their kids.
I think realistically you are looking at joint custody both legal and physical. My ex and I do alternating weeks for our two and that has been a nice opportunity for them. Of course we both live about 10 minutes apart in the same school district.
If you havent talked to a lawyer... that is what I would do..
2006-08-06 01:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Daring Zoey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her from her mother totaly, that would not be good for the child. But do try to get joint custody with the most amount of time you can get to spend with her. And if you are a good man, you would have all the children for visitation not just you bio child.
I think if you realy care for these children as you say you do you would support their mother in going to school and bettering herself so she can go to work and support them. Education will help her be a better mother.
So your wife ran off with another guy. Let her go. And have a good fling yourself. And stop being so self righteous. Things just didn't work out between you, obviously she wasn't happy and went looking for it somewhere else. You ultimately at some level need to take responsibility for that.
Let it go and find your happines now.
I had a brother who wasn't happy in his marriage and divorced but he helped his ex go to college and even helped her buy a house in the samr town as him so his son would be as close as possible. He is a good father, Puting his children first even before his own negative feelings.
Get over the past and leave it in the past and take care of you children, put them first, Don't talk bad about their mother in front of them. They have been through something traumatic. It's time to heal things.
It is a possibility they will have a step father someday. Deal with it maturely and don't talk negative about him either.
Put you kids and their psycological well being first. Not your need for revenge, don't use your children like that. If you do it might back fire and you will find yourself hated by your children because of your negativity.
2006-08-06 08:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by bigmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get proof of her infidelity then yes, you have a good chance. Also, videotape yourself doing things with your kid, stuff like that. Go to your daughter's school and tell the staff there is a family problem (don't mention the divorce) and that you are concerned about your daughter. Tell them to call you if anything happens with her etc etc. Basically, you need to show that you have your kid's best interest at heart. Do this and it will help you get custody.
2006-08-06 08:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wifes infidelity has nothing to do with custody of your children in the eyes of the law. Most times the courts will automatically side with the mother in the case of custody ...unless you can prove that she is an unfit mother also and not just a cheating wife.
2006-08-06 08:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately depending on the state you live in it could be rather difficult, nothing you listed here would legally define her as a bad mother, making it again more difficult to win custody of the child. but you will always have partial custody if not primary custody and as long as you stay in your child's life she will get the love she needs from you even if her mother doesn't provide it
2006-08-06 08:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by vicolstravnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not grounds for granting custody.
Unfortunately.
You will have to hire a lawyer, and basically prove that her lifestyle is not good for the children. As for the kids that are not biologically yours, the best you can hope for is that maybe her parents will file for guardianship or something of them.
Good luck, and stick to your guns. The best thing you can do is go through the legal system.
Good luck!
2006-08-06 09:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult for a man to get custody of his children. Prove she neglects them or abuses them and you might have a chance.
2006-08-06 08:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating does not mean she is a bad mother. Don't hurt your child by trying to hurt your wife.
2006-08-06 09:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by aspoiled2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not easy for a man to get custody.. she must be proven unfit-drugs, alcohol, mentally challenged, etc. joint custody is more likely, but not a given.
2006-08-06 08:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly the courts are so anti-men its unbelievable - you have next to no chance - despite your soon to be exwife being a total waste of space. sorry
2006-08-06 08:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by mr_soapytitwank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋