i have been with mat for almost 3years. at first he was a really nice guy but then he started bossing me around. not letting me see myt friends and sometimes he would hit me.he packed his things and walked out on me tonight and hes going back to australia to live with his dad.i know me and my son will be better without him but i feel soo sad and i dont know why
2006-08-06 00:22:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He beat you, this is probably the best thing that has happened to you! Start the "next chapter" in your life! Things can only get better for you...
2006-08-06 00:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be happy starts from within. You should thank your lucky stars he is gone. Your life will be much better without him i dont think anyone deserves to be with a man who thinks he can put his hand on her. You might find he is very possessive and believes that you belonged to him that is wrong.
He hasleft be happy he has and move on and take the time to enjoy your life with your son and one day you will find someone to appreciate you and love you and your son unconditionally. I am not saying he never lovd you or cared for you.. but from the moment he raised his had to hit should've been the day you put him out.
You feel sad because for 3 years you have been "under his control" you are not sure how you will cope without him but you will - you will get through it. What doesnt kill you only makes your stronger so see this as a blessing to become your own person once more.Take this time to take care of your son am sure he will be happier too.
2006-08-06 07:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The end of a relationship is always sad, even if it was a terrible relationship. It is perfectly normal for you to be sad tonight, in fact I'd probably worry about it if you weren't. If you start to feel really seriously depressed or it goes on for more than a few weeks, you will want to seek professional help but right now just have yourself a good cry and take a bubble bath or read a trashy book.
2006-08-06 07:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people have gone through something like that, and most of them have felt the same way (usually they are more sad than happy that he left though, but that's probably because they loved him so much that they didn't "believe" that what he was doing was wrong).
Just try to let go of him, and move on with your life. Trust me, by what you said, you (and especially your son, they tend to be worse to the woman's son after a while) are a lot better off without him, your life will be better off. You have more freedom now, you can see your friends now, you don't have to worry about it... about him.
but... there is a chance (a very good chance) that sooner or later he will show up and try to "be better". please don't believe him, no matter how convincing he can be, for your own good (and your son's) don't believe him.
2006-08-06 07:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by Stacie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy had no right to teach you this way. Or to hit you. I know you hjurt right now but your better off out of it. I speak from experience i lived with a guy who used to get drunk an hit me all the time. These are the sort that enjoy hurting woman but they run from men they are cowards. you will get over it in time you will feel better for it. Sadness is because you dont want to be alone an because you have been together for 3 years. Your a strong person you will cope, and this is better for your son you dont want him growing up in an abuse household.
2006-08-06 07:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad he is leaving. U will b sad and scared but tis is a new start. Think of the days ahead of u wit no horrors of getting beat up by him. If your frens is real then they will b by your side and support and give u the help u needed. U have a bright future ahead wit your son. One day u will meet a man who will love u whole heartedly and treat u like the most important person in the world and treat your child like his. B strong love, cos no one can protect u and love u if u dont start it wit yourself!!!
God bless ya!!
2006-08-06 07:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gabrielle_1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel sad because you have lost what you know. Matt was a big part of your life and now he's gone. It's only natural that you feel a sense of loss. Change upsets us whether it's a good change or not. Give it some time and once the fact that your new life is better really sinks in I guarantee you'll feel better. Good luck.
2006-08-06 07:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably sad cos ya lost a dream ya had.... you DO seem to know it is different from the reality of the situation but that doesn't help much right now, does it?
Please give yourself time and I'm sure you will be much better off in the long run....
...short-term, just be nice to yourself and to your son
2006-08-06 07:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Annalyse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a man that respects you and don't abuse you. Why do you feel bad for "will be better without him"? Spend more time with your son before jumping in another relationship again. The right guy will come.
2006-08-06 07:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by loveisintheair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u feel sad because u lived with him for long time, but GOD will help you and he just wan't that u give your self time, so u could start with better life, that's what u deserve. You realize that , that is for u better because he go, and u know that's right thing, so give your self time and u will see how u will start with better life and you will find much better man than this one was. You have to respect your self and your child and lett go that man who did bad things to you and start liveing a new better life. Help your self and your child girl you 2 desreve that and u 2 need that. God bless you girl.
And don't forget be happy for he live , don't be sad, because jesus will help, is just we all need time whan we are sad and sufrir, we are just human with soul, and u feel that. So be happy for your kid to. Think good and go out with some of your friends and let it all out and go dance and be happy. JESUS LOVE U!!!
I love u, so wish all best for u and your kid girl, give kiss to your kid from me and i hug you much.
Go on my 360 page and let me some note or comment, and remember what i tald you.
Live your life and kid life till he grow.Love your self and kid.
All best for u girl
:)
2006-08-06 07:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be better to let a guy like this go.He is always been hittin and bossin around right?then y not to feeel llike a free bird.Once u get rid of the mean guy .Its better tat this dog is leaving u.U should be happy.Don't let ne 1 *** into u're life again unless and until u r 100% sure bout him and know taht he is a good guy.Take u're time out leave him stop thinkin bout him .Try doin yoga or go 4 vacations they really help u in getin out of stress.these things really work.Divert u're mind from him and enjoy u're life to full extent!
2006-08-06 07:31:56 · answer #11 · answered by SHEllA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋