Do i just accept it?

Question

i've talking to my fiancee a lot because everytime i see his ex fiancee in town. i just get these images of them together (stupid i know).

But we have been talking about it like adults, but he has admitted with out physically saying it that she is better in the bed room. But i still get upset even tho he says im better looking an i have a better personality than her. He as avoided it and when i say say shes better in the bedroom he Says" but you have a better personatlity and are better looking".

Am i being silly should i just accept it as i cant be perfect........

Another thing is shes had loads of sexual partners before him and i have only slept with him (which he likes because he knows i've only had him). If you know what i mean.

Answer 1

Ask what she does that's so good, then you can be better that her because you'll be as good in bed and better looking and personality

Answer 2

You poor thing!

Right, lets get a few things straight. He is not with her, he is with you.

Maybe things aren't as great in the bedroom, but you know what? They will be. For that to happen, you need to relax, and you need to get some confidence in yourself.

Sex is something that you have to be have complete trust for, sometimes that takes time to develop. The longer you are with your boyfriend, and the more you trust him, the better things will get. The very fact that you are worrying about this shows that you aren't there yet.

Hopefully he is loving and patient, and it seems you can talk openly, so that is a good start.

When I married my first husband, I was only 18, and so nervous that it took a year of awful sex before we started to understand each other completely. It went on to be the best sex ever because we learnt together.

Please try not to worry. Go to the library and get some books, or if you are brave, try an educational video like "The Lovers Guide"
Ask you Boyfriend to tell you what he wants, and to show you how to do it, but most of all, learn to laugh about it all, if you get upset when things go wrong, then you will put up an emotional barrier.

Learn to laugh at the squelchy, soggy, not-quite-right bits, because those are the bits that happen to us all.

You will be fine sweetheart, I promise xxxx

Answer 3

First of all NEVER let loose the green eyed monster that lives deep inside of us all, I never let on to my boyfriend of 3 years that I get jealous.
I just simply nod and smile, this is letting him know I dont care, it's not getting to me and to quit while he is a head, but really I want to approach the bitche's and say keep away from my man.
As from his ex being better in bed, what bollock's, he loves the fact you are insecure... it show's you love him dearly.
You have only been with him that YOU should credit your self for , I bet his ex has not been with one person, Yes you may be un sure on afew things but with experince you will gain confidence in the bedroom and I bet your man would love to show you.
So stop worying, by all mean's communicate with your man but not when it comes to negative emotions. Were not all perfect so Be happy have fun and take care x Lois 24 x

Answer 4

Relationships aren't based on sex so let it go .
If you were seeing someone just because you enjoyed the sex it wouldn't be a good relationship.Two people make good sex not one anyway!
Read up on different things to try or talk about sex and anyway i find the longer you are with someone it gets better as you learn what the other person wants.

Answer 5

Of course that there is no perfect person in the world and we all know that. I don't think that it's respectful from him to tell you about his past experiences, his ex-fiance and her sexual performances especially if you didn't have past experiences..I understand how you feel. It always makes me angry when a guy talks about previous girlfriends. It might mean that he still thinks about her and didn't get over her yet. I wouldn't be able to accept it, but it's me..It's important for you to realize how important he is to you and to tell him that you don't wish to listen to those stories about ex. If he can't stop talking about her, then you might move on..

Answer 6

Practice makes perfect so they say, shes a slapper and wil knw some tricks. U just need to ind out what he likes and in time u will be better. The important thing is thats its yu that he is with now and not her

Answer 7

No, hes winding you up by giving you a compliment in one hand and cruelly snatching it back with the other. To suggest someone else is better in bed than you is cruel and hurtful as sex is the most intimate, close and loving part of a relationship. Of course personality is incredibly important as it identifies who you are. Dont let him get away with it..ask him wat he likes in bed that u dont give.....im sure you will find that infact, he cannot (without lieing) and that hes an immature, insensitive tosser on an ego trip. =)

Answer 8

You are not getting the respect you deserve from your fiancee.
Just mention to him that Joe, your x-boy friend does it better in the sack. Or, that to get better at sex, you need to practice with some other guys, such as the fireman, before having sex with him again.

That's the way the cookie crumbles.

Answer 9

If you carry on like this he will soon be your ex-fiancee as well. Grow up. He's with you now, make it your business to keep it that way which does not include your whining and forcing him to re-assure you. Have you ever done anything to make him feel good about himself?

Answer 10

he is with you now get over it everyone has had pasts you wolud not get any where in live if you do not forget the past and anyway she just might of been one of these silly little slags that would be game for anything and i am sure that you are better than that forget about it