-If you've been in a relationship for a while, and you feel that it isn't as exciting as before, is it acceptable to take some time away (not seeing other people, just to spend by yourself), or is that like abandoning your relationship?
2006-08-05 23:59:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No relationship is lovey-dovey all the time,not even those of couples who have been married over 50 years. Even in the best and most loving of relationship, there will be time when you get so irritated with your mate that you have to take a break, to cool off. This is natural, after all we are all human, with all the flaws which comes with being human.
2006-08-06 00:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm entirely not a self help book type person - but trying reading The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. Kind of helps you to take time for yourself and appreciate time together. Weird it's not even about that but somehow it works.
Time apart is essential. You don't stop being your own person just because you're in a relationship. Taking a break from the relationship is a bit of a slap in the face - but it can soemtimes help (or at least fastforward the make or break process).
But take time for yourself. Sleep over at a friend's sometime just for fun or go away for a weekend with the girls. Take time out at least once a week where you do something that's just for you.
It's amazing how much easier relationships become when you look after yourself.
2006-08-06 00:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by agliotti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That spark just fades away naturally. You can't have it all the time, id doesn't last forever. What you are left with is a calm safe place to be, with an occasional flare up in intensity. It's actually much nicer than all that excitement.
But if you don't have that feeling about this relationship, best to call the whole thing off, take a break, and then try again with someone new.
Best of luck.
2006-08-06 00:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you think you need to take a break from your relationship to get the "spark" back, then it could be the relationship is not right for you. Sometimes things do get a little "monotonous" in a relationship, however as a couple, you should be able to talk to each other and work this out. If you feel you need a break "to gather spark" your heart is looking elsewhere for that spark.
2006-08-06 03:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is natural. In fact you should have done so before so you wouldn't feel like you do know. The best advice to keep a healthy relationship is to have a life beyond the relationship, so when you and your bf are together all is fresh and alive and not like an old couple. I think you are in the right way by just stopping and thinking about it.
2006-08-06 00:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need for a break i would say it was going to be permanent. As if it was just a brake needed you would just go away for a few days like camoing or something. If you really want to savew relationship, start spending quality time together spice up your life the 2 of you could do this together. tho in a relationship we need to keep our independance and need space you don't break up to do so.
2006-08-06 00:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it really helps, your body is used to a daily schedule and if there is a break it tends to go in search of it and when it finds it after a longer than usual break it behaves like a desparado. so if u want some spark in life then its good to have breaks. make sure that both are into it else it may end up in misunderstanding. bye and have a nice day
2006-08-06 00:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by sen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaks don't work unless you fully expect the other person to have unlimited amounts of sex with many anonymous partners. Being realistic, that probably won't happen, but you have to expect the worse if things are getting so bad in your relationship that you need to take a break.
2006-08-06 00:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Low Key 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your situation has lost its pizzaz, there is nothing wrong with taking a break for a bit of time. However, there is no guarantee taking a break will reignite that spark.
Perhaps you have outgrown each other. People mature and begin to have other interests.
2006-08-06 00:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok but not too long. Perhaps, both of you should put in some effort & put the sparks back. Date more. Have fun more. Just like the good old dating days.
2006-08-06 00:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋