i feel like my man is obsessed with me. he gets mad if i dont talk to him for a moment, hes constantly telling me how he wants our future to be like, and he never stops telling me how he loves me more than life. he gets angry if i talk to guy friends, etc... he always tells me i better not hurt him. its getting really scary. he is a good guy, but its like he wont let me have any independance. he wants me under him at all times. i cant take it anymore. is he obsessed? what should i do?
2006-08-05 23:51:57 · 12 answers · asked by different_type_of_love21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think this is good at all... you need to have independence in a relationship, you need to be able to trust each other. He is probably scared of getting hurt himself, so he is trying to prevent it by acting like this towards you. Everybody is scared of getting hurt, but there is a limit to it and he seems to have already gone beyond it. I don't think this will bring good things for you in the future. On the contrary, chances are that the situation will worsen, so you shouldn't stay with him. I suppose he will not react very well if you break up with him, that's why you should also talk to your family or friends, you might need their support in this.
2006-08-06 00:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by dalia 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ladies who stay with men like that get beaten
'he is a good guy', yes they put on that persona
you have to dump him, but speak to a friend first and if you give them a secret password on the phone or put a certain light on, then they call the cops bcoz you are in trouble, ummmm,,,,,,cops are slow, better have 5 blokes at the ready, to 'remove' him, and any of his posessions. Then you see the cops an get an exclusion zone set up.
I've seen too may girls physically hurt by guys like this
2006-08-06 00:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becareful as obsession often leads to abuse. My ex was so obsessed he used to follow me to work school when i picked up child. If we were down street a stranger said hi he would accuse me of having an affair tho i was never out of his site.He used to tell me how to dress monitor my phone calls with my family. I felt like aprisoner, his obsession became physical abuse it took me 9 years to get away ilived in fear. Dont let this happen to you. I separated 6 years ago he still harassese an watches me tho now im stronger. If you can move back with your family be honest with them about the treatment they are there to protect you.
2006-08-05 23:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very controlling. This is one of the prime signs of a potential abuser. Trust your instincts if you feel uncomfortable with him. I would dump him if it were me. If you do decide to stay with him, I suggest you get some couples counseling or talk to your clergy or someone else he will accept as an authority.
2006-08-06 00:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy...huh
He wouldn't be threatening you if he was a nice guy. You need to cut that loose and fast before the first blow lands and run run away
2006-08-06 01:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cyliasis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's emotionally abusive. You need to dump him before it gets worse.
2006-08-05 23:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he may be a potential wife-beater better have the cops ready on your mobile
2006-08-06 00:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is indeed scary! I think he's possesive w/ u.
2006-08-06 00:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rhine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tink if u reli love someone you will trust him/her.....i tink ur bf is next to paranoid and wat he wants is not normal tings......u better call it quit but try to study how,cause as u said he loves u so much so i don't tink breaking up him will just be dat easy....
take care!!!
2006-08-06 00:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
escape
this relationship is not going to work.
2006-08-05 23:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋