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2006-08-05 23:39:14 · 31 answers · asked by Sky 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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WTF??!! Why are so many people saying that "most" men are sleazes? As Gareth rightly points out, who knows *all men* anyway? (It's just a shame he was tempted to resort to generalising about all women too and that only old-fashioned rules about gentlemanly conduct stopped him.)

How do you define sleazy anyway? After all, one person's "sleaze" could be a welcome playmate to another. I think this, in itself, is a good reason for us all to treat *every* person we meet as an individual and take our interactions one step at a time depending, firstly, on context and then, most importantly, on what each new person tells us about her/himself. (Perhaps this is another good reason for upfront straight talking in situations where there isn't time to fully assess each other at leisure?) We won't always get it right but I reckon a friendly apology is usually a good antidote for a misread signal.

I guess one potential universal definition of a "sleaze" would be the kind of person who doesn't take "no" for an answer or who invades the personal space of the person they're attracted to without a thought for that person's desires or feelings. With this in mind, I'd say the obvious answer is that, no, not all men are "sleazes" because, of course, NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME!

True, society does seem to still tell men that their sexuality is mindlessly driven, objectifying and, perhaps, instinctively "sleazy" and this has an effect on how some men interact. However, surely that doesn't change the reality that every human being is a mixture of different genes, influences, experiences, prejudices and beliefs? Surely no two people ever live an *exact* mirror image of each other's lives from start to finish? That's why generalisations don't work.

All the synonyms for sleaze that are listed below seem to be connected to soiling or defiling and, IMO, this implies that a state of purity is to be idealised and that overtly sexual behaviour is automatically degrading. That seems pretty f**ked up to me.

Added: I'd be interested to know what Poster 22's definition of "sleaze" is. Okay, so he doesn’t care whether Sky likes his "sleaziness" but I assume (and hope) his lack of care doesn’t extend to the people he’s sexually interested in? Yes, the “sleaze” label does seem rather “immature” when thrown at anyone (particularly a man) who dares to show an active interest in sex. However, IMO, a lack of regard for the people we’re attracted to would hardly count as a mark of maturity either.

2006-08-06 01:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 4 · 1 1

How do you all know that "ALL MEN" are sleaze..do you know every single male on this entire planet? this sort of question isn't worth bothering with...you know that all men are not sleaze...is every man violent?..is very man a pervert?...does everyman beat up is wife or girlfriend?...does every man laze around the house and does nothing with the household choirs?..does every man come home drunk out his mind?..I really do think you need to get out more..I could say some things about women, but I am a gentleman and will keep these to myself

2006-08-06 07:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm not sleaze and am not living in denial, u just not meeting the right sort of guy. Try not looking in night clubs

2006-08-06 06:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Robert W 2 · 0 0

I am a man. I will concede that there are a lot of bad seeds amoungst us. We can thank our brother Ted Bundy and John Wayne Gacy for this. However, most of us are decent, honest, hardworking and are good fathers, husbands, and friends to others. You just don't hear about us because since we don't kill, maim or engage in balatantly deviant behavior. Therefore we will never make the news.

Besides, since there are more females in this country than there are men, doesn't it stand to reason that there are equally as many sleazy women as there are men?

2006-08-06 06:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0 0

Na women are brought up to expect them to be sleaze, and build them into sleaze most of the time!! If you think they are all sh!t then you will find sh!t things in them and miss the good!
But's that's just my womanly opinion :)

2006-08-09 20:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by janni 2 · 1 0

I take it you've been badly treated by some guy to ask this question, I can only say no but a lot are our job or mission in life is to find that rare diamond among so much fake bling that really knows how to treat us ladies. Don't let one guy being a pig ruin your chances of love with someone who is great.

2006-08-06 06:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0 0

What an insane question! I suppose i should be insulted by that, iv just been dumped or cheated on attitude but i will rise above it. The answer is no , i am not sleazy & my partner & soulmate will confirm that! you just have to find the right guy for you & that may never happen if you keep this bitter taste in your mouth.

2006-08-06 11:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

no not all of us are. unfortunately the guys with the biggest mouths and loudest chat usually are and give the rest of us a bad image. Also many men don't want to appear to be weak in front of other men so join in with the chat and attitude even though its not what they actually believe.

2006-08-09 07:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by shortarsetitch 2 · 1 0

I just respectfully suggest that you are mixing with the wrong sort of fellas. Is no use wanting A "BAD BOY" and then expecting him to be the perfect lover.

2006-08-06 11:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1 0

Its a part of their genetic make-up I reckon! Some try to hide it, but deep down their all the same!

2006-08-06 06:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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