someone please help!!?

Question

Im depresed. I dont know what to do. I have recently and through out my whole life been through alot.I just had my b/f brake up with me then meet another guy who only has one thing on his mind. My family is going through alot and im feel sad and i always cry about stuff. Im not sayin i want to take my life i just need someones advise or how can i get over this. I dont feel like the same person inside anymore i want to change that but i dont know how. So please help.

Answer 1

you need to go to a phyciatrist if you think you are depressed,,there, you can talk about it ad maybe get medicine to get back 2 normal

Answer 2

Hey Jessie, you dont feel the same person inside because you are not. Experiences both good and bad change us, our thoughts, way of thinking and way of living and that is called Life. The great line in your question is ".... i want to change it.... " which goes to show that you still have the fire in you, the spark to live and be happy.
The best i can tell is from my own experience. Have had all sorts of bad stuff. 2 bad marriages, parents death, financial peoblems, another parent with cancer, career breakdown. What kept me going was the following facts: Despite all the bad things, it could have been worse, i could loose a limb, i get up evey morning and open my eye and am able to see, walk on my feet, have a roof on my head and food on my table, there are people who dont have that. I have education and can earn aliving and above all a mind that is not dead, it still want to fight and has the desire to live, just like Yours.
b/fs, g/fs they come and go. I agree that while they are coming and going it can be painful but it should not make you depressed - its just not worth it. Besides if the b/f is such a creep, why sheed tears for them.
Next, crying is ok - we all do, lots of it.

Experiences and hardships change us. I dont know how old you are and what sort of problems you and your family are facing but maybe the following suggessions can help.
1. If you are a teen and there are financial problems, parents breaking, illness in family, etc - you as a member can only do so much. If you are a student you can not give indefinate financial support or if the parent are breaking, its their differnece and you can do nothing about it. Yes its a bad sanerio to be in but tell yourself that its not your doing and you cant do much to change it and thus keep your ife going.
2. Go out - be with friends - laugh - as much as you can.
3. Most important: Count your blessings (pls dont take it the wrong way, im sure your problems are serious) but our blessings are usually far more than our problems. Seriously ponder on the fact that if you didnt have each of the blessings what would life be like.

Counting my blessings kept my head above the waters at all times and i truly hope that it works for you to.

Remember, God (i believe in him) only gives as much problems as we can sustain and not more and he is much closer to you in difficult times.

All the best!

Answer 3

Began by set goal for your life, not just goals to reach in the future but gaols for each day. Start by focus your life on other thing, school, work anything that take up lot of your time and keep your mind busy. Make sure it around lots of people. each time complete a goal tell yourself you did a good job.Find something that make you feel better and focus on that. if you feel like crying then cry. Crying is the way the body cleans the mind and they soul. If you still feel sad, try finding a counselor who will talk with you, not just give you meds.It will take time but you will start to feel better about yourself after that then you can focus on your family. When you feel better and happy it will make you more beautiful to the guys and be careful who you pick. It hard will be hard work for sometime but in the end it will be worth it. Check on-line about depression there lot thing you can do at home to fell better. Hope thing go well with you.

Answer 4

Jesse, I know that life really hurts right now but the pain will go away in time. Try to find fun things to do with friends to take your mind off the things that is bothering you. You will find another boyfriend that is interested in you for more than sex, just be patient. You are a good person and someone is going to love you for who you are. Sometimes bad things that happen to us in life that changes us, but it also help us to get stronger and builds character. You are a better person now for going through something hard then you where before, accept this new person you have become and learn how to love and appreciate her. My best advice is to distract your self with other things, that makes you happy. Think of 10 things that makes you happy and do it everyday until you feel whole again. If you want to talk email me and I will just listen when you need it and give advice when you ask for it. OK )-:

Answer 5

I'd say enjoy your pain in a healthy way. Explore your feelings, comfront your fears and your frustrations as if they were talking to you right to your face. Do it alone. Think you are strong and you will be. Tell yourself this every time you remember, from time to time if you cry way too much, say it's enough, wash up, get your hair done, put some makeup on and feel pretty. It may seem superfluous but when we at least try to look our best it kinda cheers us up. If you can, go out to the beach, or to a park and feed some birds. Get busy, don't stay doing nothing, cuz bored people tend to read too much into things and make them look worse than they really are, so work a lot, clean your house (it helps me clear my head, and clear the dust). Ask for support in friends and family, but don't cling to them like you can't deal with your problems. Cry with them if you can but don't drag them down with your depression because people around us care about us but they don't want to be dragged, and most likely they just want to see us happy and strong. Seek for balance in your life. Excercise. Eat well. Don't smoke or drink too much. When life throws really harsh things at us it is a time to develop character. You are the forger of your condition. You choose what you make out of this situation. Be strong, have some b als and move on. This will happen again, and maybe when it does, you'll be able to handle it like it's nothing. Wish you strength.

Answer 6

You appear to be suffering from depression and need to visit your gp asap and describe your feelings with them so they can assess your symptoms and prescribe the correct medication or course of counselling for you. Get out with your friends even tho you don't feel like it and try and do the things you used to enjoy this may be enough to lift your mood alone overtime. Also it is known that exercise is a good way of naturally releasing happy chemicals in the brain but when you are low this is the last thing you feel like doing just giving you some ideas. I would recommend visiting your gp and booking a double appointment so you have time enough to discuss how you truly feel.

Answer 7

Hello. I understand what your going through, I have been depressed since I was 14 and I currently got help for it. I too cried over every little thing. First thing you must do is admit to yourself that you are depressed. Then you must admit to yourself that you do need help with it. If you don't get help with this, you will feel like your living in a dark world by yourself. You need to contact your PC doctor, and get the help that you need. It will not get better, it will only get worse, and you will think about things and try things that you never want to do. Remember that you are not alone, there are many women out there that are suffering from this, you just have to get the nerve to do something about it. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to e-mail me and we can talk. Just sit down, try to relax, think about the people around you that love you and care for you. Remember that some things happen that are out of your control. I hope that this helped you, and like I said, if you wish to talk with someone who knows it all to well e-mail me. Take care and keep your head up!

Answer 8

hi im sorry that your bf broke up with you and the other one isnt what you had in mind either, i know breaking up sucks no matter how old you are. This situations are not permanet they are only temp. take one hour at a time,find someone you are close to and tell them how you feel, it sucks being depressed,what your doin as far as the bf situation is your greiving over the lost,its normal and unfortunately that wicked word time comes up. talk to friends, an adult you trust,if you go to church a pastor, maybe even a counselor, you just need to vent, and just make a list of the pro and cons. i wish you well,ill be praying for you take care, i know you will be ok.just hang in there.

Answer 9

I too have gone through a lot lately..and the only thing that kept me going, was my undying love for God and Jesus, and trying to please Them. It is easy to look at life out of context. There are more people out there worse off than us...when we get down like this, it is time to stop and smell the roses...start trying to count your blessings, and look around to try to help those worse off than you...you are just hurting now, and thank God you still have feelings and care....find out what you can do to try to make things better, and don't worry about the boy friends...sometimes that can be a blessing in disguise...just when you think they don't care, someone else comes along, and you are happy you are single lol God Bless you sweet heart, and I hope you pray to thank the Lord each day for good health, intellegence, and a loving family...Give it to the Lord, and He will work it out.

Answer 10

You need to go see a psychiatrist and possibly a counselor. The pyschiatrist can give you medication that can help and the counselor can give you a listening ear. Some medications have different reactions to different people so, you may need to go them regularly to find the best one for you. Some antidepressants that are widely used are cymbalta, effexor, lexapro, paxil, symbax, wellbutrin, and zoloft. Discuss with your doctor and see what will work best for you. Hang in there...it will get better.

Answer 11

Jessie, it's OK to be depressed as long as you realize that it cannot last forever. Just as we have the emotional need to mourn the loss of a loved one, we also have the emotional need to be sad about certain things. And our teen years are the worst. And teenage girls seem to handle it worst of all. Everything from boyfriends to popularity can cause teenage girls to shed a flood of tears. But the important thing to remember is that it will pass. Just have the faith that tomorrow you'll feel better.