LADIES!! If your fiance gave you an engagement ring that used to be his grans, would you be happy or mad?

Question

Or any other relation of his. Or would you rather go and choose your own?

It is only a rhetorical question.

Actually it's our Ruby (40th) wedding anniversary tomorrow (12th) and I chose my own engagement ring. I was just wondering what other girls would do.

Answer 1

when I first got engaged my partner gave me an engagement ring belonging to his gran it was horrible to big as well .I was not happy, i felt second hand. I told him i didnt want to hurt his feelings but it wasnt me to big i wanted a dainty one, i got it. Tho his idea was it was passed down heirloom and we would be together for ever, if not would go back any way.I asked him put it away or get it made into something else for our child . Well we're divorced his new fiance has it. You have towear the ring so you should have a choice.

Answer 2

If it had sentimental meaning it would be a lovely gesture, but personally I would still rather choose my own engagement ring (as I did!) as we all have different tastes in jewellery.

An engagement ring is something that you will wear for the rest of your life, so it should be something you are happy with and really like. That might be an heirloom, or it might be something you've picked together or something that he's chosen based on your tastes.

Answer 3

I would be extremely happy ..as it is a personal part of his families line .. even if the ring was only valued at 20 bucks it belonged to his gran.. and is something to pass down to your children when the time come

I wear my grandmothers ring as my wedding ring after my husband had it shipped from the USA to Australia and repaired which cost him heaps . Its over 100 years old.. .. its not the ring your marrying its the man .. If the ring is more important you don't deserve the man..

Answer 4

Well, I would not be mad because:
1. It's a family heirloom.
2. He didn't have to sell his car to get one.
3. A diamond is a diamond. If you don't like the setting you can always change it...but keep the setting as you may want to put a different stone in it at some later point in your life and make a "pinkie" out of it...perhaps for a future daughter for her 16th birthday.
4. If you knew how diamond were mined and how the price of them are controlled by DeBeers to keep the value up your conscience would not let you let him purchase one. (Bet you never heard that fact before).
5. You should be glad he is not going into debt...save your money for a house.
6. Your friends won't be wowed but it but they won't be impressed by any diamond ring unless its a bigger rock than they have...or worse they think he loves you less.
Be happy you got Gram's ringl...and you have someone who loves you.

Answer 5

happy - old gold is a lot more pure and worth more money that new gold and more importantly he trusts YOU with his family heritage. If your problem is with the design rather than the fact that it is his grans why not tell him you appreciate it and think it is wonderful, but that you would be sooooo scared of losing it would he mind if you kept it for special occasions and that you chose an 'everyday' engagement ring between you which could be replaced if the worst happened.

Answer 6

Let's hope this ring is beautiful + that it is a treasured family heirloom. If it's not, perhaps you can gently steer him to another saying tactfully how lovely it is but it is so not you & you want to be able to wear it. Start the relationship as you mean to go on, with openness + honesty. Also although there are many rules of thumb on the value of ring, remember you still have to eat after the marriage, so best not to blow the budget on a bauble

Answer 7

once I first study your question, i assumed it exchange into stupid. Upon analyzing, I completely comprehend. My boyfriend is in lots of situations the comparable way, although we're not engaged yet. as an occasion, for Christmas 300 and sixty 5 days he offered his ex-female pal a hair straightener.. from Goodwill and he does particularly properly for himself. subsequently i do no longer think of you're unreasonable to be disenchanted a pair of 2d hand ring. that's not that i could recommendations a pawn shop ring, yet whilst that's just to be decrease priced, that's different. If I have been you, i could clarify that that's rather considerable to you and how it hurts your thoughts. enable him understand that if he's taking the region heavily, this ring is a lots longer investment than the truck he purely offered.

Answer 8

i think this is a lovely idea but if my fella did give me this it would have to be cleaned And given to me in nice box. As the thought as gone into it. Just think about your fiancee has given you something so sentimental as a family ring. Some people may say this is cheap and thoughtless but it's not really if he proposes to you in a nice romantic way i don't mean spent loads like a classy restaurant something from the heart is always great. Not the way my hubby proposed (While we was making love) it spoilt the moment. Just remember if you are going to propose do it from the heart, if she does love you and she doesn't flip from given you her your grans ring than she is your perfect wife. But if she does all she cares about is money and materialistic things (sorry i ramp led on) GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

She must have been a wonderful woman who loved him dearly for him to want you to wear her ring, some families have a tradition of passing on a family heirloom to their intended, I think in one respect its very nice but in another you should be asked first if its what you really want, though at the end of the day a ring is only a ring, the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with is more important.

Answer 10

I would think thats its very nice and be honoured to wear it. Any girl who wouldnt is being selfish. A guy doesnt have to buy a girl a ring to get engaged. If a ring is that important then the marriage is screwed before it even starts.