I sensed that this guy I met on line a few months ago is disappointed by the way I look. I've told him a few times that it's fine if he wihes to stop writing me. He's still in touch with me, although he's told me that he doesn't find me very pretty. I know what his type of woman is, and I definitely am NOT his type. I just would like to ask you if you think he's trying to be polite not to stop wrirting me, but he will eventually stop writing me. If you were me, what would you do in such a situation? Would you tell him that you don't want to waste your time on him? Or would you wait for him to take action first? Please, I only need SERIOUS answers. Thanks a lot for your input.
p.s. He once told me that he only wanted an intelligent online friend.
2006-08-05 22:12:56 · 11 answers · asked by danielle s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. I'm going to keep in mind that it's easy to become overly critical of yourself and sell yourself short when I answer this. I'm not sure how long ago it was that he started seeing pictures of you, but just because he hasn't complimented you doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. I would give it time. I understand the feeling of not wanting to waste your time when you don't even know if that person would ever be with you, but that's just part of being single. If, in time, he doesn't give you so much as a hint as to what he thinks of you, then you could start poking or prodding gently? That's my advice to you. Honestly though, what I'd do is, if in time he didn't give me a hint as to what he thought of me, I'd ask him quite bluntly. Have him size you up and don't let him become casually evasive. Don't be mean or anything, just don't accept anything less than a complete answer. Not just a reply. I wish you the best in whatever happens.
2006-08-05 22:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg, this guy is a jerk. he told you he didn't think you're very pretty, but then you wonder if he's trying to be polite by continuing to write to you?!!! and he "only wants an intelligent online friend"... he wants something else, believe me.
please stop writing to him. find someone else to talk to, male or female, online or not. heck, spend your time here on Yahoo answers! there are tons of nice people here (and yes, some jerks like your 'friend')
I read this great story about this girl who got stood up on a date. the guy emailed her with his excuse, said he was sorry, etc. so her friend had her email the guy a picture of some cat wearing a sweater. that's it. no message with it, nothing. he emailed her back and asked her what that meant. all she did was email the picture of the cat again. the guy was totally confused and freaking out a little. it was hilarious! maybe try something like that?
2006-08-05 22:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking for a friend then your looks shouldn't matter to him, like you said he told you once he was only looking for an intelligent on line friend. Do you feel degraded knowing that he doesn't find you pretty? Does he hurt your feelings about not being pretty to him? If he does hurt your feelings then I would say don't even be there as a friend you need to do what's best for you and that includes not getting put down by knowing that he thinks you're not pretty. You don't deserve this treatment by any man if hes hurting your feelings.
2006-08-05 22:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In such cases the first reaction counts, so you might be knowing the first reaction of your guy. If it was not at all good, then in that case you have to be strong enough to accept that.
Now regarding the communication later on, not good for you, the best way is to straight away say no, and if he still continues to communicate then stop replying, one day he would also stop communicating. I know it is hard, but being hard now is good for you in order to avoid the complexity later on.
2006-08-05 22:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he is just trying to be polite.As for not finding you attractive that is a bit harsh because after all he was the one who only wanted an intelligent online friend.As for what you look like that should have nothing to do with it.I am a man and looks don't mean anything to me as it is the person inside that really matters.if I was you I would go looking for someone who wants you for who you are.
2006-08-05 22:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you expecting something which you already know the answer. He didn't even lie to you coz he already said he only wanted an intelligent friend online and let that be that way.
2006-08-05 22:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by hanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's looking for a friend, then what does it matter how you look? unless he's looking for a girlfriend I don't see how it matters. Now, if he's made you upset or uncomfortable, then stop writing to him. If you want to continue being friends, feel free. If not, it's your choice. But I don't see how your looks make any difference in the situation
2006-08-05 22:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realy have nothing better to do than worry about if this guy is writting you out of pitty? If your not happy with the way the "relationship" is going, move on to better.
2006-08-05 22:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by pike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t be affraid. You`ll find your prince when you expect less.
Don`t worry,everythink it`s ok.If he doesn`t want you,so be it.
He loses.Don`t waste your time.Go on! Succes and God bless you.
2006-08-05 22:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by mar9rox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that maybe he still talks to you because he finds you easy to talk to. and who knows maybe he'll come by and tells you he likes you. Just wait and see what happens. I would wait and see what comes out of it.
2006-08-05 22:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by gisselldalatina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋