What to do about a mouthy sister in law? Serious answers only please?

Question

My sister in law is a beautiful, intellegent women. Until she has a couple of drinks. Then she has a mouth like a drunken sailor. Every other word is F***. I have asked her to please watch her language because we have children, and children tend to repeat what they hear. She just ignores me. Any suggestions on another way to handle this situation. We have a big family BBQ coming up and there will be beer & wine. And I am dreading her mouth?

Answer 1

Don't have beer and wine. And if asked, say it's because ____ can't handle drinking around children. That should shame her into behaving better.

Answer 2

If she ignores your request to watch her mouth. You could try talking to your brother, maybe she will listen to him. Do they have kids? You might have to just be tough and tell them that you would rather they not attend your family get together. I am sure if there are other people there with children they probably won't appreciate her language any more than you do. I have a cousin that everyone quit inviting to get togethers for the same reason. I wish you the best of luck. Sometimes family issues like this can be very hard to deal with.

Answer 3

No Drinks at your house when she's there! It's YOUR and your husbands house right ?
I say don't have an alcoholic drinks, there are plenty of things your family can sip on other than beer and wine!

Answer 4

by not serving the beer and wine as suggested, you will be "punishing" everybody, because of one person, perhaps either warning her beforehand that her trash talk wil not be tolerated, or set up a "cuss box" and "fine" her for every potty mouth word she uses and tell her that your intent is to put it towards your kids' collegfe education because you want them to learn from a better source than she is.
OR, just dont invite her, asnd when she inquires as to why she wasnt, then flat out tell her.

Answer 5

Let it be known to the other family members that you are keeping your distance from her when she drinks because you find her language disturbing especially when it comes to your kid, you will not allow your kids to be subjected to the filth that comes out of her mouth. Either they respect you for this and back you up or they don't, that's entirely up to them. Just keep your distance from her.

Answer 6

i no wot you mean love i know a couple of close people who do the same,try having a word wi your fella,or if that fails ,when she starts getting drunk trick her,water her drinks down,give her something that looks and tastes like alcohol but has none in it, somone i know feeds them up hand her a plate of food and act like ur offened if she dont eat, good luck in laws are hard work- i no all about it.

Answer 7

Try recording her behavior and show it to her when she is in the middle of her hang over the next day. She should feel sick about herself and if that don't work, don't invite her to parties anymore and (straight up) tell her why.

Good luck.

Answer 8

i will think of you do not recommend "seducing" In a sexual way for the reason this is faulty and gross, i will assume you meant getting them to love you, in basic terms be superb, handle them with recognize, maybe get them a considerate present and maximum of all handle their sister with love and recognize, which will win them over any day

Answer 9

if i were you i would let her drink at the family bbq and video tape her bad behavior then play it to her when she is sober just to show her maybe then she will listen .

Answer 10

People like this only respond to drastic measures. You may have to do something that will humiliate her like getting as many people as you can to tell her to shut up or leave.