Why do people say?

Question

I dont mean to be rude but...and then usually say something rude.If you dont want to be rude then shouldnt you find a better way of saying something or not say it at all,"if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all" does anyone remeber that?
why dont people just say "this is rude but.."and say what they want to?Why do they have to pretend they are not being rude when in actuality they are

A few of you arent getting it.Imnottaking about telling someone their fly is undone or that they have soemthing in their teeth.I mean rude things those things and the girl who mentioned clothes tabs they arent rude.I mean rude as in obscene or hurtful

Answer 1

Sherry Baby some people just do not have a grasp of the English language or a vocabulary larger than their IQ. this is their way of hiding their ignorance.
By the way, that's one hot avatar you got.

Answer 2

Hi Sherry. Sometimes we come across difficult situations (while in a group/public or private meeting) when we need to "actually" put forth our views to the group which, you know, would be deemed rude/inappropriate to the group. During such times one can take the easy way out by not making that statement no matter how important it could turn out to be. Being bold enough to make such unpleasant comments does require some amount of diplomacy and hence the phrase, "I dont mean to be rude but..." Not everyone uses it to cover their rude intentions but yes, it could be misused. I guess we need to be more effective when we use it, and if you're an affable person no one would misunderstand you for using it.

Answer 3

They need to be politically correct, which strips us of our sense of respect through honesty. Political correctness has contributed to us building walls and fences around ourselves, therefore making us unable to hear what people have to say. The fact that they say something does not mean that it always applies. It may be their truth, but no one should characterize oneself by what others say. It takes some getting over ourselves too. The question I am wondering about is when someone says that, how many come back with the following: "I think that is rude of you!".

Answer 4

Yeah, I just mentioned this in a question recently myself. It seems one of the things we have here is an opportunity to learn diplomatic ways to ask questions and voice opinions. Just because you disagree with someone is no reason to start calling him filthy names. Just state your disagreement.

The Community Guidelines give us just that -- guidelines -- in how to treat each other with good manners. But we need to go one step further. Every time you write an answer that disagrees with the apparent attitude of the asker, make it a point to realize that you will not have your answer chosen as best unless you can be so very diplomatic that you persuade the asker to change his opinion. That isn't going to happen if you flame all over him. State your case as convincingly as you can, and imagine yourself in a courtroom where there is a judge to charge you with contempt of court if you don't say it politely.

Answer 5

Some people try to be polite when they are saying things they may think that what they are saying is rude to the other person, when in reality it may not be. It also depends on the tone of voice of the person if he or she is polite or rude.

Answer 6

I prefer to punch them in the face right after they say I don't mean to be rude. This way not only do they become rude, the completely forget what they wanted to say.

Answer 7

Now, I really HATE to be rude, but...(and please don't take this the wrong way!)

Sometimes people just need to hear the truth, and many times, the truth is just not nice. As a matter of fact, nothing hurts like it, which is why some people opt out for the lie. But, think about it - would you really want your best friend to lie to you about something of crucial importance to you - just to spare your feelings for the moment? Be rude, please, and tell me when my clothes are unzipped, or let me know if I have something "unseemly" on my face! Or, if I'm acting like a jerk (drunk? mad?) let me know, please!

Answer 8

I think they put that out almost like a verbal disclaimer. Is something I dislike too, mostly rude people in general but ones who try and pretend they're not are worse......
"My hand doesn't really want me to slap you but.........."

Have a nice day :)

Answer 9

If you ask the question straight out, it's rude.
When people say "I don't mean to be rude but,..." that's a way of letting people know they don't want to be misunderstood when asking such difficult questions like that. (Because they don't want to be rude when they can't think of a politer way of expressing the awkward question.)

Answer 10

It's the most fifficult thing in life ; to understand your self .
That's why young people seem inpolite , rude .
We need long time to play beautiful music !
We need long time to choose the right words for the right place !

Answer 11

What so when you have your tags hanging out you don't want someone to say I don't mean to be rude I just noticed your dress has its tag sticking out.

Sorry you must be the type of person who can afford clothes without tags.