I'm 22..Live at home, and i'm an only child. I've recently found a lovely man and we have been seeing eachother for over a month now...he lives 50 miles away from me and i go to see him every night after work....i love his company so much, sometimes i don't get back home until 1am, then last night we went clubbing and i didn't get in until 3am....my parents go crazy...they think 2am is unreasonable and say i should be in for midnight...also i shouldn't see him every night...in fact my dad sat up and waited for me until 1am last week.....i'm an adult and capable of making my own decisions...are they overprotective, i'm annoyed they try to interfere in my life.
2006-08-05 21:04:35 · 22 answers · asked by Liz S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents will ALWAYS be your parents. Your Mom will always be that control-freak with you. And your Dad will always be the overprotective "No man is good enough for my daughter" type. The fact that your living under their roof makes it worse. I personally don't think they should have a say in what you do with your personal life. Especially since you're working (and probably paying rent I hope??). BUT it is their house. Their rules. Their daughter. So is it right? I don't think so. Do they 'have the right'? Yes.
2006-08-05 21:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO U PAY RENT? IF SO THEN THEY R NOT TREATING U LIKE AN ADULT ...IF U DON'T PAY RENT THEN YES THERE R TREATING U EXACTLY LIKE THEY SHOULD....HERE IS MY OPINION U R 22...U LIVE AT HOME..THEY LOVE U RIGHT? IF U HAVE A JOB MOVE OUT IN THE LONG RUN IT WILL BE BETTER 4 U TO BECOME MORE INDEPENDENT....U LOVE TO BE WITH HIM AND THAT'S O.K. BUT U PARENTS R OLDER AND THEY THINK MORE OF ALL THE BAD THAT CAN HAPPEN TO U ...U THINK OF ONLY THE GOOD...WHY CANT HE COME OVER AND MEET THEM THAT MIGHT HELP THEM IF THEY SEE AND MEET HIM...NOT ALL PARENTS R OVERBEARING THEY JUST LOVE THERE KIDS AND R DOING WHAT IS GOOD 4 THEM...U R A PARENT 4 THE REST OF YOU LIFE...AS U WILL BE THERE DAUGHTER 4 THE REST OF YOURS!!
2006-08-06 04:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you need to consider moving out. Look at this from you parents point of view. If you are traveling 50 miles every night after work (when you are probably tired) then you are an accident waiting to happen. I am sure your parents probably worry a lot for your safety. Next, coming in at that time of the night is simply inconsiderate to your parents or anybody else you would be living with. It disrupts their sleep. And you are doing it every night. That is being selfish. You are placing your desires above the needs of others. Despite that though, it sounds like they are at least offering to let you be disruptive to them on occasion, just not every night.
So, overall if you don't want your parents to interfere with your life then you need to get on with your life. You are 22 years old and it is time for you to move on and move out.
2006-08-06 04:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your 22 and still live with your parents. If your capable of making your own decisions why are you still living with them. If you don't like the idea of them being concerned about you then find your own place. You should be glad that they care about weather your OK or not. What if you break down on the side of the road?! WHO ARE YOU GOING TO CALL YOUR BF OR YOUR DAD? I bet you call your dad. So he has ever right to stay up to make sure your ok. If you feel they are interfering with your life then get a place of your own. If you can't afford one then have some respect for your parents since your living under their roof and do what they ask.
2006-08-06 04:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes your parents are overprotective; the best thing you can do is move out. However, parents that are overprotective usually never stop being like that, no matter where you go. There is really nothing you can do about that. You can try to talk to them, but unless they want to change there's nothing you can do. I'm 28 and my parents still act crazy about everything!!
2006-08-06 04:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't get any better when you get older with parents like that. I'm 35 and my folks still do that to me when I stay with them. Unfortunately, it IS their house, and they are allowed to set their own rules. I know you're of age, but the only way to fix it may be to move out. I do understand - it's frustrating and embarrasing to be treated like a child, but I've never been able to get mine to change or stop interfering.
2006-08-06 04:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for you but no matter how old you are, it is still their house and you have to follow their rules. When you grow up and have children of your own you understand this too. They are not being overprotective, or trying to annoy you for fun, they are being responsible.
2006-08-06 04:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by LELA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not the problem that your 22 and stay at home the problem is your not doing what your told and you stay in their home you need to try and respect their rules if you feel your grown than you need to move out and do whatever you want ,oh but the reason they do this is because they love you and dont wanna see anything happen to their child i think maybe thats the reason you havent left the nest you like it till they dont let you do what you wanna my advice GROW UP
2006-08-06 04:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a talk. Sit your parents down and talk to them rationally. Explain to them the situation and how you feel. Hopefully, they'd understand. You should also bring your man and introduce them to him.
And no matter how old you are, so long as you have parents, they'd constantly hover and "interfere" with your life ((;
2006-08-06 04:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by xxon_23 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, move to your own place, at 22, you should be on your own anyway. Do this and your family will not be so concerned about your personal life.
2006-08-06 04:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋