I am a professional, Ivy-league educated woman who considers myself to be a very liberal, open-minded person who believes in freedom of choice and equality. That having been said, I love black men and I've found that I'm naturally not attracted to men of other races (particularly white or asian men). For me , this is a very subconscious thing and I don't feel I have a racist bone in my body. Though a few white men over the years have tried to date me or expressed an attraction -- I had little to no attraction to them. There was no spark. It felt forced. I just have a preference for black men I love bronze to dark brown skin tones and tall, muscular frames and deep, baritone voices among other things. I think I also might like black men because they are more familiar to me and they share more of my interests/cultural connections. When my white girlfriends go "ga ga" over Brad Pitt I am drooling over Denzel. I wonder if anyone else can share what their dating preferences are and why?
2006-08-05 20:47:50 · 17 answers · asked by sweetintelligentmusiclover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people are attracted to men or women that have some attributes of their mother and father. It's a subconscious thing.
2006-08-05 20:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 16, black, and not racist; and I haven't been on a date/had a gf yet. But I live in a predominantly white town with a small amount of minorities, but only 10-15 black people (8 of them being guys). I have no attraction for the black girls AT my school, but would kinda prefer to find a black girl. My main target group while at this school, therefore, is white girls. The problem that I run into is that the white girls aren't really into the idea of dating a black guy. But yea, I see what you're saying; and I would answer Halle Berry to "Who do you think is the hottest?" over anybody else.
My advice to you is to keep yourself open. You may be in a situation similar to mine where one group of people just isn't attractive. If you expand your search area to include the surrounding area (as I'm trying to do), you'll find that there are plenty of people from ALL races that are attractive. (I just hope I find them).
Good luck!
2006-08-05 21:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between having a preference and being attracted to a certain type of person and saying that you purposely do not date a race. That, my friend, would be racist then. However, I love black men. I am more attracted to them than any other race but I do not limit myself. There are very beautiful Asians, Latinos, White boys, etc. I just know what I'm attracted to and it does have to do with how you were raised and also your environment.
2006-08-05 20:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've never had a full relationship outside my race, but I think it's mostly that I was raised mostly around my race and you're right about shared experiences. I think the main thing is that I wouldn't not date another race if I was attracted to the man. People are attracted to different things, you can't force it.
2006-08-05 20:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are fine. I am white and I've only dated white guys becaues I'm not attracted to men of other races. I have friends of other races and I don't see a problem with dating whoever you want. If someone else is attracted to someone of a different race, that is fine with me. Whatever floats your boat.
2006-08-05 20:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Erin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer date exterior of my race with the aid of fact i'm purely no longer attracted to a different race. i'm no longer racist that's in basic terms a decision ingredient. interior of my very own race I choose dark hair and dark eyes yet i'm no longer racist against easy hair and easy-weight eyes.
2016-10-01 12:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm..if you don't date someone because you're not attracted to them, well its ok, what can you do? But if you don't date someone because of their race, then you have a problem.
We all have preferences, and generally follow a pattern with the people we date, its interesting though that you think in terms of black/white/asian.... Like for example do you ever wonder if you date only taller/shorter guys? slim/heavy guys? you probably dont think twice about it in being discriminatory do you?
2006-08-05 20:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean but I date men outside my race all the time. I don't concider myself racist but I don't feel attracted to black or white men. I also feel forced. I've dated asian and latin guys and I prefer them. I have many friends that are white and black but, like I said, I don't feel attracted to them and I don't concider it to be wrong. I mostly date guys that are half and half. My bf right now is half Mexican and half British. I love to learn about their countries.
2006-08-05 20:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Athena 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'll date anyone that I'm interested in that i see has a good head on their shoulder and they're trying to do good for them self and just as though you feel your not a racist its because your not everybody is entitled to choose who their attracted to on whatever basis it is that your attracted to them oh but the reason i can date anyone is because I'm attracted to all types of people
2006-08-05 21:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont date outside my race because theres no physical attraction, plus how many minorites are in South Dakota anyways
2006-08-05 20:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by j@mE$ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋