My boyfriend and I love each other very much. Lately though, he doesn't seem to desire me. He says it's not me, that he's just too tired all the time. I cry all the time because I feel unpretty/ unwanted/ undesired. I am really good looking and many guys want me except the guy I need to want me the most. I can't live my life feeling this way, but I love him too much to let him go. We've talked about it, did no good. What now?
2006-08-05 20:24:42 · 13 answers · asked by Undesired Beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's cause we fight all the time, and he's gained weight..but that should just make it difficult for him to preform right? He should still look at me and want me like he did just months ago....I don't get it, but tired of crying..I'm pretty, he should just glance my way and want to take me then and there...I tried dressing up (fredricks of hollywood), talking to him about it, acting like I don't care...I am at a loss...bout to just give up.
I have a 4 yr old who loves him to death and calls him daddy...
Not ready to let him go...
2006-08-05 20:43:50 · update #1
Depends on how old you are.
The worse thing to do to a guy is to MAKE him want you. And the tears don't work either. They are a big turn off.
You may be beautiful to look at, but you need strength and beauty inside. The fact that you are asking this question means that you are lacking some depth. Guys dig pretty girls but they also like girls/women who have their own reason in life. If you are so dependent on his attention to fullfill who you are, you will just spin your wheels. If he fells pressured to be your all, he will lose interest.
You love him too much to let him go????? You really think that love is like that? Sounds like you are smothering him. YOu are addicted to how he makes you feel when he give you attention...you want that guy back, the one who makes you feel good. You can't spend your life expecting a man to make you feel good. Feeling good comes from inside of yourself. A man can add to your personal happiness, but he can't be your reason for any of your personal happiness. Don't take a lifetime of hurts to learn that lesson.
If you have talked about it and things haven't changed. Hold your head up and move on.
2006-08-05 20:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, it seems that he's just not that in to you. He's right, though, when he told you that it wasn't you. It is him, and his problem. All the tears you may shed will not change this. You need to dry your eyes, thank him for the times you've had, and simply move on in your life. Reconnect with yourself, be happy in all that you do. Make friends, and keep them close. Your love for him should be strong enough to let him go if he is not truly happy with you. Is that not what we want in love? To be happy, and to make the other person happy as well? The greatest thing you can do, if someone is unhappy, is to set them free. Remember, though, that you are also setting yourself free from the burdon of tears, and the feelings of not being desired. You have just been dating the wrong person. You need to find the person that will work all day long, drive all the way home in traffic, be totally exhausted, yet walk through the door, and be ecstatic to see you. They do exist, so take heart. Love him enough to let him go, and free yourself as well. Good luck!
2006-08-05 20:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you and if you have kids or not but my husband used to go out and leave me with the kids all the time. He was taking me for granted so I started doing some small things that really made a change in his behavior.
I would send myself flowers with a secret admirer card. I'd get all dressed up and go out and make sure I didn't get home till I saw his car in the driveway and he started to worry about what I was doing. When he went out of town I would always get my hair done, buy a new outfit and pretend I wasn't home a few times just so he'd get the hint that two could play his game. Maybe this won't work for everyone but it sure worked for me . I have now been married 23 years. Good luck.
2006-08-05 20:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by sazu_llaevots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you talked about it and he answered, he said he was too tired all the time, if thats the only explanation youve been given and you dont wish to talk about it more (im betting theres more to it then that) then you have to work with that, figure out if theres anything you can do to reduce stress in his life , fatigue many times is a result iof stress rather then physical exertion, i know i get extremely tired when i am stressed out, so try doing things that are fun and get his mind off of whatever he might be stressing about or upset about, make him feel good about himself too, if you love him that shouldnt be a burden and you will benifit from it too because if hes feeling better he will most likely desire sex again and that will make you happy too (-:
2006-08-05 20:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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How do I make my boyfriend desire me?
My boyfriend and I love each other very much. Lately though, he doesn't seem to desire me. He says it's not me, that he's just too tired all the time. I cry all the time because I feel unpretty/ unwanted/ undesired. I am really good looking and many guys want me...
2015-08-04 05:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea. Jealousy is sometimes (however rarely) a great motivator. I think you should start flirting with me. We'll need some solid flirtatious material.
Then, and once realized, a self actualization might take place. In the meanwhile, let the games begin...:)
2006-08-05 20:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you guys need to get back to some basics. Get back to the original reasons why he wanted you. Maybe you were harder to get than some girls, play that angle again. Maybe he fell for your brains and how you made him laugh...set up a time where you can do that again. I think sometimes...when guys win something, they lose and miss the challenge of it. Maybe you should set up a scavenger hunt for him...of some sort, if that's a possibility. Make him fight to have you again; make him fight for what he wants. I hope you can figure it out! Good luck!
2006-08-05 20:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first get him awake and help him with extra work. Then you have to do other things for him like give him alot of gifts, and snuggle with him alot. That should keep him around and make him desire you alot more.
2006-08-05 20:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to attract the man that you want, you need to notice several important aspects so that you could reach your goal effectively. The first thing that you should do is becoming emotionally in tune with the man that you want to attract. If the man that you want feels that you are emotionally in tune with him, you could make him desire you easily without have to use too much effort. The next thing that you should do in order to attract the man that you want is establishing yourself as the most valuable assets in the mind of the man that you want. If you do this, the man that you want will always think about you and you could attract him in more effective way.
2015-01-13 00:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Being a man i am sayin dont be a cryee type atleast to ur guy. As every other guy, i also dont like cryee type girl. if u want to push on show ur ++uss not ur -uss
Bobby
2006-08-05 20:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby Diz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋