he left us when my baby was a week old then, and i just learned that he got another child from his past girl friend right after i gave birth her girlfriend concieve i guess we only have a few months apart. i let them do what ever they want specially on the part my husband. and all i know was he went to japan to his mother. he did not give my daugher anything on his part, i tried many times to oblige him for his resposibility to my daughter but he and his family refuse to do so.
2006-08-05 20:21:14 · 7 answers · asked by baby 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
In most states you can file a motion to have his parental rights taken away on the grounds of abandonment. Usually the court will try to contact him at his last known address, file a notice in the state newspaper, and if he still doesn't contact the court to object within a specific time frame they will grant you sole custody. Once that happens it would be VERY difficult for him to get his rights back.
On another note: Just be sure that you are reporting his failure to pay child support (to the state) and keep good records regarding his visits or lack thereof... If you have to go to court you will need specific dates. For example he had no contact with the child from Jan 06-Mar 06, etc.... Good records and specific dates will be very helpful if in a court case.
2006-08-05 20:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont oblige, ask, or beg... OBLIGATE.. contact the bar association for your area, they can recommend an attorney, may offer a free legal advice line, or know of some other way to get advice at a reasonable price. What you ideally want to do is go to court and get an order for support, dont worry if he doesn't show, that just means you win by default (he can fight it later but that would mean he would have to claim the babys isn't his, or that he is unable to pay,or whatever; regardless it is good for you since whatever it is will be a admission that he has no business having the child) on the downside if he starts making payments he could get an order for visitation but he can do that now anyway if he wanted to. On the plus side he will owe you this money until he pays it no matter if your child is grown and out of the house or not, and the state will go after it for you. The state will garish wages, sieze bank accounts if the ammount gets to high, they can even go after his tax refund, and they will
If you dont go that route just keep your nose clean, dont do anything that is going to generate a police report. Most states side with the mother unless the father can prove your a danger to the child.
2006-08-06 03:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is missing out on a wonderful opportunity to be a father. His family is also missing out and they will be the ones who are hurt in the end. How much ground do you think he would have to stand on if he were to fight for custody not having anything to do with her for this long. He would have to prove that he was a parent and involved somehow and obviously he is not. I would relax for now and try not to get upset about it at this point.
2006-08-06 03:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he paying support? If not he has never assumed any parental responsibility. The court would never allow someone to come in and take a kid out of the blue.
2006-08-06 06:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an attorney, and a DNA to prove he is the father and get money support from him. Be the best mom you can be. Take your daughter to her check-ups and shots, good day care if you work, stay clean and sober, and have witnesses that you take good care of her.
2006-08-06 03:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant take ur baby, if u go to court u will win, cause u have taken care of him, and as long u did good u wil be takeing the baby home if he watns to take it
2006-08-06 03:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Chi-Master-N-May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that loser cant take your child away no how!!!!
2006-08-06 11:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋