is it natural after a relationship with someone you really cared for, to feel completely useless with the opposite sex? you know what i mean, where you think "if that relationship didnt work, although it seemed perfect, what chance have i got next time"
2006-08-05 20:17:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesn't seem to be. because i know loads of people who can go in and out of relationships with ease. they have no problem.
2006-08-05 20:21:35 · update #1
please don't just answer to get the points. i'm not even talking to my friends about this and some people think they can write complete crap.
2006-08-05 20:28:09 · update #2
It`s completely natural,it`s takes a time to get over the end of any relationship.You need to stay off the dating scene for a while and need to get your confidence back.Try not to go to the places you both used to go to and don`t torment yourself over what could of been.You have got every chance of meeting and succeeding in your next relationship.I was married for 24yrs (half a lifetime) and he walked.Devastation and despair hit me like a planet,but I pulled myself together and met someone else 6months later and have been with him 8yrs and it is just as wonderful now,so don`t think you won`t meet anybody else because you will,believe me If an old lady like me can,so will you,you have youth and time on your side.Good luck!!
2006-08-10 00:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly couldn't tell you friend. I'm getting old and still haven't had a relationship. All I can say is that age old fortune-cookie wisdom, time heals all wounds. Sometimes I don't think I have a chance but I try anyway. You will probably always care for this person but it ended for a reason. Hoping to resurrect it may not be an option, so all you can do is move on and believe that the next one you meet will be better. I hope my answer helps you, in some way, find the answers you seek. Thank you for the 2 points, I wish you good luck with all this.
2006-08-10 00:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's completely natural. If I was really invested in a relationship that ends, I tend to go on a break. See if I can identify anything I could improve about myself for next time, get over thinking members of the opposite sex all suck, enjoy making myself happy. Eventually I find that I'm ready to try again, and the cycle continues. And it's actually rare for people that were really involved in a relationship to bounce into another serious one quickly. They tend not to last, or the first one wasn't as serious as it may have seemed from the outside.
2006-08-05 20:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's natural - your confidence is bound to take a serious knocking when a close relationship ends. You must feel really down and confused at the moment. It's important to remember, though, that this was only one relationship, and the fact that it failed certainly does not mean that you will never have a good chance at love again. Surround yourself with support if you can, and just take each day as it comes. Your self confidence will gradually come back in time.
2006-08-05 20:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by bookworm89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can be, When I split from my girlfriend I felt not useless but like i didnt really know who i was for a bit, in turn this meant it was not only difficult to meet girls but when given the chance felt a little intimidated. This could be due to the fact that when your with someone you get to know what they like what u like and how u work together, If you get used to this it can make it hard or maybe just a little intimidating to make that first step to having sex with someone else.
2006-08-05 21:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by lango_faldo_the_barefoot_dr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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It is natrual, you have made both internal and external commitments within it for a period of time, probably set mutual goals or have your own in mind, the loss of these can be very difficult, there is an element of loss of meaning, especially if you were unaware of difficulties within the relationship.
How you will react may as well be in part historical from the perspective of your past attachment history. For more information on 'attachment' try reading the work of John Bowlby from the late 50's on. A good book is listed below.
2006-08-05 22:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are all different so what is natural for one might not be for another. Your feelings are natural for you, you have lost your confidence in yourself. Give it a little time and start to date again but nothing too serious for a while.Gradually your confidence should start to come back. Just remember there is someone out there who is right for you, it might just take a little while to find them. Good luck
2006-08-05 21:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, according to my experience. When my first marriage ended it took me a good twelve months to even consider going out with a man again. It also took one or two good relationships to bring back my confidence in myself. I wish you luck - it's hard to start again, but there are some nice people out there, and I think you learn a lot when a relationship ends - about self reliance, and about not having ridiculously high expectations about your partner or your relationship.
2006-08-05 20:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are like coz they r on the rebound.. just trying to prove they can still get someone else so soon after a break up
2006-08-05 20:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i had to let someone go because he didn't care about me anymore and i feel so low but i don't know if you believe in true love but there is that one special person for everyone .
2006-08-05 20:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Janna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋