anyone else with a child that has adhd?

Question

does anyone else have a child with adhd if so how do u cope i really would like someone to talk about this with thats been there and/or going through it now by the way my son is 7

my son has already been diagnosed he has been for 2 years now he is on 36 mg of concerta i know the symptoms just wanting someone to talk to about all this every few months we have to up his meds a new symptom shows up this month it was running in the middle of traffic in other words doing what he know he shouldn't

Answer 1

Having a child with adhd is such a hard thing. No one understands him. He seems to get on everyone's nerves, including yours. The difference is you are his mother and it makes you feel guilty that even you can't understand him. Most of the time you feel sympathetic, the rest of the time you are as confused as he is. There are times you want to slap the stupid out of him, but you know that that isn't the right answer. So you wait and you pray. You feel hopeless and desperate to have a normal child. You try him in sports to help give him focus and spend energy, but the other kids are mean and just make it hard for him to cope. But these adhd children want acceptance so bad that they forgive the mean kids and the mean kids just turn around and hurt him again. You want what's best for him, you want to protect him from the mean children (and adults) in society, but, you also want him to learn from his mistakes in the hopes that he will actually learn from them. When does it end? Will he ever be normal? My son was diagnosed when he was 3 but I refused to put him on medications until the school made me when he was 5. He was on so many different medications and nothing seemed to work. Then, at age 12, he really messed up and the state put him in a juvenile center. At 14, almost 15, he is still locked up. I can tell a big difference in his behavior at this point. I do believe when he comes home he will be more relaxed. He stopped taking his meds about 5 months ago and I think he is actually growing out of the adhd. Of course, I am not around him much, so, I cant say that for sure.
I hope your situation doesn't turn out so grim. If there is one piece of advice I could give you... when he steals from you, or when he tells you a lie that you know is a lie, when he breaks the rules just to see what you will do, whenever you get through with whatever punishment you dwell out, give him love. Let him know how much you love him and don't be mad at him because most of these things seem to run together. And it's very important to find the good times. The times he isn't breaking the rules or acting like a moron... praise him in these times. I don't think I had enough patience with my son. I wish I could go back. But it's too late for that... Just have to move ahead and leave the what if's behind. Good luck and God bless you!

Answer 2

My son is 6 and was diagnosed with adhd and aspergers syndrome.He takes adderall during the day an the hardest thing for him was school but hes in a new school now specifically for children like him.My daughter is 4 and also has adhd,shes not as bad and only gets meds to help her sleep at night.Just consider it a gift.Sure its hard now but in the long run you both will be much stronger!

Answer 3

My oldest son has a.d.h.d.He was diagnosed at 7 years old but I knew before that. He is now 25 and still suffers from it. As a child he was put on ritalin(which I never liked) because the school pushed for it. I found that when he really acted up I would give him coffee or anything with caffein,,,it has the opposite effect on this type of child and would calm him down. I also never gave him anything sweet(candy,only diet pops) or with certain food dyes(red and yellow were the worst), you have to watch your child as you give him things to see how they effect him, somethings won't effect him but other things will make him spin.

Answer 4

My son now age 15 has adhd. was finally diagnosed in 3rd grade. Tried adderrall, ritilin, but the concerta, long acting form of ritilin, works best. We have to use 2X36mg/ day. yes, a whopping 72 mg. Sorry to the others, but caffiene just doesn't cut it. Yes, he has appetite problems, but he was finally able to learn, focus, and stay out of danger, out of traffic, etc. The neuropsychologist who did extensive testing told me that adhd always co-exists with something else, some other condition...IN my son's case it's motor control/ writing. He can't get ideas out of his head onto paper (writing) so i have a special ed plan to cope, (using an alpha smart for writing, using a graphic organizer to show what he knows... ask his teachers...giving his test answers verbally,with a scribe usually, unless it's multiple choice) he also has very mild aspbergers syndrome, (difficulty with social situations). So,the adhd your son experiences may be in addition to something else. The person who said diet is important is extremely right. try eliminating anything with additives and preservites, they seem to trigger worse adhd. Also, most important, add omega 3, it does wonders for his brain chemistry.. I'm lucky my son loves salmon. otherwise use supplements. Remember, adhd tends to run in families (I was diagnosed after/because of him) so don't do any blame game things. As he gets older, use therapy with someone who specializes in adhd.. they have great stratigies for coping, because although he'll mature and symptoms will smooth over in time, he'll always have adhd. therapist will help show how to use lists, how to time manage, and can help YOU cope too!!! there are great adhd websites out there, and support groups I strongly suggest going (just do an internet search for adhd support) good luck, I"ve been there, and it gets easier in time. peace be with you...p.s. ask to see the school psychologist and ask for books on adhd and any help or advice he/she can give you, or resources for you.
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Answer 5

I have been adhd since I was about ten.My mom always tryed to use reverse cycology and it sometimes worked.But once I seen she didnt punish me I did what I wanted.For a seven year old just use a light punishment and a bigger one each time he does the same thing again.As he gets my age he should do better, but youve got to help him in everyway possible. Play games with him and take him to places he wants to go.Let him be a kid , then if he acts up just tell him if he stops and is good you'll take him somewhere.Just dont spoil him. Set som rebounds and ground rules.Just do your best.

Answer 6

I sympathize with you. My son has a focus deficiency. Yes, it has been a long, hard road. My son is 12 years old now. Drugs can be so harmful. My son used to take adderall. He no longer takes any drug. I simply switched him to a biometric liquid vitamin. It has done him a lot of good. Check out this website: you will be amazed at what you learn. I was. www.3stepsadd.com

Answer 7

I don't know if my son does, but my cousin has it and he was VERY hyper, and we found that caffine helped him calm down and concentrate. Caffine has the opposite effect on children without ADHD. People with ADD also benefit from moderate caffine intake, and it is a lot cheaper and less damaging than using Ritalin (I had another male cousin that almost died because it damaged his liver)

Answer 8

Ya thats not good. I only think medicating for ADHD when they are out of control like that.
You need to talk with your dr. you may also need some counseling to help you and the family learn some stradegies.

Answer 9

my son was diagnosed at 6 he is 9 now I know how you feel it seems like every day he comes up with something new ... charlenenc26@yahoo email me any time you need some one to talk to

Answer 10

i had adhd,this sort of offends me,in the long run, ur sone is better off.hell be smarter than most people his age bacause of the adhd.if u want to settle him down, give him things that have caffeine in them, like coffee.caffeine, as wel as other stimulants,slow down the heart rate of people with adhd.i (as well as my friends who had adhd)would drink coffee and pepsi rather than take ritalin.i did take ritalin tho, and it causes loss in apetite which may be unhealthy.