I don't trust my bestfriend and honestly I don't know if I should.?

Question

Me and this friend of mine have been friends for 11 years or so and I don't feel like she cares like a true friend should.She is married with a child from a different man and he has been nothing but good to her but she cheated on him with his bestfriend..Now I am starting to wonder if she would do that to me also.She says she feels really bad for it but it took her getting caught to ever fess up to doing it in the first place.Any guy I ever brought over to hang out with she always insisted on making conversation that didn't really include me.She would keep eyecontact with him and him only as if almost trying to flirt.She is very insecure and asked me to ask my boyfriend what he thought of her body and to ask him if he thought she had a nice butt.I was like no I won't ask him..I can't believe she asked me to ask him that.She'd mightas'well have asked him herself..What kindof friend is she???

Answer 1

uh..she's extremely insecure, and not happy with her relationship. something is wrong there; perhaps it's her, from the sounds of it. she must need major attention..from EVERYONE..even if she hurts her friends to get it. someone like that is not good, for you, for her husband, or anyone. u have to distance urself from her, if she is not willing to change. if are best friends, perhaps u can talk to her that her behavior is causing u to distrust her. i understand; i have a bf that was dating a guy for 5 years, they are great together. but recently she became interested in a new guy, and started seeing him. even tho the boyfriend does know about it (they kinda have an open relationship), but she started lying to him and breaking certain rules they had, and he started feeling so miserable and disrespected that he broke up w/ her. they are still seeing eachother, but it is sad that they have resulted in this mess of a relationship. and i wonder, how could My best friend, someone i trusted to be a good person, be so disrespectful and selfish? it makes me take a 2nd thought as to who she is..and because i don't agree w/ what she's doing and refuse to meet the new guy, she is somewhat distant w/ me now. it makes me sad, but if u don't respect someone, u Can't be their good friend; it would be a lie to pretend things are ok. get it all out, talk about it; if she listens to u and acknowledges she has a problem, that's a step. but if she denies, or lies, or gets defensive, she is not putting ur best interests at heart (and neither her husband's). give her a chance, but if she blows it, it's her fault, not urs. u'll be sad that u lost a friend, but u can't force it when there's not trust there.

Answer 2

was she like this all the time? if so you can't complain because that's the type of person she is. you just have watch your back(keep your eyes on your man) don't bring him around her!!!! I mean that because i know people who are just like that. trust her but at that same time don't if you know what I'm saying. it's always the people close to you that would hurt you faster then a stranger would. don't treat her no different be her fiend but be aware at the same time.

Answer 3

You know what they say, Once a cheater always a cheater! It's hard to take sometimes but bottom line is, if someone does not want to be with someone they shouldn't be with them, if they do than they shouldn't cheat!

Answer 4

Truthfully... SHe wants your boyfriend and if nothing else just to mess around with... I'd say that you need to stop being friends with her, because no good will com eof this in the end...

Answer 5

Some people never grow up. Ditch her before she drags you down with her

Answer 6

with a friend like that...who needs enemies....but also you should be able to trust your boyfriend....if not then dump him too...

Answer 7

I have friend just like it. don't talk to her any more. tell her your boyfriend didn't like her and he thinks you bi-ch and he doesn't letting you to talk to her.

Answer 8

dump her