I am 19. I have always been so picky about choosing girls I would date. And that is why I am still virgin. Now that I go to parties, hang out and see people ******* their girl friends afterwards (not like literally watch them do it), I feel I am missing out. So, should I just work on girls just to get them in my bed. Even though I don't really have feelings for them. And I know for sure that the day I find the one I want I am gonna dump her.
2006-08-05 19:20:36 · 4 answers · asked by Just livin my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, seems like u are putting more importance on getting rid of ur virginity instead of finding someone who is Worth giving ur virginity to. since ur a guy, and i'm sure there's pressure for being seen as "gay", or "desperate" cuz u can't get a girl to give it up, i guess its understandable that ur dating views are changing.. =T..i'd like to say it's pretty awesome that u've gotten to 19 years of age and still had that pickiness!! what is Wrong with wanting the best? what is wrong with waiting until u find someone u are so connected with, mentally, emotionally and physically, so that the sex u have is because u want to love that person, not just cuz u want to get off? so sad... i would have to say, being the person u are, ur gonna feel really bad about urself if u start using girls just to have sex w/o any feelings for them. and ur gonna have less respect and confidence in urself, even tho other guys are slapping u on the back, or giving u "hi 5"..cuz in the end, its' what u think about urself at the end of the day, not what others think. if u choose to change ur views and treat women like a piece of meat instead of human beings, so be it... most guys have learned to do that a long time ago. but don't expect to be seen as a great guy, or have good character if u treat women like nothing..... a real woman will never want anything to do w/ someone like that.
btw.. this is what i learned.. men use love to get sex, women use sex to get love. so knowing that, if a man pretends or says he loves a women to get her to "give it up", he is taking advantage of her Need of being emotionally loved by a partner. that is why girls *should* have boundaries and expectations of their boyfriends, to develop a real, mature relationship based not just on sex, but everything else. to avoid guys like u are trying to become.
2006-08-05 19:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Keep your original views/values. They are better.
It just appears that everyone else is having more fun.
But, you are looking for something better and more enduring.
2006-08-06 02:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you happy
2006-08-06 02:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good be wat u r.Dont look at others.they r wrong.they will not survive longer doing this.They win hatred.But if u continue 2 be wat u r, u win love.
2006-08-06 02:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by ATHeisT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋