I've been communicating anonymously through e-mail with this man I'm interested in, for the past few months. He wants to "meet me", but I know I'll be screwed if he does. We've already met and he pulled back then. He doesn't really seem to care for me or for settling down unless "she's the right one".
Quite frankly I was hoping to get him to change his mind about me, but I'm not getting anywhere and am tiring of this "game". Without going into too many details, what would you do if you were in my position?
2006-08-05 18:22:45 · 24 answers · asked by coorissee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will have to go with the first two answers. Also, if you want out, what is the problem? Get out. Let him know that you are not interested any longer. Be honest and tell him what you told us. It is okay to be open about how you feel. Just don't put yourself out there and seem too vulnerable and desperate. I don't have a problem telling a man exactly what I am looking for. I also let him know that I am patient in finding just that and won't settle for those in between.
2006-08-12 05:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down. You can not rush a relationship.
Never talk about LTR until the third month of a real relationship.
Not an e-mail relationship.
Bigger issue is you connecting with your self esteem and you being the chooser. Also never define yourself by any relationship.
Trust your instincts and run away.
2006-08-14 01:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't really seem to care about you why would you still communicate with him his not the one for you. You said he met you and pulled away... You can't force something that is there. You won't get anywhere playing games. Let it go!
2006-08-13 19:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by IMAGINE IM THERE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused about emailing "anonymously" and you already meeting him, and it didn't work? Change your email, do not contact him anymore, find someone new. Men only change their mind temporarily, and for only one reason. Then they go back to their old habits. Find a new man, with new habits and work on him!!!
2006-08-13 23:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by know_it_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you must know you cannot change anyone. That's a proving fact I tried to change my ex for 8 years it never worked. So we went ours different ways. So I guess I shall say you are waisting your time. Go find you someone you are happy with from day one.
2006-08-13 22:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by bridgett678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you can never change his mind. The best thing to do is to let him know,how you felt and that all you want is to be friends, Never get to the point of putting your feelings in to fast. Makes it even harder to call it off if you feel its going no where,.
2006-08-06 01:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by l465vmanes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a word of wisdom. If you want to meet someone on line,,remember you are gambling...how lucky are you to land the right one or hook a Barracuda with high heels.
2006-08-12 19:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't good when you first met, I would give up...thats the smart thing to do. he sounds like a prick to me. Go for someone new and better, he's obviously not what you need.
2006-08-14 00:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for him to say he will only settle if she is the right one. How do you know if you are the right one. You have to kiss alot of frogs to meet prince charming
2006-08-11 11:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a bench at the park and sit down and think about it.
2006-08-14 01:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by 5375 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋