I just got home from probably one of the best dates I have had with my current boyfriend and on that aspect I feel absolutely wonderful. On the other hand my mom is still up and around the hosue trying to prepare for a craft fair she is in tomorrow. Why does she always take out her stress from not being prepared on me? How is it my fault in the least that she isn't prepared for her show tomorrow and what gives her the right to beat me down? Now I feel like crying because I feel bad for my mom and I feel bad that she can't ever just be happy for me.
And yes I am old enough to go on dates this late yadayada, I am just home for the summer.
2006-08-05 17:50:20 · 16 answers · asked by cutie pie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
b.t.w. in my time zone it is 1am
2006-08-05 18:22:25 · update #1
I think some people just can't stand to see anyone else happy. That happened to me a lot when I was a teen-ager (I am old now). I don't know why parents do this. Yes your mom is under stress but she does not need to take it out on you.
Sounds like you have a great boyfriend though. Good luck honey.
2006-08-13 05:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been home for the 'summer', have you spent any time with your mom? I understand not seeing your boyfriend for awhile (I am assuming you are away during the year for college) and trying to catch up some time with him but what about mom? I know she must of mentioned the craft fair some time during your stay, you might of asked if she needed any help from you. I think I would feel a little 'hurt' if all this time the one time she needs you or spend some time with her you went out instead (choosing him over her) Yes, we can't read people's minds but time to time see if she needs any help or hey spend a day with her. Parents can get a little greedy when it comes to their kiddos, wish we could have them all to ourselves..but yes we got to let go too, still though would be nice if your child could show appreciation once in awhile. She probably doesn't know how to express herself and this is the only way she knows how..try not to feel like she's beating on you (though it feels like it) Don't respond negatively either won't make matters any better, just listen and say "Okay mom, how can I help you?"
2006-08-05 18:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is stressing and could have used a hand from you but didn't want to ask, and was hoping that you would be adult enough to offer her some help.
My father used to do this to me too. I finally caught on after a while...it's a silent learning process that they bestow on us. Either you get it or you don't. If you don't...Lord have mercy on your soul! HA! :) Offer your mother some help and make peace between the two of you.
Maybe you should ask her to tell you what she expects of you sometimes because you just can't read her mind and are tired of walking around on eggshells when she is getting ready for her shows. Offer to do something to get her on her way to the show...surely you can afford some time for your mother!
And let her know that she makes you feel bad about yourself. Maybe she isn't in tune with that when she's stressing. Bless you and good luck.
2006-08-05 18:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry that has to happen to you. Youre not the only one. Many of us have parents that like to take it out on their kids so you just have to avoid your parents and not give them any information about what you are doing in your life because it gives them something to rant about. She has no right to do what she does, so I would slowly and continiously distance yourself from your parents. Its part of growing up. It will give you a light at the end of the tunnel to keep you focused on what you have to do, and dont let your parents keep you from going forward or defeat you spiritually. I have a friend that went thru a similar situation and she wore earplugs that deafened her somewhat from the verbal torture her mom loved to put her through. Try it..
2006-08-12 17:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by nikilisious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh there is some1 who can understand me here. I feel just like you. sometimes i get home after a nice day with my bf but all the good mood fades away with her grumbling and i feel down so i completely understand. wish i found a job for summer at least maybe i would spend less time home
2006-08-07 08:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by scartissue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is being unjustly rude to you. No, no matter what you say to her at his time she will still be upset. I had a mother, then a stepmother that were like this to me all the time. I just shut up and listened to their complaining. It seemed to help. Once they complained for a while, all was ok. Just don't blow up at her at this time. Things could get messy. Oh, and don't talk about your date to her.
2006-08-05 19:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom most likely has alot on her mind and its just so hard for her right now. Give it time and talk to her more calm her down and stand up for yourself.
2006-08-13 12:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by sascheer1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a mom for you, i would be the adult here and offer my mom help. maybe the 2 of you can talk bout her show and your date while working together. give it a try, cant hurt right?
2006-08-05 18:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mom has a lot on her mind . Just talk to her and help her around the house,
2006-08-13 13:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋