My son surprised me with his engagement. The shocking part is not the engagement, but the fact that I had an affair with his to be mother-in-law. These people live down the block from us. There has always been a question of whether or not she was my daughter. How do I approach this?
2006-08-05 17:46:32 · 22 answers · asked by irishlad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See, this is a PRIME example of how our choices affect other people!!
Does this mean you will be paying for the wedding and the rehearsal dinner???
When they say who gives this women to this man...do you say "I give my daughter to my son"???
Do you buy one gift or two???
Will it be awkward to watch your son get a nasty a@# lap dance the night before your father daughter dance with the bride???
What kind of advice do you give the lovely couple...ADOPT!!???
Any golfing outings for the two would be fathers of said bride???
As always, best of luck!!!
P.S. Nice picture!! That's a new touch!!
2006-08-07 05:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a huge problem. The time for asking and questioning -- which you should have done years ago -- is NOW. Call the woman you had an affair with, ask her if that girl is or could be your daughter. Get tested for paternity. If it is your daughter, you will know what must be done. Good luck and I hope your son's life isn't ruined by what you did in your past.
2006-08-06 00:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the Maury show?? Wow, talk about small world. You need to come clean about this. There really is no good way to approach this, you just have to do it. You have to think about any potential children who could be born to your son and soon to be daughter in law. You have to be honest. What goes around comes around.....
2006-08-06 00:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by glamr216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may have ****** up your son's future. Before you call Maury or Jerry pay for a dna test and get it done, if you can don't involve neither your son or "daughter" if possible, you may be able to get DNA from her hair brush or toothbrush. get the mother in on this as well, and pray for the best.
Good luck, for your son's sake.
2006-08-06 00:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by Legal Eagle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the futner mother in law about your concerns. Maybe a
paternity test needs to be done. But please dont blow the family apart. Besides......some states this might be legal.
Just confide in the lady you had an affair with. Start there.
Keep us posted.....this is like a soap ophra
2006-08-06 01:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch....Talk to the mother in law first. If anyone knows it should be her. If she doesn't then have a blood test. Do all of this before telling the son or the bride to be.
2006-08-06 00:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u tell her mother that a paternity test is a must & work w/ her to find a way to get the necessary specimen from her daughter in a way that hopefully won't cause suspicion. if u are her father she & your son need to know b4 things b/w them go any further
2006-08-06 00:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have kept your pants on for one thing now your son maybe marrying your daughter. Shame on you. You need to get a DNA before this goes any furthur.
2006-08-06 00:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Board 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get with her mom and get a DNA test done...and you will have to be honest with your son and her daughter...Tell them the truth but not to worry ..The DNA test will tell whether or not they get married...Good Luck to you
2006-08-06 00:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come out and speak your mind. if you need to know if the girl is your daughter you really need to get a DNA test done. i mean you dont want your son and daughter marring each other.
2006-08-06 00:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋