Should child support for deadbeat fathers/mothers more lenient?

Question

Should the goverment be more lenient with child support laws for deadbeat parents? Should the providing parent have to struggle to raise a children that they both help conceive.

I ask this question because I am single parent raising my daughter without much of her father's help. He has been on child support for almost two years and he has just started paying child support. He doesn't want to pay child support eventhough he has two jobs. He also does not help with activities for our daughter but he is providing for his son that is 10 mos younger than our daughter

Answer 1

No. They madethe choice to have sex, and unless someone lives under a rock, they know how babies are made. Why should the mother be forced to work two jobs to support the deadbeat's child while they go out and party and have sex and create more unwanted children. Every child deserves to be supported by BOTH parents. If someone doesn't want kids they need to keep their zipper up!

Answer 2

Depends on the situation. A friend of ours, she can't afford to keep the kids with her and only has a one-bedroom apartment. She can barely afford that. And her ex-husband is milking the system and cashing in child support from three different counties because he moved and stayed in each one long enough to get child support filed without having cancelled the child support in the previous counties. I think people like that should be penalized. Meanwhile, this woman does what she can for her kids when she has them, spends what little money she can afford on them, but has to live off of whatever welfare she can get. She's barely making rent each month since she has almost no money thanks to the child support, and because she "hasn't paid" in her county (but not her ex's) then they won't give her welfare. She's working as hard as she can, too. As is, we're doing our best to help her out until she can get it straightened out.

I think that if the parent is already spending a good amount on the kids and helping to raise them, then child support should be more lenient. If the mother or father just hasn't been there and doesn't do anything, then child support should remain strict.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but I think child support isn't always a good thing. (I don't want to be with you anymore, so you have to pay...). You should have known better in the first place, when you conceived the child. You should know that this man/ woman is responsible or irresponsible. I raised my son on my own, without any support from his father--NONE. We had some very tough times, but we made it through them without having someone else pay our bills. And, my son still loves his father (which is the most important thing) because I didn't sit there telling him what a deadbeat his father was. No one owes you anything in this life. Not your parents, not your spouse (or ex-spouse) and , not the government. You owe it to yourself to be self-sufficient. No, no one will probably like my answer, but, you know, sometimes in life you need to say what you think, do what you have to do, and get over it.

Answer 4

As an NCP, I can tell you that if these laws were applied to other debts, there would be a hue and cry over the treatment of the poorest of our citizens. You cannot discharge the debt even if you are found innocent of being the child's father. You can have your driver's license taken, your credit ruined, thrown in jail, your check garnished to kingdom come...and when there is an error, do you know what CSE says. "oops, I guess that's a gift to the kid."
What I think the government should do is provide more of a carrot and less of a stick. It should let NCP's who are not allowed to claim the standard deduction to claim their child support payments as a tax deduction. Furthermore, it should provide training to those parents unemployed and give parents an opportunity to get back in their children's life.

Answer 5

what do you mean by more lenient? In what way, lowered maximums on child support? Lesser penalties for those who don't pay?

It depends. Those mothers/fathers who don't pay the child support they are currently legally required to should do everything they can to do so. Shame on those who don't. However, there are instances where the parent awared child support will try to manipulate the system to their advantage to get more child support and "put the squeeze" on the other parent. In those situations, yes, the laws should be more lenient. Unfortunately, those instances are so subjective to the individual situation that it would be impossible to quantify.

Cherish your children.

Answer 6

I agree with mad madison I am a single father and I have raised my babygirl on my own for 7 years now.I ain't never had no help from her biological mother or should I say the woman that gave birth,and I don't want none now.MEandB are doing just fine without.

Answer 7

no they should not be more lenient ....... I am a single parent because of a dead beat though so i kinda know first hand how hard it is to raise a child without her father .... but then again , I might have to share her with hI'm if he ever does start helping me and im not sure i am willing to do that

Answer 8

There are always conditions and factors involved in every situation. Even in murder, which is why there are so many defined types of murder, just as there are many defined types of assault, or robbery, or anything else. Circumstances should be taken into account with each and every case, but, unfortunately, they aren't where "deadbeat parents" are concerned. My answer? I believe that the courts should take more into consideration than just the biology of parenthood to determine who supports whom and to what degree.

Answer 9

They need to crack the wip. My mother died trying to collect 2 million dollars from my father in which he never worked so he wouldn't have to pay child support.

No its not fair that the providing parent has to struggle but God does provide.

Answer 10

More Lenient...no they need to be more stringent! Dead beat parents are just that..A drain on the economy and the other parent. My brother in law is one and he is a piece of crap and it ticks me off. These children do not deserve this.