Can someone give me a reason to get out of bed in the morning?

Question

I am 33 years old. I weigh 340lbs and only 5'7". I suffer from borderline personality disorder, which means I hate myself, I feel lost and alone all the time, and I cut myself to feel better, and as a punishment as well, because I'm not good enough for anyone: not my parents, my brother, friends, or God. I have over $10,000 in credit card debit. I work two deadend jobs which don't pay for crap. I'm so tired all the time from all the psych medication I take for my problems (much of which don't seem to work) and I can't afford therapy right now and I haven't had a date or anything else with a woman in over 4 1/2 years. Can someone please tell me why I should get out bed in the morning? And don't give me a religious answer. Where was He when I was molested as a child or ignored by my parents or felt so alone and in so much pain and just wanted to die as a teen . Can someone please give a me a reason, please? Because I can't really think of one.

Answer 1

Sweetie. I learned something very young because of depression. The only person that can help you is you. It doesn't matter what anybody on here tells you, if you can't personally think of a reason to get out of bed then your not going to. You have to make you want to do it. Your blaming your problems now on the past. The past sucks, and yes you can hate it. But you can't live in the past, your not going to have to live the past ever again, you only have the future to live. And the way that you're going your life is spinning out of control. You've got thousands of dollars of debt and you very overweight. Take the bull by the horns, I know it's hard believe me, but so many people have done it and you can to if you really and truly want to. E-mail me if you want to chat, I'm here to help. Good Luck with your future.

Answer 2

Before I list a bunch if reasons I think you should get out of bed I realize that your frame of mind is a huge obstacle in achieving this. I am sure you realize that your negative views on yourself are what is stopping you from wanting to get out of bed every morning. You stated: "Where was He (God) when I was molested as a child or ignored by my parents or felt so alone and in so much pain and just wanted to die as a teen ." It got me thinking, you are still here, there is a strength in you that you have over looked. There are many things you need to get through and telling you to do this or that will not be enough. It is something you have to find within yourself. I think you are good enough but you have to feel that way too. Since you can't afford therapy maybe you could talk to your doctor about adjusting your medication first. That could be a reason to get out of bed. If your meds were adjusted and you did feel better that could be a step towards feeling even more better to be able to tackle all the other things one step at a time. If you do try to get your meds adjusted and it works, I think the next step is to do whatever you can to get into therapy even if it means you are working to pay for therapy. My vision is, if the med change is working and you feel better then maybe you could find one good job with benefits and then get into therapy. It's like a ladder and the first few steps are getting you to feel better so you can slowly work your way to the top.
You never know, it could work and someday you may realize that you had to go through all of this pain because one day you were meant to help someone who as gone through something similiar.

Answer 3

I know you said you don't want a religious answer, but here's one anyways. God is there for you. You need to find Him. He was there when you were molested as a child. He was there when you were alone and ignored and wanted to die. He was there. You didn't die did you? There's hope. More than you may realize.
Get out of bed in the morning because you have a life about to start ahead of you. You just need to try. It will be hard. Everything in life is at one time or another.
And nothing I or anybody else can say is going to make you do what you don't want. You have to want it badly enough.
You say you want a reason to get out of bed. If you want a reason to live, that's enough of a reason to get out of bed. God will give you a new beginning, a reason to live, a reason to get out of bed.

Go to church, pray, find someone to pray for you, anything. Just try. It won't cost you a penny and what have you got to lose?

Answer 4

You cannot say that you are not good enough for God. We were all created in God's image, so that makes each of us special. I'm sorry if you don't want a religious answer, but it works for me. Get away from the people who are bringing you down - even if it's your family. If you don't like either of your jobs, find a better one - something you enjoy. Work on your self-esteem. If you have a negative opinion of yourself, it's hard for others to like you. If you don't like your weight, do something about it - start to exercise on a daily basis (even though you're tired from the medication). Exercise increases both your metabolism and energy level. When you start getting fit and trim, you'll feel better about yourself. Find a hobbie or recreational activity you can enjoy and excel at - that will help develop a positive self-esteem. Find a support group or group therapy session in your area. The Department of Mental Health in most cities usually offers free counselling. And whether you want to hear this or not, find a Contemporary Christian church you can attend with a loving and supportive congregation. I get more support from my church than from my family and friends. There's always hope and a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Find your reason. If you don't like your life, make changes for the better. Good luck.

Answer 5

There are programs that you can try to qualify for to help you thru this, group therapy that is free. I dont know what ou are going thru but if you can look at one thing in your life that you can work on that will help you feel better. Maybe in the morning go for a walk, get a MP3 player (20 bucks). I am over weight, not working, and have a brain tumor, i have felt my life is over at times & the meds make me sick, i cant loose weight, but ever since i have been going for a walk or putting my ear buds in my ears and listening music, i feel better.

Answer 6

the reason to get out the bed in the morning is because you woke up. alot of people didn't wake up this morning. No matter what you are going through you have two choices. One, feel sorry for yourself and let the situation consume you, or two, make a decision to change. No matter what you may think He was there. You have to understand there is an enemy and his objective is to steal, kill, and destroy. There may be generational curses in your family that have not been broken and this could be the reason this happened to you. But if you allow Him to, He will use what you been through to heal you and help others...

Answer 7

fresh air the smell of fresh cut grass the smell of the air around you right after it rains, having a pet that loves you more than anything no matter what you look like or do. anyone can live a life but it is more important to love your life I am 32 years old 300. LBS and 5 6 and when it rain I will go for a walk, I might be crazy but that is what I like in my life.

Answer 8

Without God my life would be empty and bitter. Just go to bed tonight and ask him to come into your life. Having a relationship with God doesn't keep you from enduring problems in your life. I love God, and Ive been through lots of bad things. God never promised us that the roads in life would be easy, but he did promise never to leave us or foresake us. He loves you and is always there anytime your ready to ask him to save you. He has answered many prayers for me. Has my life been perfect? Not in any way, but I do know that God is always there to comfort me and accept me just as I am. God designed this world just like he did for us to experience trials and troubles so that we would build our faith in him. If he had of made our lives flawless, then we would have no reason to seek him. See what I'm saying? You've been through some bad things in your life, and emotional healing is what you need. Rely on God, and he will pull you up out of this depression and hopelessness and get you back on track. Listen to the inner voice inside your head......that is where you will hear God telling you things. He speaks from your very soul. God bless you and I will pray for you tonight that you might be comforted by him and feel his love surrounding you.

Answer 9

For your self. Try doing whatever on a daily basis for your self that makes you comfortable, corresponding to looking a TV exhibit you prefer or consuming a particular meals or studying a guide. You would additionally take a look at planning with folks that you simply wish to look. If you've someplace to be, it is going to support you get away from bed. Good good fortune. I wish this is helping.

Answer 10

I realize you said no religious answers but really God is the most important one you can turn to. I also suffer from depression and have been through/am going through some horrible things in life but it is my faith that has always kept me going. Aside from that though, just think of something you're especially passionate about and try to immerse yourself in it as much as possible... do stuff with pets, follow your favorite sports team, etc. I've learned that any escape is a good escape.