so bout 6 months ago..... i met this guy.. okay so i met him and we started talkin and everything... then a week later we started datin..... we dated for bout 3 months and in that time he told me he loved me and i know he did.... okay so one day someone tells him they saw me wit another guy i told him and told him i wasnt but then i said *** it and acted like i didnt care.....so we broke up i knew if i really didnt wanna break up then we would not have but i guess i didnt care okay so bout a month later..... i realized just how much i care bout him.... i realized that b4 i didnt really love him but after i knew he was gone i did love him and it hurt me okay so that month had passed by and i was hurtin wantin him back so bad.... well we talked and we started datin again.... he told me he loved me and that was like just 2 months ago..... we didnt even date but like 6 days and he broke up wit me again and it hit me even harder this time.... he told me he didnt want a girl right now....
2006-08-05 17:08:06 · 14 answers · asked by hesgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that i didnt do anything wrong that i was the perfect g//f this time well now its 2 months later and i still cant get him out of my head i love him so much and i dont know wat to do...... last nite i saw him and i asked him if he still felt the same and he said no and i said so would you ever go back out wit me and he said it would take a couple of months...... but i dont know if i could wait that long i am tried of hurtin i want to know if he wants me in hes life or not... i dont know wat to do... i cant think of anything to say to him to make him care.... i love him and dont wanna let go.... i can text him so wat could i say to him....????????
2006-08-05 17:10:18 · update #1
well sugar there aresome jerks who do that all the time.
my bf of 6years left after him being the reason for losing my cherry and him continously reasssurin our marraige.
well just think that he is not into u anymore. may b when u tried 2 reconnect him, he was all alone by himself too without a girl. so he must have thought that y not spend some time with u when u r willing.
but now may be he found someone so u r no longer important to him.
well its hard i know but be glad that he told u now he does not want a girl.
that shows how insecure and how undeserving he is.
and remember, if he is does not want to b with u now thats a good signal even he will not b in future.
be happy, forget him and thank god.
2006-08-05 17:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by marissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't text him, just let it go. He knows you want to be with him, and you are willing to do whatever he says to be with him. He will begin to use you and manipulate the situation if you allow him. If you move on, start living your life acting like you don't care about him, just go out with friends and have fun... he'll notice and wonder what has happened to you that you have changed. He will most likely then want to be with that fun and happy girl that suddenly has her own life. Don't give up, but don't beg or stalk him because that only pushes him farther away. Just give him the space and start living for you, and before you know it, either he'll come back, you'll find someone new, or you'll just be having too much fun and you can throw it back in his face that you don't want a relationship.
2006-08-06 00:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, and I feel sorry for you. But it seems that you've done just about everything you can reasonably do. He has made his attitude clear and it seems to me that whatever you say in a text msg is not going to change that.
I think that you are going to have to bite the bullet. Try to speak to him again personally, or, at least, by phone, and explain that you would at least like to remain friends, exchange msg, or, whatever, so that you might remain in his thoughts. But, besides that.......he already knows how you feel and where you live. So the next move, if any, is up to him.
In the meantime, get on with your life. You are young and a world of experiences is waiting for you. Explore it; enjoy it. You are certainly going to meet many guys, and one of them is going to be for you.going to meet someone else
2006-08-06 00:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont contact him. give him time and let him miss you. you will hurt for a long time if you do love him but if he feels hurt by you the best thing to do is let him go and see if he comes back to you. try to keep busy doing other things. he will always be on yr mind but just keep telling yourself that you deserve to be loved as much as you can love. it is hard cos you are obviously very sweet and caring. i am where you are now but i know the guy i was seeing is hurt and needs time. i have no idea if he will ever talk to me again. but i have to let him go even though i love him so much. it hurts every day - all day but i know it will get better! good luck
2006-08-06 00:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not exactly sure what question it was that you asked.. but if by any chance you actually did cheat on him... I think that you most likely wouldn't have done it if you were in love with him.. and even if you did... If he loved you THAT much you might have gotten into a fight or something but it wouldn't have gotten to the point of you both breaking up.... and if you started dating again.. and he broke up with you.. it's probably not meant to be... there are plenty of other people out there for you...
2006-08-06 00:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't text him, I know it is so hard, but the less you say the better. If you can't help yourself, I would just say ...I get it, I like you, can't make you like me, so I am throwing in the towel, and take care. DO NOT contact him again. I don't know how old you are, but you will look back on this in a bit and think it was just a blip in your life. There are tons of guys out there......
2006-08-06 00:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by vuevecliquot13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look this guy's a jerk, I don't see how you can still love him after what he's done to you, but I'm sure you have your reasons, It would be better for you to find someone else, whether you actually get over him or not that way you can start fresh with less chance of it happening again and getting hurt, plus if you start to love somebody else eventually you will get over the other guy anyway.
2006-08-06 00:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Topher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that this isnt the advice u were hoping for but honey listen there is no guy out there worth crying about unless he is your father brother grandfather etc. if the guy cared about you like you think he does then you wouldnt have had to ask for our advice so my advice is to let him go and get on with life i have been in your shoes and know that it hurts but life does go on and it does get better i promise just thank god that there are no kids involved in your situation and keep your head up girlfriend
2006-08-06 00:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to just let it go and move on. If he can't decide now and he needs two months, sounds like he's just leading you on. I know that it hurts loving someone and you just can't get it together, guys are tricky, they say they love ya one min. and gone the next, don't wait, your only hurting yourself. Do you best to get over it and move on.
2006-08-06 00:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by shouldibe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he likes another girl and hes telling u that he might go back out with u so that if the other girl doesnt work out he can just use u till he finds another girl
2006-08-06 00:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Basketball FREAK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋