2006-08-05 17:02:33 · 20 answers · asked by .......... 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Okay. Who am I to judge? Someone who's had this happen to me, and it's deeply affected my life, so I happen to know it hurts the children, because I AM one of them.
2006-08-05 17:18:00 · update #1
B/c we've been fed the lie for a couple decades now that it doesn't matter if a child doesn't have both parents. It's not a 'God Squad' thing. It's a proven fact thing. Children do better when they have both parents in the home. It is how it was supposed to be. If men or women were supposed to have and raise children alone, it wouldn't take both a man and a woman to make a baby! But then, people don't think about this logic.
Many people seem to think that getting married is pointless b/c they'll just get divorced. Or they think living together is just as good, but the incidence of divorce among married couples who lived together first is higher than those who didn't. It's easier to walk away from an apartment than from a marriage, at least for most people.
There are more and more circumstances that land parents into the single parenting role, and it's not always by choice. Then again, a lot of the time it is. I believe that when you choose to sleep with someone that's when the choice is made. I made that choice myself, and I made the choice badly. I stayed a virgin for 20 years and then gave it up, and at 22 I was pregnant and that man (who I assumed I would marry) didn't want the responsibility, so now I'm a single parent.
I totally agree with you. Though a child can be raised successfully by a single parent, there will be issues that come up b/c of the absence of a parent. Having both a mother and a father are necessary for different parts of a child's development into a healthy adult. Not to mention the frustration and stress that happens when one person tries to take on 2 jobs.
2006-08-05 17:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What about those that marry, have children and their lives are still fu*cked because their parents divorce and get on bad terms with each other. Now those children have to deal with a tug of war and custody. So whats the difference. Many marriages go wrong somewhere.
2006-08-05 18:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself had a daughter out of wedlock. I am struggling day to day to raise my daughter because i was not married to her father when i got married. i think the problem of so many children being born out of wedlock is that less people care about how God want thing to be in this world
2006-08-05 17:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl122284 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not taken as seriously anymore by most in society. Divorce rates have increased and continue to increase. Keeping a family together in a healthy and stable home should be a couples priority, married or not! My parents kept the family together for the sake of the "kids", but in no way did it help us because their relationship was so screwed up that I wish they would have divorced.
2006-08-05 21:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by knowclue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get married to have kids when a chic can go find a man and ask him to knock her up and she can live happy alone with her children. Whereas, when your married....which might eventually end then the kids have to suffer, divorce, custody battle, loss of the parent in the home...and all that other BS. Being single and having kids...men can leave or the woman can leave...and thats it. No problems no fuss. Kids grow up knowing the mother and see her as a strong person. Enough said!!
2006-08-05 17:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Rach . 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well. some women were in an abusive relationship and realized that they would be better off on their own than having their child grow up seeing their mom being beaten, or with their children being beaten. A lot of guys tend to take off...it is easier to do so if they aren't married, but that doesn't mean that they are off the hook as far as child support is concerned.
2006-08-05 17:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong with it yes i have 3 kids all them out wedlock there is nothing wrong with none of them i did marry there father but it might just be something you are missing from one of your parents begin married does not make the child it the parents baby
2006-08-05 17:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you think about it, with as many divorces as there are and as expensive and messy everything gets, people probably just figure that it's more convenient to just live together, instead of going through the whole legal process...
i, for one, do not agree with all that...i believe in marriage and then babies...b/c i believe that love is a choice...you're not going to always feel in love with your significant other b/c feelings come and go...but if you choose to love them no matter what (within reasonable conditions, of course) then divorce is less likely...but people usually marry based on feelings instead of making that decision and once the feeling is gone, they decide to separate...
2006-08-05 17:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by tigrisow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with having children out of wedlock. i personally will never get married and i have children...they are happy and very very loved.
no one is going to tell me that i should get married cause i have kids......no way!
2006-08-05 17:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by kat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone thinks it's right to be married. Not everyone thinks that marriage is important to a relationship. Not everyone wants or needs to be married.
2006-08-05 17:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋