If your MAN??

Question

Ladies if your man came home to tell you he was having a baby with another woman what would you do??? Lets say the two of you already have a child together, Would you make him choose to have nothing to do with this other woman & the baby, or would you relize that this other child deserved the right to a father as well? HONESTLY LADIES WHAT WOULD YOU REALLY DO , call it quits or try to get past & cope with what the future holds?

Or lets say YOU WERE THE OTHER WOMAN carrying this baby THEN WHAT WOULD YOU EXPECT???

& if you let him stay, WHY???

Answer 1

yep sounds like you already know what to do... he still needs to be the dad though ( if he is a good one)... never make a man choose those things.... both kids deserve a father that loves and nurtures them.... I had to do that when my man stepped out as we were doing IVF...now my twins have an older brother...10 days older... but I have to let that go...and so do you

Answer 2

No woman should stay with a man who doesn't respect his relationship with her and with his child(ren) enough to behave and do what's right at least while the children are young.

Both women should dump him. Both women should try to keep any dealings he has with the children to a minimum, and if possible get his parental rights terminated. (List "father unknown" on the birth certificate if possible.) Children may have a right to know who their father is, but as far as any "right to a father" goes; they ideally have a right to a good father. If the father is a loser, a bad example, and a weak, selfish individual they may have a "right" not to have him have any influence on them as they grow.

Male cats go out and get litters of kittens started with a however many different girl cats. They move on to the next one then. They have no responsibility for the kittens, they don't feed them, and they don't do anything to help raise them. Intelligent, normal humans, however, think and plan before they choose to bring a life into the world. This guy has the behavior of a cat. Let him go around and get babies started. Let any woman who'll have him raise her babies alone. As with cats, however, the mother had better protect her babies from this male because he's likely to harm the babies when they are young (or else sleep with them once they're grown up!!).

You, the other woman, the children involved all deserve better. Leave him out in the cold, and don't bring any more losers into your children's lives while they're young.

Answer 3

wow that's a tough one...if you're married, its for better or worse, til death do you part...if you're just living together if you quit now, then you'll continue to quit in every other relation that goes bad or someone makes a mistake...what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...i'm not saying let what he did go without expressing how this makes you feel or what position this puts you in, but think about what you want and whats best for the child...if mommy and daddy aren' t happy, neither is the child...i also wouldn't deny the other child's right to his father...as for yourself, all you can do is take it day by day or moment to moment...you won't be forgetting what he did or stop thinking about how long its been going on...but you will get past it...

Answer 4

I think if you really love him and it was just a fling that wont happen again you should try to hold your family togather. And for the other baby its not the baby's fault it deserves a father too even if it hurts you to see your man with another child.

Answer 5

i will truly be hurt i myself will leave because i cant deal with another women having a child by my man then go through all the baby mama drama and also i think that this baby should have father along with my kids so i will make his *** pay take care of both the kids mines and her kid i just cant go trough it with him. and if i was the other woman i will feel dumb cause first i know he was not mine to begin with 2ND i just would not keep it because there's no guarantee he will leave his family and start a family with me let alone take care of my child

Answer 6

if he wants the child, i would tell him 2 leave the house, and never come back. i would probably find another guy, if i was still young enough. if i was the other woman, i would expect him 2 B responsible 4 the child and stay with me.

Answer 7

The answer is up to you. If my man came home and told me that he got another woman pregnant I would be mad. First off, I would pissed because he lied and cheated. Second, I would be upset because my life would change, I would leave. If he wants to go an make another woman pregnant instead of being home with his own family, then with her is where he can stay....why should we stick around if we are not where he wants to be. Right?? Once again...its your life...you handle it the way you want to. Good luck!!

Answer 8

The other baby does deserve a father. However, I would get a divorce and he could pay child support and have visitations with mine and his child... no if ands or buts...

Answer 9

If you went out and had a baby by someone else would he forgive you? Hell No.And the fact that he has a baby with someone else means that he is not using protection and that he does not care about his health or yours. Dump his ***.quick.

Answer 10

I think you should throw him and the other woman and her family a party and be just great friends. Show everyone how adult you are.

You have to ask? Toss him out! Get an attorney!!!