my parents have been fighting for a long time now. but they don't yell at each other, they ignore each other. my mom is always upset, she'll walk in a room where i'll be laughing with my sister or something and then our smiles fade. her face would be red, and her eyes shining. but my dad, on the rare times when he has no choice but to say a few words to her, gives her attitude. is there anything i can do?
and please don't say "couples fight" this isn't an ordinary every-day thing.
2006-08-05 16:50:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not responsible for your parents fighting, and youre not responsbile for their relationships well-being. Sit them down, you and your sister, and let them know you realize and are perfectly aware of whats going on.
Ask THEM if you can do anything. They probably don't even realize you've got such a good handle on whats going on, and once they find out, things are bound to change.
Sorry hun, but you can't do anything... =\ They need to work it out, somehow, between them. I think if you express you feel sad and are conscious of the situation, they'll push themselves to do somehting. Goodluck!
2006-08-05 16:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by m0o p!e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There probably is not anything you can do. You could try to talk to your mom and dad about what is going on but they may not want to talk about it. Just try to cheer your mom up all the time. Dont stop laughing and having fun around your mom. When she comes in the room after crying just talk to her and try to improve her mood.
Your parents sound like they are on the path to getting a divorce. They really sound like they need to enroll in couples counseling. It really is their problem and they need to communicate and solve it between the two of them. Try not to worry about them, just try to cheer your mom up and if you cant, try to spend sometime outside of the house with your mom and without her (over at friend's houses).
2006-08-06 00:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right - it is not an ordinary everyday thing.
But, please remember this, it is NOT your fault and it is NOT a problem that you (or your sister) can fix.
It is a gut-wrenching feeling that I know. And, it's not like you can walk up to mom and say, "Ummm mom, maybe you and dad could talk to a therapist or something because you're driving the rest of us insane."
If you can, maybe you could talk to an aunt or uncle that you trust and ask them to be your voice if you are not comfortable talking directly to mom or dad.
Moms and dads love their kids, even if their relationship is really twisted. But you have to let your feelings out - it's okay to be angry with mom and dad.
Again - this is not your problem, you are loved, but you need to get an adult (aunt or uncle) to help you out.
Good luck !!!
2006-08-06 00:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can say.They have to work it out on there own.Its nothing you did wrong.
But you could cook a favourite meal for them with a candlelit dinner and then turn down the lights and sleep over at a friends and see if they just need alone time.
2006-08-06 00:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i can understand what your going through. my parents did the same thing even though they are divorced now, i feel like i could have done something to have kept it from happining. the best that i can say is that you should tell your parents to try and be a little nicer. try to have a sitdown talk with therm or just remind them that you love them and they are good people. i feel sorry for you having to go through this. i wish you luck!!!
2006-08-06 00:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by crazed cats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples do fight but even if there your parents don't get involved relationships are tough enough without people even your kids putting in there two cents.
2006-08-05 23:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, and this is important, what they are doing is not your fault. equally important is that you cannot change other people if they do not want to change.
now, that said, your feelings are just as important as theirs, and they need to know how this makes you feel. talk to them all together, or one at a time, whatever your intuition tells you is best.
also, it is time to head for family counseling. if your parents do not respect what you have to say, consider having your clergy or another adult family member, or family friend tell them this!
i am sorry. best of luck, and you are in my prayers!
2006-08-06 00:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by bryndarcie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you cant do nothing, but be there for both of them. The best way you can. Remember it's not yours or your sisters fault. keep your head up baby girl. It will get better.
2006-08-06 00:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by raquelshappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find that time when both or one of your parents is in a good mood and talk about it with them, like how it affects your family, they might just listen. oh they can seek help from a church counselor who is experienced with married couples.
2006-08-06 00:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing you can do...you could ask your mom if she wants to talk about whatever is on her mind...chances are she'll say no...but at least she'll know that you care...that will mean a great deal to her...
2006-08-05 23:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋