im 33 years old woman .i have baby daughter who is 5 .
im divorced and i feel guilty for her .i cant be close to any guy
im afraid if i do this never can find myself ,i cant make decision to come back and live just for my girl,i didnt love my ex and i even unable to have a sex with him,please introduce me if u know someone who can help me ,thanks
2006-08-05 16:41:52 · 15 answers · asked by Kathie 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
jesus ,
2006-08-05 16:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by peasetony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek out your local Battered Women's Hotline. They can help you overcome your guilty feelings in a confidential and caring manner. You may also want to seek some counseling. I just got divorced and it has helped me a lot. I haven't started seeing anyone yet, but my ex is. My kids actually hate the fact that he is. I stayed with him for the kids and it was the wrong decision as he destroyed my self esteem, controlled more and more of my life, and became more and more abusive. My older two now have emotional issues from what they witnessed. Think about why you divorced him and whether or not your child would truly be better off if you got back with your ex.
2006-08-05 23:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is or what you are afraid of. Are you worried that because you are divorced you don't have a father for your daughter? Her father (your ex) should still be in her life and should take that burden from you, if he is a good man, even if you do not love him. Don't bad mouth him to your daughter and let her love him like a father.
Don't worry, your life will get better and you will eventually find another partner for yourself.
2006-08-05 23:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by Diane D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure--YOU ARE NOT ALONE...There are millions of 'single Moms' out there....and you probably did not know your "ex" well enough to marry him, much less bear his child. However-we cant change the past. "Experts" say we meet an ideal companion 5-6 times during the course of our lifetime, so "stay alert"--the right person for you is out there somewhere. Once you find that "magic person" who will turn your life around--KEEP HIM--whatever it takes!!!!! "Someone" is looking for you, too--just be patient, and do the best you can for your daughter...You cant change the past, but you have a lot more control over the future--read the book "Power of Positive Thinking" and I think you will have a new outlook.
2006-08-06 00:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Norman P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single father of a 6 year old boy, and I am in a similair situation. You just spend extra time with your child and let them know that everything is ok. Don't force a relationship out of guilt, or you may end up getting into a very bad situation. Take one day at a time. Things get easier. Good luck.
2006-08-05 23:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by lightningviper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to live for yourself and your daughter. Forget the ex except to allow visits with your daughter. Give yourself time to get over the past relationship then you will be able to move on without the guilt. Your daughter will be happy to have a happy mother!
2006-08-05 23:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine. You need to find yourself before you can find that special guy. There is no need to rush. If you don't love your ex there is no reason to go back, not even for your daughter. It will only teach her to settle for less than she deserves.
Just be a great but firm mom. Maybe take her to church.
Pray about it and don't sell yourself short. you deserve what makes you happy. Don't settle.
2006-08-05 23:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being sooo hard on yourself....why do you feel guilty for her? Wouldn't you want her to grow up in a happy loving family instead of one that would always resent the fact that deep down inside they didn't really love each over?? She's ...she understands more than you think.....take your time tryin to find another man in your life...Good luck...just relax and don't be soo hard on your self...
2006-08-05 23:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dlayne21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww,im really sorry.stay strong,dont let your daughter know that you are in pain.if she sees mommy sad,it will make her worried.even though she is so small,they can sense the tension. when my brother was one,i would start crying around him,he would look at me and start bawling.it was really sad.stay strong.go to a church.some have things for single parents who need help to cope with divorce or being a single parent.i hope that you find inner peace with yourself soon.good will take care of you.no worries
2006-08-05 23:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ashleigh(: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a single father. my two sons are grown now. i divorced at 33 and after that i put women, more than once, before my children. everything has worked out ok, but i regret what i did every day. good luck - oddyerdy
2006-08-05 23:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by oddyerdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i eent through the same thing with my divorce i was the same way you need to be strong for your girl there is someone out there for you to be happy with you can find yourself and love again it may take time but it will happen just hang in there and be strong
2006-08-05 23:50:31 · answer #11 · answered by firefightingexpert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋