Why is self-confidence so important to girls?

Question

Guys could care less if girls have it. All guys want are girls who are physically attractive. Girls seem to want guys who are both physically attractive and have a lot of confidence. Could it really be this lopsided?

Answer 1

guyss who are self confident are attractive. the end. as long as you carry yourself like you are good looking you have a quality that actually makes me attractive. you cant be too confident though. you will then seem to good for anyone and thats not good either.


i would hope guys like more than just good looks

Answer 2

Okay I would be lying if I said the physical attraction is not a factor in liking someone. However if there was someone who was totally drop dead gorgeous and had a nasty attitude their looks would be forgotten. This works the other way also. For example if there was a guy who was alright looking not the most handsome guy you've ever seen but had a great personality it can make them look better in your eyes. It's not just about the physical attraction but the connection you get after that. The confidence part has to do with the guy being comfortable in his own skin. If someone feels great about themselves then they will emit it and make others feel more comfortable about themselves as well. It's sort of like leading by example. When you see someone who is comfortable with themself you gravitate towards them because they are more fun to be around since they are not spending time worrying about what they don't like about themselves. Personally I wouldn't want to be around someone who was constantly depressed and emitting negative emotions all the time, where's the fun in that? As a first impression I would much rather be around the guy with a lot of confidence, and don't let this be mistaken for arrogance, and who had the handsome looks. I mean would you want to be around a girl who was totally hot but who was always worried about how she looked and acted and was always worried about what others thought of her. Probably not.

Answer 3

I disagree. I think reasonable men are just as interested in girls with good self-confidence as women are in men. It's just easier for men without a lot of self-confidence to try to pick up girls who only have their physical attactiveness to go on. The self-confident girls don't need a man, they're fine on their own, so they can be much more selective about who they choose to spend their time with, and can hold out for men with a similar level of confidence. I think the *only* guys who don't care if a girl has any self-confidence are the ones who themselves lack confidence. Unfortunately, there's such a large population of insecure men out there who are likewise looking for surface attributes like simple physical attractiveness that it's easy to get the impression that all men are like that.

And never forget, the women are in the better position to be choosy, and seek physical attractiveness as well as confidence; they've got something the men want, and they can hold out for the highest bidder. The men, on the other hand, don't have as much to offer based simply on biology, so they need to augment their desirability with less directly tangible characteristics such as good confidence in order to rise above the general population to catch the eyes of the cream of the female crop as they cast their eyes over the throngs of possible suitors.

So yes, I suppose at some level perhaps it is somewhat imbalanced and lopsided. That's biology for you--seldom straightforward, and there's not much you can do about it but accept it and have fun in life anyhow. ;D

Answer 4

Yes I have the same question. I would in fact find girls who are shy around guys or shy in general very cute!

Does shy = no confidence? Why do girls not like guys who are shy around them? I freeze up quite badly around some girls whom i really like: is this a lack of self-confidence?

Answer 5

All people need self-confidence. The guys who could care less if a girl has it are just shallow, either that or controlling.

Answer 6

this is something important because they want to let people know that they dont care what they look like and have ..........its just something that makes them feel good and u have to be supported to that or else u are so in deep crap with ur girl this something u have to support her in to know that she is luved and not someone there to just be a tramp for u or ur not useing them and thats coming from ma a girl who knows exactly what it feels like to not be supported and think that there not luved at all.. and they want a guy whos like that so that they know and can picture what there life is ganna be like with them...if a guy does not have any confidence then the girl thinkd shes ganna be the heart and the life of the family...........................u just have to be supported and show that girl u do have confidence and u support her as well........!!<3

Answer 7

yes it could but you got to remember guys walk around using thier head #2 instead of the one one thier shoulders. Therefor girls seem to think if they dont look good that no guy is goin to like them b/c there are to many girls that are "just out there" & make some girls feel they have to be the same way to get a guy to like her.

Answer 8

So let me get this strait cause I'm finding it hard to believe what you're saying. Guys only want a ditsy blond, with big boobs, and what not and not one brain cell in her head. And not a smart girl who can think for herself? Alright, if this is what you're telling me, then answer this for me. I'm not miss popular, and ditsy, [Ok, I'm close to it.] and since I'm not that, then why was I asked out three times last year? And if you can't answer that question, then I doubt what you're saying is true.

Answer 9

Have you ever thought that NO Female wants to be treated as a piece of meat!!!!! That is why self-confidence is important. It is degrading to have males treat females that way.