How long should I wait?

Question

How long do you think would be appropriate to wait until I say "I love you" to my boyfriend? I am 15, he's 17.

How long do you think would be appropriate to wait until I say "I love you" to my boyfriend? I am 15, he's 17.


BTW. We've been dating for 5 months.

Answer 1

If you truly feel it, then you should say it. Do not confuse lust for love. Real love takes some time, especially as a teenager. Make sure you will believe that your boyfriend won't shy away from you if and when you say it, or that could cause problems in itself. Listen to your heart, you will know when the time is right.

Answer 2

People don't realize but those three simple words carry a lot of weight. Atleast that is how I view it. I often hear young people throwing them arround from boyfriend to boyfriend and wonder if they understand what love is. In my opinion saying "I love you" isn't something that is apporpriate to say at a certain point in a relationship but instead is something said when a person feels honest real true love, and not lover FOR them but that you love them, for there significant other. That too me may take a short of long time to figure out depending on the situation. So personally if I were you I would not worry about when it was appropriate but whether or not you meant it and felt it from the bottom of your heart and you were ready for the way it can change your relationship on many different levels.

Answer 3

Sorry to inform you, but you should not say "I love you". I mean, you can, but what you really mean to say is "I puppy love you".

15 is so young, so is 17, neither of you know the heartbreak, struggle, financial support, etc, to truly love each other. For that you gotta wait 5-10 years.

Right now you are "infatuated" with him...and perhaps he is also with you.

Have fun!!
I'm not trying to be mean or rude or anything. I've just been there, done that, and someday you will tell some 15 year old on Yahoo Answers the same thing I just told you...you just don't believe me --- hah!! We will see!!

Answer 4

Absolutely do NOT say it until you are 100% sure that you do. Try and have a good idea of whether he does too. If he really loves you he wont pressure you for sex. Wait until the right moment...when he's holding you close and you two are all alone. Whisper it in his ear. It might be a good idea to wait for him to say it although some/most guys are very nervous about that. Never say it to someone you havent been dating for at least 6 months. And again, wait till your sure, don't just say it because it seems like the thing to do.

Answer 5

You should say it when you mean it. Dont say it without meaning it. Like deep down love.


I don't want to lecture you. If it comes across as I am lecturing you. Don't get mad. I don't mean to. I have been in your shoes.. I dated this guy for a LONG time. From 14-17. I thought I loved him. I told him every chance I could. I never realised that it wasnt true love.

Now that I am older and have matured more, I now know what love is. What I had those 2 1/2 years, wasn't it. And trust me, I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.

Just say it, when you mean it. For instance. If you liked him ALOT now, and you said ' I LOVE YOU' to him, he would have already heard it, before you were able to say it with true meaning. because when you do say it, he will take it as something special and not as any other 'i love you'

saying 'I love you' is something special.

Answer 6

well it depends on how long you've been together...if you've only been together for say a month or two then you are soooo not in that place yet...i think it takes a while for a person to really feel actual love...i told my boyfriend i loved him after three months...it wasn't until a couple of months later that i realized i actually did love him and wasn't caught up in the newness of the relationship...and now i've been with him for going on 5 years and been married for almost a year...and i think i love him more every day if that's even possible though there are times i want to bang my head against the wall...anyways....my point...when you feel you're ready to say it and take on all the stuff that comes with it, then say it...not before and not because you feel pressure to...know in your heart it's what you feel

Answer 7

you don't have to wait til anything. say it when you feel it and you mean it.

if he says it first and you don't feel it back, don't just say it *because that's what you're supposed to do*...because if you don't mean it, then it ruins the meaning of the phrase.

and if you feel it but you don't think he does...say it anyway, because you mean it, and it's what's in your heart.

if he doesn't say it back right away, don't be discouraged, if he loves you, he will eventually say it, but when he's ready. and that way you know he really means it. and don't pressure him into saying it... if he doesnt mean it, then what's the point?

if you do love him though TELL HIM. my biggest regret is not telling the only person i've ever loved in my life that i love him.


age isn't a factor. if you're in love, you're in love.


***** this is after i have read all the other answers...and to all the people that say "wait until he says it first" that is such bullsh*t. they are obviously insecure and don't care about true love at all...all they want is to be able to say that someone loves them. don't listen to them...they probably didnt even mean it when they said "i love you" back. If you have to wait til the other person says it first, just so you can say the words, then the words carry no meaning, if you were able to hold them in that long.

**** this is my second edit....if you do say it, and he never says it back...and you guys break up. at least you got it out there and you aren't always left wondering what could have been.... it happened to me :(

Answer 8

actually, i had the same thought about a month ago...

but my boyfriend and i went through quite a bit before we said that. we were dating for about a month [but it was our second time dating] when we said that we loved each other.

he said it first, and i was caught off-guard, but i felt the same, so ~ it all worked out.

i guess it really just depends on the maturity of your boyfriend [if he really is wired with hormones or whatnot, you may not want to say anything for a while], how long you've been dating, the depth of your relationship, and if you really love him or not.

just remember, its an easy thing to say, but very nagging if it's said falsely or carelessly-- you would kinda feel guilty i guess.. like you are leading him on.

those three little words can cause a lot of problems or a lot of happiness... use them wisely.

if it feels right to say it, go ahead.


im 15 too, so that may influence whether you listen to what i said or just blow it off.

but good luck anyways! :]]

Answer 9

first of all, you need to know if you really love him. You dont just wait for the perfect time to say it, cuz there is no such a thing. Look inside your heart and find out if you feel that way about him. Ive been with my bf for about a year and 4 months, and i didnt say "i love you" until i was sure, and i really do love him, which took about 5 months into our relationship. Ask yourself if u truly love him, and then u could let him know

Answer 10

Well, that depends on how long you've been with him. You, gotta understand real love doesn't happen over night it takes time. Also, be sure that he is THE ONE before you use those strong 3 little words. Oh yea, you should also make sure he feels the same about you. So, when you say it you should REALLY mean it.