ok well here is the story...my girl thought i cheated on her...i never could never would...but this other girl made it seem that i reall did she made chats as if we cheated...and my gf belived it....first of all im a virgin the only thing i did kinda sexual was with my gf...but anywayz she thought i cheated and we broke up ...we somehow got back together but we got in a fight over somethin stupid and she changed her myspace too remove me from everything and she says she doesnt wanna be with me anymore... I still love her with all my heart and when i asked her if she loves me she said she doesnt know...at one time we were sure we would get married...but now i dont know what to say or do i miss her and dont know what should i do...any advice helps...im a good christian boy so i dont do the sleepin around thing at all and i only wanted her cuz i thought i was gonna marry her...
2006-08-05 16:04:21 · 9 answers · asked by Sphinx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well here is more info this other woman is older than me and i used to ask her advice about me and my gf then she freaked on me one day and said she wanted to be with me...i didnt want to be with anyone but my gf even though we had probs i love her...so she couldnt handle it and told me if i cant have you then she wont...and she didnt say anything to me for 2 weeks...then one day bam she came out with a made up chats that didnt happen and my gf belived her over me because of that stuff she made ...i told my gf you should know me better i never would...and now the reason we got in a fight was cuz she said a guy asked her out and she said no i have a bf...i jokinly asked her did you wanna go out with him and she said i dunno...so i got upset with her and we got in a fight...after that she just didnt want to be with me
2006-08-05 16:21:14 · update #1
AND BTW IM 25...
2006-08-05 16:27:22 · update #2
Your gf doesn't trust you now, and if she saw these "chats" you can understand why. Is there any way that you can show her that it wasn't you? Or prove what this other woman said,"if I can't have you she can't either"?emails,witness, anything? If not, you are going to have to work at building her trust, if you still want to be with her. Apologize for the "stupid"fight (yes, even if it wasn't your fault) and ask if you can start again. Good luck to you.
2006-08-05 16:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound real young to me and you have a lot of life left to live you have not had sex so it should be easy for you to move on, some how some where you must have done some thing to give her the impression that some thing did happen a woman is not going pick up and leave just like that.The eyes are the window to the soul what did she see in both your eyes.You are young take it one day at a time,love takes time if she is yours she will come back to you let her go. And start fishing again have faith.
2006-08-05 23:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, every thing depends on how your girl feels for you right now. Her believing that girl who told her that you cheated on her might be offensive on your part because she believed her more than she believed you whom she thought was the one lying. But you shouldn't be offended at all because some women are really prone to believing other people as far as love relationships are concerned and you know, mere gossips have been the cause of so many relationships going down the drain.
You should have a heart to heart talk with your gf who now seems to be your ex and tell her every single thing that is in your heart. Tell her that with all honesty, you have never cheated on her and what she heard from that girl was a mere lie but you really don't know what that girl was up to when she told your gf about your cheating on her.
Of, if you could talk to that girl and ask her to retract her statement from your gf's mind, talk to her and tell her that she might have just broken two hearts who were once ver much in love with each other with that lie. Make her feel the guilt of having changed your life's course and having taken away from you your heart's happiness with the loss of that woman you truly love just because she lied to her. If you could ask her to be with you when you talk to your gf personally, somehow, your gf would be able to see in your eyes and that girl's eyes that you did not lie to her when you said that you never cheated on her.
That is all you need and that's the only chance that you have to win back her trust in you. The last fight that you had might not have any bearing as far as her wanting to separate ways with you is concerned. I believe that still, it is her belief that you cheated on her that moves her away from you and so our strategy will have to work towards the elimination of that negative thought about you in her mind.
But if despite your effort to prove her wrong in believing that way and still nothing happens, perhaps she has another reason in her heart in trying not to communicate with you anymore. You have the right though to know what the real reason is and if she is matured enough to pour her heart out, you would know the answer.
Remember this... if you are meant for each other, no matter what is happening now, you still will find yourself back in her arms in the future but if you are not, Destiny will work towards your finding someone else who is the right one for you. Good luck.
2006-08-05 23:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear your situation, but I am curious as to why this other girl would exaggerate your convos with her in order to maliciously break you and your gf up. Who is this girl and why would your gf believe her over you? I just feel like there's more to this story.
At any rate, there are several possibilities as to why your gf is acting so strangely. It's hard to know how she really feels based on the information provided. I'm sure you have been very honest with her and very apologetic. You must decide if you want to continue to pursue her. If you do, suggest that you two remain friends. Over time, hopefully this situation will work itself out.
2006-08-05 23:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well first of all you need to set that girl straight who caused the problem, and ask your self why she did what she did,, hopefully not because you lead her on in anyway,, think about that,, second if your girlfriend moved that guickly to remove you from her space and says she doesnt wanna be with you anymore, than respect her wishes, she says doesnt know if she loves you , then she wont be ready to get married and if she did marry you imagine how fast she would leave if yall had a disagreement do you really want that in a marriage i know its hard because you are a virgin and im sure shared alot of things with her,,and i know you miss her but giving yourself to someone is a big deal and i think its important that your share that with someone who considers it important and something special that you choose to share with them,,, give it sometime, pray about it,, if she returns and works out then great,, but if she doesnt then consider that there is someone out there and if she didnt return to you its for good reason,,, maybe to keep from getting hurt further,, good luck
2006-08-05 23:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by babygirlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you been talking to another girl anywayz when your so serious about this one? You must have talked to her alot for her to go to such links as to do all of this to you and your gf. You need to find out how your girl really feels and if shes decided to move on, you must let go and realize maybe shes not the one God has for you in your life. Maybe there's someone else out there your supose to be with. If you two do decide to work things out, than stop talking to other girls, so much that they fall in love with you, get the net out of your lives and go out and enjoy each other. Either way, I wish you the best of luck with it all. Hang in there, enjoy life and wait for what God has to offer you.
2006-08-05 23:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by shouldibe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre a good guy right? .. write her a note saying exactly how u feel and that whatever happed so far was something stupid that you guys can talk out and that youre in it for keeps... that might make her change her mind.
2006-08-05 23:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Arvind C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE her believe that you didn't cheat on her. You can't make her trust you either. As sad as you feel, it's time to move on.
2006-08-05 23:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lindy357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....i say if u just wanted her to get married....there's plenty of other fish in the sea.....if she said "idk" to the "i love u" question....then its probly not worth troubling urself for her
2006-08-05 23:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by Carlito Heat88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋