I have always had a thing for bigger guys. My bf right now weighs 210 lbs and people criticize me over it because I only weigh 127 lbs at most. Does that make me look bad or something? Hes really sweet and I adore the guy. As sick as this may sound I like the fact that hes chubby I have this thing for grabbing onto a little something extra. But people say its so gross is there something wrong with me? How does that make me look? Am I blind for doing this? I have never dated a guy like this before but now that I am i am getting criticized so bad over it. Am I crazy for doing this?
2006-08-05 15:53:05 · 37 answers · asked by la weebit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like him,that's all that matters. If other people don't like it that's their problem and they can get over it.
2006-08-05 15:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he some one who treats you good and makes you happy? Do you enjoy being with him? It doesn't sound sick it sounds sweet. There is no law that states that we have to date by a weight ratio. By accepting him the way you do (even if it is a thing you have) you are more honest then a lot of others out there. The person he is is inside him. It's his spiritual essence. Ignore the ones putting you down. Maybe your happiness merely makes them jealous. Just for the record I am 191 pounds. I lift weights and keep in shape but, my girl friend is a whole 91 pounds.My ex-wife was a bit on the heavy side. I chose people because something about them attracted them to me. With me it was usually a smile.
2006-08-05 16:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that makes you look bad is asking the world whether or not your appearance is deteriorated by a person who you are supposed to care about. Is that all you think when you walk around with this guy: "I hope he's not making me look bad."?
You might not have come off so superficial if you just hadn't asked this question.
The obvious answer, though, is that you should stick with whoever makes you happy. Those who do not acccept your boyfriend because of his weight are nothing more than superficial snobs who do not deserve your or his company.
You look good when you smile next to the person you care about.
2006-08-05 19:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by chinoster_7u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you like guys with a little more weight than the norm is neither here
not there. How do you like him personally?
Would you still like him if he was 50 pounds lighter?
If so, then that means you like HIM and not his weight and who the hell
cares what other people think? Have a good time.
If people are criticizing you, they are small shallow vapid people.
Ignore them or tell them that life is too short.
2006-08-05 15:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you like who you like and whoever criticizes you for it isn't anyone worth your time or effort, why would these people be so rude and disrespectful not only to you but to your boyfriend...everyone has a certain type of person they like, why be with someone who doesn't fit into what you want? You would just be denying yourself and possibly passing up a great relationship because of what others may think about you.
2006-08-05 15:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be crazy, but if you are it's for worrying about what others think so much! He's a great guy, he treats you well, and you're happy with him, right? Would you rather be unhappy with a slender man? Of course not! Give your sweetie a great big hug and go be happy together!
2006-08-05 15:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not crazy at all....screw what other ppl think....if u 2 really like each other then it doesnt matter how much bigger he is than u....and ur not crazy for liking a guy whose chubby, thats just what ur into....itd be cool if more guyz where into girls like that, cause then that way most girls wouldnt become anorexic and stuff like that.....and my friend steven's a big guy who weighs 205 dating a tiny chick who weighs 110 lbs...and they look fine together.....so dont worry bout it...and be happy w/ him.
2006-08-05 15:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so u want 2 date guys like that...nothing wrong wit that. But wen U start 2 follow wat others r saying an thinking, then now ur dating not by wat u want, but how u want others 2 c u. So if u feel that u like dating that kind of guy an it makes u happy, then keep on keeping on, other than that, just let others decide who u should date an ruin ur life, completely up 2 u. Thanx 4 the 2 points...BOO-YA!!!
2006-08-05 15:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by bL@cK lUsTeR sOlD!Er 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the people who criticise you are the ones who are crazy. it is what is on the inside that counts - a person who makes you happy, no matter how they look, is just wonderful, and that should be all you look for in life.
if your partner brings a smile to your face, and better, you find him sexy, then that is awesome.
those who question you speak more about the sort of people they are than about you and your partner. really, do you want to be friends with people who judge only on looks?
2006-08-05 15:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what people say. If he is a nice person and treats you well that's all that matters. What's wrong with a guy that has some extra weight on him, I find them kind of sexy.
2006-08-05 15:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Izzy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're only "crazy" by societies standards. F*ck society! If he makes you happy, then who the hell cares what he looks like? In fact, I bet all those people to make fun of you are, deep down, just jealous that they haven't found the happiness you've found.
2006-08-05 15:58:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋