my gf cheated on me a while back but tells me she knows she messed up and that she wants to be with me and marry me we were only together 2 weeks when it happen ive forgiven her but sometimes doubt her if shes faithful even tho she says has not cheated on me since then and is total dedicated to me does she love me and wont cheat on me any more? or will she cheat again? i treat her like a queen and i dare not to even look at another girl thats how much i love her but is her love the same as mine now that she realizes she has something good? and we have been together a year now but i still doubt her sometimes in ur faithfulness. i need to know if i should let her go and find someone is faithful to me.
2006-08-05 15:50:52 · 9 answers · asked by Darkness Falls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you have to talk with her about it. Yes, a woman can love you even if she has cheated on you but is it the kind of love that's worth having? That's the question.
As a girl, I know that in the very early days of a relationship you don't always realise what a gem you might have. Perhaps she really just made a dumb mistake. You don't always know straight away that you're onto a winner, something that requires monogamy, so perhaps it was a silly error that will never be repeated. Only you can know for sure. If you love her and want to trust her, and she keeps telling you that you should trust her, then make the decision - either trust in her properly, or leave her free to find someone who will trust her. It isn't fair to be in a relationship with someone when you can't, or don't, trust them completely - it's degrading to the other person, and damaging to you both. So decide if you want to give up the betrayal of a year ago and grow up and move on, otherwise leave her be.
Don't ever invest more in a relationship than you can afford to lose.
2006-08-05 16:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest people cheat for all kinds of reason but I believe it's because there is something lacking in the relationship. Maybe it was a one time thing and she does realize she messed up depends alot on the age too. Did she tell you herself she cheated or did you hear it from someone else ?? Because if she told you then I believe she is trying to be honest with you and get past this with you. The other problem is if you feel you cannot let go of this then the relationship will not work because you will always wounder and not trust her. If there is no trust in a relationship there really is nothing. Good Luck
2006-08-05 16:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by lorie01504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mistake is something you did not intentionally plan on doing! When she cheated, she knew what she was doing, cheating is not a mistake, I hate when people use that as an excuse. She found someone hot and attractive, screwed his brains out and now feels guilty, apologized to you, you accepted her apology but now are having doubts.
You can ask for advice, I understand your position on this, but the reality is, no matter what advice is given to you on this board, you, initially, will have to make the decision on weather to take her back, or give her up. What does your instincts tell you to do?
I think you know what you really want to do, you are just afraid to do it because you are so in love with her. You can give her a second chance and work things out slowly, but do not rush into the marriage part, give that some serious time.
You need to sort out your feelings, and she needs to prove to you that she can be trusted. If she really loved you, think about this.. if she really loved you..why would she have cheated...yeah, everyone gets tempted, but know one makes you cheat, that's a decision you choose to make, then when a person gets caught, I guess reality hits them, and the guilt and they promise not to do it again.
Dude, find someone who is into (YOU)...You know her better than anyone here, so you make that choice, we are only here to give you our own opinions.
If it were me, I would say nice knowing ya!
2006-08-05 16:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,,
this always a tough question,, because you have to consider the factors involved ,, because yall werent together but only for two weeks, still new,, she may be truthful when she says she knows she did wrong,,a guestion did she confess this to you or did you find out,, and when you approach her on this did admit or lie,, those are important too.. if she cheated and lied about it when you asked her ,,and you forgave her and your still doubting its understandable,, considering you knew and she continued to lie until she finally gave in,, then i would say,, ask yourself do you want to marry her and live with always questioning if shes being truthful, and constantly worrying about if shes going to be truthful,, because honey in marriage when you forgive and move on,, then you have to believe she was being honest when she apologized and give her that and trust her,, people do make mistakes,,but if you cant get past that,, then it will only make problems for you latter on,,,so i guess that comes down to how much do you love her and do you love her enough to let it go and move on from this day on without questioning everything she says and does.. im not bashing you but i have been on both sides of it,, so i know what your feeling,, and ask yourself another thing, does she love you and make you feel secure that she loves you and is committed or is there things that have gone on that give you this insecurity,,,really think about this , because marriage is a big step and you dont want it to end up in disaster and end up being more hurt and resentful which will ultimately give you trust issues in your next relationship. good luck
2006-08-05 16:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by babygirlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her back, dude! Once a cheater, always a cheater. Besides, she obviously never loved you in the first place if she cheated on you the first time. You'd be wasting your time. Move one and find someone who can actually respect you.
2006-08-05 15:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point I would say it doesn't matter if she will cheat on you again because you haven't gotten over her doing it in the first place my advice would have to be move on its not worth losing your mind over. If there is no trust there is no relationship.
2006-08-05 16:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl can still love you if she cheated on you. if she made a mistake thats one thing, if it something that she continues to do and doesnt stop than i would say that she doesnt love you. good luck!!
2006-08-05 16:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dont take anything 2 love anybody. is she in love with u, thats the question. do u feel the same way about her. do u trust her, if so then u should make it work if not leave her alone b4 someone really get hurt emotionally
2006-08-05 16:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Keeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out trust there is no one good happy relationship.
2006-08-05 16:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by raquelshappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋