I met this girl in school last year and she talks to me a lot. By the end of the school year we were talking a lot and hanging out. But I started to realize whenever she is around her other friends she acts totally different sometimes like she doesn't even notice me. I like her a lot and I was talking to her today when her friends came to see her and I know some of them and they were like ok cya and I started to finish my conversation and she just left..... It seems like when it is just me and her talking we would be perfect for eachother but sometimes she changes..... I have tried to talk to her about and she just says she feels bad about it so maybe is it just pressure to be with the more "popular" people and it's not like I'm a loser I talk to those people but I really don't wanna end up a pot head... Please help me!!!
2006-08-05 15:48:09 · 15 answers · asked by Royal Navy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
same thing with me
2006-08-05 15:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having the same problem you are having and just on day if your hanging out with her alone talk to her about it and if her friends dont like u becuase your not as cool as them or dont smoke pot then mabey thats just not the girl for u and u can have friends that smoke pot and u dont have 2 smoke it just walk away while there doing it thats what i do. Hope things turn out for the better. P.S. if she wont listen to u then write her a letter it may be childish but that may be the only way to talk to her about it
2006-08-05 16:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Basketball FREAK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't blow off the friendship you have. You both have put a lot of time and energy into it, and it sounds like you are compatible one on one.
You can be friends with someone without being friends with her friends. Her friends sound shallow (and so does your friend. . .a little).
Do tell her--don't just try, but DO--tell her you don't appreciate being blown off by her in the middle of a conversation. Her friends can wait a couple of minutes while you wind things up. She might get a little huffy, but she'll respect you more when you demand that she treat you with respect.
2006-08-05 15:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's what you call "peer pressure" Maybe you should try to talk to her again about it. If she still does the same thing again, then maybe she's not ready to show her friends that she really likes you. Which would mean you should move on and find someone who is not easily pressured and who knows what she wants.
2006-08-05 15:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's pressure. I know how you feel. I'm not popular at all. That's why I try to stay away from the popular ones. Pressure ruins everything sometimes.
2006-08-06 14:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to me all the time when I was in school & before I moved here to Hawaii. Now the only people I know are the ones I work with & they are mostly females
2006-08-05 15:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone acts differently around just you and a another way around everyone else then they are playing you and not being themselves. Maybe she is scared to be her REAL self around someone who means alot to her but she might just be using you
2006-08-05 15:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her man! Don't take that kind of treatment from any girl. I don't know why she talks to you to begin with, but she's not worth your time or energy. There are just too many other girls to put up with that nonsense. Good luck!
2006-08-05 15:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
My name is Justine. Here is my advice. If the girl really likes you for you she should be able to talk to you with or without her friends. If you want her to know you like her you should tell her. Girls like it when guys aren't that shy. That is my best advice.
Justine
2006-08-05 15:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by *NightLover* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she too worried about being popular
2006-08-05 15:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by big jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a lot of fish in the pond. it seems like you're havin problem with her already, and she's not even your girl yet. but if you think you can't live without her, get used to it.
2006-08-05 15:57:00 · answer #11 · answered by jules1225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋