help with relationship?

Question

my gf and i had been dating for 2 years. 2 days ago she said she needed a break and that she didnt feel the same way about me. but, up until then she had expressed that she loved me all the time. i mean it felt like she loved me. and there is no way of faking loving someone. i love her so much. and i feel like crap. like there's a hole in me. and i miss her so much. i dont know what to do. should i call her soon or wait a while? cause there is no way i can just let this go after everything we have both put into this relationship.

thanks for everyone's answers of support. i'm very glad that people actually do care about helping out each other.

Answer 1

first of all,sorry,cuzz i kno that hurts ewspecially after 2 years...Then again,STOP BEING SUCH A WUSS,,tell u what,give her sumtime,she probably found someone else,but if u guys really had sumthn,she WILL b back! cuz she wil never find another guy like u,a guy who luvs her as much as u do,
AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY,THAT THERE AINT MANY OF THEM LIKE U OUT THERE!.
so give her a call like after a day or so,keep contact,don't show her u miss her so much,don' tell her either,just drop subtle hints. e.g most of the giid time u had 2getrher,but don't cry 4 her,she might take advantage of u, i have this feeling she wil b back.
GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

I am sorry for your pain. Unfortunately life is all about changes. If she needs a breather she may find that the other guys in the world are jerks and she comes rushing back to you. Or you may have to prepare yourself for the fact that she may not come back. If that is the case, Honey you are better off. I have had many many relationships and as I look back on them I realize that these people were just passing thru my life. When I find newer, better relationships, I THANK GOD THAT THE OLD ONES DIDN'T STAY. I know it will be hard at first, you had a long history with this person. Surround yourself with positive friends and plenty of activities, try to stay away from the booze and you will feel better over time. Hang in there and good luck. Some new cutie will come along and turn your head, guaranteed, women are like buses, another one comes along in five minutes.

Answer 3

Dude, I have been married 4 times and had a few girl Friends as well. I have felt every bit like you do right now and even stayed home every night for months thinking she would come back to me if I did nothing wrong. But guess what. All the time I was staying home waiting they was out darting a new guy. They most likely had sex no telling how many times while I was home thinking she would come back.

Dude I have seen this before and she has found someone she is interested in and is going after it. She has already been to bed with him and you are not going to get her back. When she knew she had him trapped was when she dumped you. She is no longer single.

Go find someone else. Quit wasting your time.

Answer 4

When something like this happens, it's usually been a long time in the making. Don't worry, she's already over the breakup. She was over it before she actually broke up with you. There are too many ways you could have caused this for me to list, but the most common one is to be together too much. If you seem too needy, you will make her lose respect for you. I'm afraid there's no turning back from this point. Don't sweat it, though. It's better that you get her out of your life ASAP. Don't take her back unless you want this to happen again. Good luck with the next one!

Answer 5

She is not breaking up with you. Maybe she just needs some time to figure out what she wants. Give her a little time to do that but if she takes too long then I would consider moving on. I know easier said than done but you shouldn't wait on her for too long. Maybe a month. After that talk to her and if she wants more time maybe another couple of weeks but after that you need to let her go and find someone new. Good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe u should figure out Y she dumped u. Because I don't feel the same way doesn't really explain anything, just ask for more details. Then u can decide if u still want to rekindel any realtionships, who knows maybe she has a reason that u can't change so u r just setting urself up for failure.

Answer 7

Well not to sound rude...I'm a female and I would have to say that possibly if she wants a break then she might have someone else in mind. She...like you may still feel the love, but something else has obviously perked her interest. I say just wait a while and see what happens.....at least still stay friends if that's possible.

Answer 8

It sounds like she is a little confused. Perhaps you might want to call her up soon, set a date and tell her you want to talk about this. Ask her what's going on. Since you put 2 yrs into this relationship, you deserve to know where you stand. From there, you can decide if you still want to pursue this or move on.

Answer 9

If she wants to break up, talk to her, convince her or persuade her. But if she still refuses then end it nicely and remain friends.
So that she still keeps a good memory of you. It is likely that she just wants to enjoy life a bit. As friends you can always communicate and get back together again. And observe her, she may be looking for something specific, once you find what it is then you can win her back!

Answer 10

i think that you should talk to her now!! i said that same thing to my now husband and it was only because i was getting afraid because my feelings were getting so strong for him. sometimes its scary when you realize that you are with one person and that you are going to stay that way. give her a break, as long as she isnt cheating on you then you can work it out. sometimes we would rather be alone then continue risking ourselves to be hurt by letting the bond get deeper. relationships are hard work sometimes hun!! good luck!!