ok so my gf invited this guy to go to an amusement park with us and some other people and they were talking and smiling at each other in a line. Then 4 days later he called her while we were at my friend's house at 9:20....and she told me how he told her that he had sex with his past gf.
2006-08-05 15:41:53 · 40 answers · asked by somerandomdude2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By this time, I don't think she is because generally, in cheating, telling lies is just a part of the game. The mere fact that she even told you what they talked about is a manifestation of her being honest with you. Had she wanted not to tell you about it, she could have easily done away with it by just being quiet or by telling you other things than what they really talked about.
Put your trust in her a lot, lot more and don't be paranoid by what negative things enter your mind about her and that guy. In due time, if she really will be cheating on you, you will know it somehow through her actions and words. You would feel her coldness about your relationship which was filled with her warmth before and her interest in being with you would die down. All things of these sort are signals if someone is cheating on his or her partner.
And for as long as you don't see those signals, just continue loving her and giving her your trust. Love becomes stronger and lasts if it is a product of mutual trust and love. Good luck to both of you.
2006-08-05 15:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say at this point, it would depend on how she is acting towards you, and also is she still interested in spending her time with you or is she all of a sudden bussier than normal? Does she get calls and then suddenly has to leave for work or somewhere else? does she still get physical or intimate with you or does she seem ddistant when it comes to that.
Does she act somewhat secretive such as getting nervous or upset if you look in her address book or things like that. Does she look you in the eyes or turn away, does she acuse you of cheating, does she get offensive when you talk or ask questions about people cheating? these are all questions to consider before making a true acqusation that she is cheating. You can even talk to the other guy, and ask questions, or someday follow her but don't let her know or see you and then you will for sure know.
2006-08-05 15:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by mn01countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not yet. It seems they're in the phase where they're "just friends" but flirting and getting to know each other. It's a dangerous path that will end up putting them in a compromising situation.
The best thing you can do is become friends with him and get to know him as well as you can. If your girlfriend reacts to your friendship - good or bad - you can be sure I was right. Either way, you'll get a feel for what kind of person he is while letting him know how strongly you feel about your girlfriend. You'll also have a better idea of where they both are when they're not with you.
I wish you the best, but once these suspicions surface, it's a good bet you may already know something's not right.
2006-08-05 16:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Everyone is capable of monogamy, it is just a matter of when and why for some. Everyone 'cheated' before they got married. Cheating is only without the knowledge of the other partner or partners. Are you capable of not 'cheating'?
2016-03-27 00:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Edeltraud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she cheating on you....probably not. Is he stepping on your toes....it appears to be a yes for you. The best thing in situations like this is to be open with your gf about how you feel about the situation. If she says "I don't care how you feel I'm going to do the same things." than do you want to be with that kind of girl? If she understands that it is putting you in a bad situation, respects the fact that she is your girlfriend....she should be able to put boundaries on her friendship with this other guy. Guys and girls can be friends...as long as everyone respects everyone.
2006-08-05 15:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by anysomeone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need more details, because 9:20 is way out of line.
2006-08-05 15:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she is cheating on you. Maybe this guy is just a good friend and he can trust and confide in her. If that is the case, I think it is very healthy for people of the opposite sex to have friendships like that. Just because they are of the opposite sex doesn't mean they have to be intimate together. good luck
2006-08-05 15:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sara Lee 23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She wouldn't be telling you about her conversation or answer the call if she was cheating on you and didn't want you to know. Also, she invited more than just the guy WITH you present.
2006-08-05 15:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by erk m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are just friends to me i have a male friend that we talk about how he has sex with his gf and i talk to him about my sex life with my now ex-bf he is like one of my female friends in that we can talk about any thing i can talk to a female friends about. I call people late and to i smile at people especially if they say something that makes me happy or is funny etc... and about going to the park with you guys sounds like a friend so i would say probably not but if she wont talk to him AT ALL on the phone in front of you then maybe but i doubt it i would say that if she was she would not bring him around you at all if she was cheating on you with him because she would not want you to know about him but friends she should and would bring around you so let go of the paranoia and if rest at ease remember its okay to have friends of the opposite sex and its actually healthy
2006-08-05 15:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cheating, but I would sit down with your gf and have a chat. I sat down with mine and told her how I didn't want her to communicate with some people I don't like. If she truely cares for you, she'll listen.
2006-08-05 15:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋