I don't want to break-up w/my bf because i do have strong feelings for him. it's hard also b/c we have a long-distance relationship. but, i find myself flirting w/other guys. i don't want to break my bf's heart, especially since he's told me that he loves me. aagh! help plz.
2006-08-05 15:26:47 · 24 answers · asked by Ne-ne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be honest and let go now. Long distance relationships are very tuff and rareley last. You need to let him go now, yes it might hurt him some but he will heal. Its better to do it know than to hurt him later. It will hurt more then. Its better to be honest now then to actually possibly cheat on him later. Good luck!
2006-08-05 15:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by lolio_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he loves you...but do you love him?
I know how hard long-distance relationships can be. But to be honest with you, unless its a very serious relationship it won't work out for very long.
My fiance and I are on a "long distance" situation right now while he's away on business in a different state. And that's horrible on both of us. Keep in mind....he's my FIANCE.
So if you're not something real then it wont work out for long. As blunt as that sounds, but it's true.
But if you just wont let him go then try to be around other guys ((without cheating)) and after awhile you're realize that you dont want anyone else but ur bf or you'll be saying...my bf who?
2006-08-05 22:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your reason for wanting to talk to this other boy. there is something that he is not fulfilling. get a sheet of paper. put down the negative stuff about your boyfriend. then on the other half of the paper put down the positive stuff . if the negative way out the positive then make friends with the boy. but at the same time tell your boyfriend so he doesn't have to find out from someone else. finding out from someone else will only make matters worse. especially if the story is twisted.
2006-08-05 22:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by mspann1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him because he does not deserve you going out flirting with other men because this is cheating because you are not totally in the relationship 100% because if you were then you would not be considering talking to other men especially flirting with other men. One thing you must remember he would rather be broke up with before you hurt him more than after a bunch of heartbreaking incidents
2006-08-05 22:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell him that you're talking to other guys as friends basis, if you know that you're not going to cheat on him, he should trust you. Long distance relationship isn't easy, as long as you're honest and open about your life and that you're loving him faithfully then I think you should tell him that you can talk to other guys, if he trusts you. you're still in the dating phase, do what your heart and head tell you, if you think you can't handle the distance relationship by all means break up and find one of the guys you're talking to to be with. Once you're married there's no looking back. dating phase and marriage are 2 different worlds.
2006-08-05 22:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty ,communication and openmindedness are three keys to a relationship two main very important one are trust and honesty with out those,your relationship is already introuble ,any way talk to your boy friend ask to have an open mind lett him know what is on your mind if not arelationship will be lost ,
Again forgive me if i am to blunt I just dont want to see either one of you hurt...
2006-08-05 22:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by red velvet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody flirts a little it just depends on how strong you flirt. I think your just going through a phase right now. You really care for your boyfriend so don't screw it up for an emotional brain fart. lol. This will pass trust me and if you let it control you then you will regret it for the rest of your life possibly.
2006-08-05 22:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you're just friends with the other guys, I don't see a problem...you can never have too many friends, besides, you might find that you would prefer one of the other guys instead once you get to know them or vice versa. I don't know how old you are, but until you've taken those wedding vows, all's fair in love & war.
2006-08-05 22:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be in a relationship if your going to act like that if your guy is serious and willing to make the distance between you guys work and your not ready for commitment break up before you guys get hurt
2006-08-05 22:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by easybreezy beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ne-ne,
If you really like your bf more than flirting with other guys then stop flirting with them. It's just my opinion. Because what if your bf was flirting with other girls. You wouldn't like that. lol. Other guys you hang with, you should think of them as friends. Even if they're cute. lol. Well that is my best advice Cya.
2006-08-05 22:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by *NightLover* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋