would you feel like you wore the pants, and is that ok?
2006-08-05 15:15:05 · 41 answers · asked by ygutyutyutyutyutyu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why can't we just stick with tradition and stop trying to change the rules in the middle of the game. Soon (some) people will want to make marrying your little brother or sister ok.
2006-08-05 15:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't believe that either the woman or the man should change their names. That tradition goes back to when women were considered men's "property." I think people should retain their individuality in a marriage rather than accept that whole "we must merge as one" bullsh*t." Two individuals love one another and have decided they want to codify the union by getting married and spending their lives together - that's great! Why the hell does anybody have to change their names?! I'll never understand that.
2006-08-05 15:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can take any name. Some people hyphan their last names and some take either or. It depends on what you and your other diside. Relationships are 50/50 so really the last name is just something you put down but anyone can wear the pants.
2006-08-05 15:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswimma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 3 times, and it would sure be tempting to have him take my name, (if I ever marry again) It's such a pain in the butt to change your name on EVERYTHING. Driver's license, credit cards, social security card, magazine subscriptions, mail, stuff at work, etc.... It takes forever. But I like the tradition of taking the man's name, so, no matter how much trouble it is, I guess if I ever take the plunge again, lol, I'll do it.
2006-08-05 15:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... I mean why does it matter who wears the pants, for me a marrige is supposed to be about teamwork. Two people who love eachother are working together, starting a family and are supporting eachother. If wearing the pants really matters that much to a man I would question my relationship and last names isn't as important as the love. To answer your question of course its okay, but it might not be for some people. you just never really know.
2006-08-05 15:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by just_ask_then_listen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
I have always consideered this to be an option when I get married.
I see like this, why should the women always change her identity throughout history? I've done alot and been through alot with this name. It's who I am. If my husband wants a name change to happen after marriage then it could be his. It's 2006.
Women don't spend their lives in the home anymore;p
2006-08-05 15:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Shanysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a little old fashioned when it comes to that. i think a woman should take the mans last name because it is a way of saying that you accept them into your life and are one union. i think that a guy can take a girls last name too, but it seems taboo to me. women are so hung up on all the rights they have, and then they want to keep changing things, i mean its like a power thing i think. marriage is about love you know?
2006-08-05 15:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one of "those" last names...I really wouldn't wish it on anyone, including myself. However, I'd never change my name if I married. It's mine...I'm used to ...I have a long term career established using that name.
I think it's one of those things you have to discuss BEFORE you get married...it's right up there with finances, children, division of labor, saving/spending styles, long term goals...and so on.
As to wearing the pants...that's so passe. If you can't enter into a marriage as partners, equal partners, then you don't need to be doing it.
2006-08-05 15:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin's wife demanded he use her last name as well as their children take hers. She was manipulating and extremely controling throughout their marriage. They are now divorced and their children have only her name - the way she wanted it in the beginning. Besides - we've gotten so far away from traditional family values; what's wrong with taking your husband's name and being 'taken' by your man? I like that way!
2006-08-05 15:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by DarM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my hubby's but I had a really crappy last name van sickle try getting a fricken call center rep to say that right got me a nice smith :) people can say smith it's good if your idenity is wraped up in a name you have more issues and should wait on marriage
2006-08-05 15:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Cbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋