There is this guy that asks me out all the time and I keep telling him I am working and I cant. He is not getting the hint that I am not interested. So how else should I go about doing it cuz we are like somewhat friends. An I still want to be friends with him.
2006-08-05 15:07:42 · 24 answers · asked by marikee9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A resolution to avoid an evil is seldom framed till the evil is so far advanced as to make avoidance impossible.
Q: "How do you tell a guy u are not interested?"
A: "I am not interested. I still want to be friends."
"I am working and I cant." Is not a true expression of your feelings about this guy. This statement is in fact providing the motivation for him to continue to ask you out. ...after all you will eventually be off from work. This guy needs something definitive so he can constructively deal with his emotions regarding your rejection.
2006-08-05 15:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by JReb_67 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell him the truth, because he probably won't get the hint. It will be difficult to remain friends with him, but you will be a better friend for telling him the truth. Something else you may be able to get away with is to introduce him to a girl you think he would like and who he has a chance with, but that's harder to do than to simply break it to him straight. Whatever you do, just make sure to be direct about it. Telling him lies is the worst thing you could do, because he will not get the hint that way. You will be doing him a great service by telling him the truth, so try not to feel guilty about it. The only suitable lie you can tell is to say that you have a boyfriend, but that will not work because you are friends with him and he will find out! Good luck!
Note: Do NOT keep making excuses! It will take him way too long to get the hint, and he will probably resent all the lying!
2006-08-05 22:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sounds like there might still be something you are doing that is encouraging him. Being too nice.
Just be friendly but breif when you talk to him.
And just keep making excuses. He'll eventually get the point. A good excuse is, "I'm taking a break from dating". But if he wants to hang out you are still busy-they hold out a lot of hope anyway. Also, it helps to be dating someone else!
Oh, and you can be honest but dont say "I just want to be friends" ouch-imagine if you heard that.
2006-08-05 22:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by sofun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straightforward. Don't make excuses about your time. He needs to know that you're not interested in having a relationship with him. Anything less, drags it out and he'll keep bugging you until you get er.. witchy with him or agree to go out just to shut him up.
2006-08-05 22:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by James II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made excuses by saying you have to work all the time and don't have time. So, you have given the impression that you are interested, just really busy. You should say that although I very much enjoy being your friend, I don't think we are compatible to date at this time. Thanks for your interest.
2006-08-05 22:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him directly. Don't be indirect and say you're busy because he'll try to find a way around it, like asking what your schedule is.
2006-08-05 22:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him you are working is giving him the idea you *would* go out if you weren't working, that's why he keeps asking.
Just tell him you really value his friendship but you don't feel romantic about him. There's really no other way to say it.
2006-08-05 22:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Say, "sorry, but I'm not interested."
Anything less but the blunt truth will just keep him hanging on and is much crueler in the end.
2006-08-05 22:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by chemicalimbalance000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want to be friends. Guys usually know that's "girl code" for "I don't like you that way and don't want to date you".
2006-08-05 22:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straightforward with him, cuz otherwise your going to get to your breaking point and say something you will regret.
2006-08-05 22:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋