DONT give me that "50/50" crap, relationships are NEVER 50-50 and many times the girl likes to be in charge behind the scenes but make the guy THINK he is in charge.
so lets be real and truthful here. is it better if the girl is in control (behind the scenes or not), or the guy? and dont answer with "it should be give and take" it never ends up coming out even;)
2006-08-05 15:02:00 · 11 answers · asked by ygutyutyutyutyutyu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU GUYS SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO "it should be equal!" allowed
so boring
2006-08-05 15:07:00 · update #1
It should be equal
2006-08-05 15:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I like being in control of the fiances and stupid stuff like where we go to eat.I think that there is a natural alfa dog in every relationship. If you look in nature you can see that one dog submits to another. I think it's great if you can be 50/50 but it's not very likely to happen that way. People have different issues that are important to them and things that are not important that they may decide that they can give into their partner. I have to say that if you dominate your partner on everything that you are more likely to get a divorce. the different issues may not come out the same but who ever comes out 40/60 needs to be comfortable with that point are less they will get tired of submitting and tear their spouse a new one and file for divorce. Most of the time it is the women who take and the man who takes control. However as we all know the divorce rate has risen to show that women aren't staying in their place like we used to.
2006-08-05 15:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you are concerned with this idea of control? Control is not healthy in a relationship, but as we are all human, it happens, often based on expereinces from our past and how we grew up. If you are thinking about this issue, you are obviously concerned about it, and may need to resolve that issue with yourself before worrying about it in a relationship. People, in the end, do what they want to do, and real love, in the end, lets them. The if you love someone set them free thing.But real love also learns how to work through conflict over time so that control is not an issue. Just my 2 cents.
2006-08-05 16:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by TheyreComingToTakeMeAwayHaHa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not guys be in charge for a few days then let girls to be incharge for another few days
2006-08-05 15:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Frendlygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it should be a 50 - 50
2006-08-05 15:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm definitely the boss in my house. We didn't decide, it just turns out that way. I think because I'm more aggressive sexually. We aren't into S and M, nothing like that. It's just a personality thing.
2006-08-05 15:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there shouldn't be a control aspect in a relationship. you cant tell another adult what to do.both parties should give a 100% percent each.so it should be 100/100
2006-08-05 15:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Han_dang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is supposed to b 100-100 but it never is. if u just let the girl b incharge then it should work out fine ha ha
2006-08-05 15:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by tmm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not trustworthy. Just dump him, trust me.
2016-03-27 00:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Edeltraud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the girl is controlling then u have to let her be incontrol but if shes not see wut happens and if u think she's controlling hen she should be the one in controll but if u want to be incontroll then u can be in controll idc im not in the relashionship
2006-08-05 15:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋