Should i end the relationship? Need advice!!!!?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for over a month now. She works as a dealer in a casino on graveyard shift. But recently, i have this feeling that she is avoiding me. I cannot go to her house anymore. I don't know how hard it is to work on graveyard shift, but i do believe that i give her more than enough time to sleep. For example, i called at 8 am, she said she's already asleep. I called again at 5 pm (9 hours sleeping time), called again at 8 pm, she said she had to go to work. Tuesday and Wednesday are her days off. I called her on Tuesday. She slept for the whole day AGAIN, saying that the house is too noisy during daytime. Wednesday, she came to my house around 8:30 pm, plop on my bed and SLEEP, AGAIN, and left at around 12:30 am. She said she didn't feel well. Ok acceptable. But this has been going on for 2 weeks now. We only see each other for like 5 to 8 hours in a week. My patience is at its limit. Does she have another guy out there? Should i just end it? I love her.

Answer 1

Communicate with her. Something other than "you" may be going on.

Answer 2

You say just recently, is that she has just recently seem distant or worked the graveyard shift? It is hard for some people to work those hours and sounds like she would be on her feet the whole, time. And if you get phone calls and different things during the day when you try to sleep it can add to the feeling of not getting enough sleep. It doesn't sound like she has time to see anyone else.

Answer 3

Ok first of all, if you arent happy with this relationship then you need to talk with her. ......life is too short to be unhappy. Its only been a month.....and u love her??? why????? Ask yourself why you love her and tell her the reasons. If she loves you she will respond in a positive way. Dont attack her, talk to her using words like I, ME, I feel...not words like YOU do these things. People get on the defensive when they feel like they are being criticized and attacked. So now that you got that piece of advice down.....the best advice is talking with her. No matter how busy you are, you will always try to make time for the people u love. Let her know you are there for her and then shutup and let her talk. Say your peace and let her do some talking. I have read what the others have wrote and yeah she might not be interested or she might just be busy or, or, or but you will never know until you listen. And the answer to your question might just actually be answered.

Answer 4

working a graveyard changes your life. Your body clock gets all screwed up and yes sometimes you sleep too much. If she just started this shift then give her some time to adjust. If she has been working the same shift for 5 years- then you may have a problem.

Answer 5

Working the graveyard shift sucks and it is difficult . It does wear you out and it is hard to sleep during the day. She is probably very exhausted, I know I was. I never got any decent sleep and I felt like crap. On my days off, I slept like crazy. I was exhausted. I will NEVER work the graveyard shift again, I just didn't have a life

You need to be patient. I know it's difficult, but you just have to hang in there.

Answer 6

Based on how you've described the situation, it appears as though she is avoiding you. Possibly she has found someone else, maybe she's no longer interested, maybe she's just bored in the relationship. If you do love her and you would like to work things out, you should sit down and talk with her. Don't hold anything back, just tell her what you need to say and listen to what she tells you. Maybe she doesn't realize it's a problem since it hasn't been brought up yet. Above all, trust your instincts.

Answer 7

Nah I can tell you she is just someone who needs her sleep cause i used to work 11pm till 7 am and when I got off work I satyed up till 9-10am and then slept till 10pm I love to sleep I could sleep 16 hours a day if my bills would pay them selves maybe you can ask her to switch shifts or if your that concerned ask her if she is avouding you alot of relationships don't last due to lack of communication

Answer 8

When would she have time for another guy? It's not your job to decide how often or how much she sleeps. If it's not enough for you then you move on. Tell her you need to spend more time with the girl you are seeing and go.

Answer 9

maybe she just needs reassurance about that love that you have for her....be more understanding...she did go out of her way to go to your place (regardless if she just slept).If you really suspect that there's another guy...then do investigative work on it then dump her if you've proven it....but if these are all baseless accusations....place yourself in her shoes and think how it would feel....i hope this is not just about not getting enough of the S*X because women hate that guys impose this need when we are busy with our lives ourselves and frankly she may be too tired and that she may be unsure as to what your future plans are with her....no one wants to feel that that's the only thing you want from them....

Answer 10

well i think that it is a little soon to be in love with her, but i guess love comes whenever it comes. i honestly dont think that your relationship is going to well. i mean it is possible that she is really not feeling well, but the chances are also good that she is cheating on you with someone else, maybe someone that she works with, i think that you should ask her honestly whats going on. tell her that if she is sick than you want to help her and take care of her, ask her if there is anything bothering her with your relationship or maybe at work or something. communication will help you through this. good luck!!

Answer 11

If I were in your shoes I would let her down easy. I don't think she's cheeting on you but I do think she's giving you the cold sholder. I don't think she wants you at her house because she's hiding something that she really doesn't want you to find out about. But look at the bright side you can start looking for new girls if this keeps up.