He can go without for awhile and will not drink if he has to work. His definition of "relaxing" typically includes drinking and one taste of beer will start him off to drink through the day/night if I don't intercede.
2006-08-05 14:09:06 · 50 answers · asked by gabby 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
You think he changes who he is, his tendencies, his preferences simply by going to work?
You think it is nearly every weekend? or could it be every weekend?
Man will not change until he realizes the awful conditions in which he lives and then only when he has a sincere desire to do so.
The changing point for me came when I realized my nervous system was being affected in negative ways. It was then, and with the aid of an AA friend that help me prove to myself that I cannot take just one drink! I will do whatever I have to to get another. Sound familiar?
Mam if he doesn't see any problem he will not change. Problems can come from the law or health failure or an accident or a financial mess or family separations.
It is not easy. I recommend that you attend AL ANON which is for the persons who live with alcoholics. Just go on a test basis and discover if you recognize the traits they will be discussing. Millions have been there before you worldwide so it is nothing new, just new to you.
Blessed be Mrs. Wife ...there is a movie line which just came to my mind
"Get busy living or...Get busy dieing"
2006-08-05 14:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by awaken_now 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. Someone that drinks as you describe, has a problem. Because you say, "one taste of beer will start him off to drink through the day/night if I don't intercede."
He is an alcoholic. What would he do if you were not there? He would drink until the beer was gone or he passed out, whichever came first. He needs professional help to quit, but that isn't going to happen in the near future.
What kind of a drunk is he? Does he get abusive in any way?
You need to decide it you are happier with him or without him.
You don't sound unhappy.
2006-08-05 14:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel most everyone that has answered has a problem and it is wanting to control how people live their lifes. Just how does it mean you have a drinking problem because someone wants to have a few beers on the weekend. There is nothing wrong with someone haveing a few beers on a week day.
I have a problem with church people. I think they have a god problem and Maybe I should set them down and talk to them and tell them how much it bothers me and how foolish they look beliveing in a fairytale like a little kid.
I say it is none of your business what he does. You trust him to do right or you leave. Up to you. You don't have the right to control anyone elses life. Try to run your own life if you can.
It is his life and if you don't like it get out. You would be doing him a favor. At some point you will push him away and he will start drinking at the bars and that will be when he meets a woman and you are out for sure then.
If you do not like a person being it male or female living their lifes the way that makes them happy then please leave and let them be. Why would anyone want to live a life of boardom just to make someone else happy. My life comes first and you need to find someone that will be happy with you telling him what to do.
2006-08-05 14:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is a problem. He can not stop when started. I was the same way. I would drink until all booze was gone. I could do without it for weeks and then have one beer or drink and here I would go again. I was a happy drinker though and never got mad. Your husband has some reason to drink on the weekends and in the evenings. Are you and he in a rut? Is something going on at home that he doesn't enjoy or agree with? Try to answer these questions with him.. Drinking like his is like binge drinking and a daily drinking problem. Try to get him to quit before his health and your marriage is ruined. IF he continues he will not be able to stop for work either. I stopped 16 yrs ago when I recognized that I had to be buzzed to have sex with my husband. The marriage was over and I had not admitted it to myself. It is much better to be sober and interact with family than to have your senses dulled by booze.
2006-08-05 14:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i get off work i drink a 6 pack of beer every night been doing it for years its not a problem to anyone my girlfriend doesn't mind i say leave the man be if he only drinks a little on the weekends so what it he dont beat you when he is drunk does he then you should't have a problem with get you some drinks and relaxe to or better yet smoke some herb while he drinks lol
2006-08-05 14:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by abramelin_the_wise_mage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GABBY, He is drinking at HOME he could be at a BAR and rubbing up to other women.He has a serious problem and you are his "substitute parent" he wants to be scolded and be taught to mind.I think some Spankings are in order.This binge drinking is his way of wanting to make love but he has not got the nerve to be a great lover until he has a drink then he can't make love because he thinks you are his mother and it become INCESTUAL and we all know this is a sport in WEST VIRGINIA. I recommend you sit down and drink with him get drunk and get sick and show him how he looks to you in your eyes. If this doesn't work get a lover and forget the bum.Be sure an belittle him before you leave him and tell him one of his children is really his brothers so he will leave the kids alone.
2006-08-05 14:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he sounds fairly normal although he could be a functional alcoholic. However, it seems he is just enjoying his weekend with a few drinks. If he drives while intoxicated or gets nasty, then I'd think there is a problem. But if he is just sitting home having a few drinks, I don't see anything wrong with that. And you said it's not interfering with his job, so he doesn't seem to be drinking every day or abusing it. He knows when to stop.
2006-08-05 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by TellMeMore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a problem to me, it is just recreation. If you are concerned (or don't like to drink), try introducing him to activities involving sobriety -- you and he are a couple, you should not be afraid to involve him in activities you enjoy.
What is your definition of relaxing? Is it stimulating enough that he would enjoy it without alcohol?
Perhaps try going out somewhere -- the theatre (catch an early session and have dinner afterwards), or the zoo, or somewhere else where people may not traditionally drink.
2006-08-05 14:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by 876 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he just has something of an alcohol reflex in the weekends and only when he's absolutely sure that it won't interfere with his job. So he is showing more than enough control. If on the other hand it bugs you overly plan something to do together where he has to stay off alcohol, for instance because he has to drive back home. Your options are quite infinite there and you know best what he likes, so start planning. Just make sure he enjoys it as much or more than getting his buzz.
2006-08-05 14:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have the problem. That is one of the signs of alcoholism, but it is only one. If you continue to intercede (preferably substituting something else he likes) then you may keep him from harm. Keep your influence on the positive side, so that he doesn't resent your intercession. A loving family is an excellent defense against a lot of problems.
2006-08-05 14:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋