I am married to a great girl. She has a 3 year old daughter though. Any advice for me concerning her child?

Answer 1

3 year old daughter though---?????
You married this lady with her child.
The child should be treated, as you would your own child.
I assume the child lives with the two of you. You are the father figure.
She may have given birth to the child, however you are in the same family as the child, therefore "dad", the child is also yours, wanting to be loved, cherished, taught, and treated as the child she/he is.

Answer 2

Let your wife do the parenting unless she asks you to intervene,you have to remember that this baby already has a daddy.Although if he is not a part of her life then sit down and have a talk with your wife to see how she wants you to participate in raising HER daughter,I know,I know,you first reaction to this might be "Yeah but now that we're married she's my daughter too" but you have to remember that your wife is her mother and she has the final word o what goes on.As for parenting though,the only thing you have to do is be patient.Children need someone to show they love and care for them,to teach them righ from wrong,to show interest in their interests,give them affection,to heal they spirit every once in a while and to reming them that they can do anything they put their mind to...but most of all,they need someone that will listen.I truely believe that if every child in the world had some that would listen to them,the world could be a better place,kids would not make bad decisions,they would not feel so alone and depressed in their teenage years and they would grow up to be much more caring and understanding people.
This is all the advice I can give at this time,if you ever have questions,you know where to find me.

Answer 3

be patient! if you haven't yet i'd talk to you wife and finc out if she thinks there should be any boundries in what you can or can't do as far as helping to raise her. (for instance i'm the nanny to my god daughter i have permission to spank her if needed however if her grandma/pa did that her mom would flip) so find out where she stands on these sort of things so that you both are on the same page. also if you haven't already thought about it, do you plan on adopting her daughter in the future? is that something she wants? of course the birth father would have some involvement in that as well (i don't know how he comes into play just suggesting). my father adopted my brother and older sister when he was 14 she was 12 because he was the one who was there and it made us a family all with the same last name and he was always dad even to this day and thier birth dad was always more of a sperm donor. i think as long as the both of you are on the same page it will go along smoothly and you guys will be great!
good luck!

Answer 4

I have a 3 year old daughter and got married a year ago. Alls I ask is him to participate as a family!! He does great!

Answer 5

Is her paternal father still in the picture? If so, a good idea would be to ask him. You wouldn't want to step on his toes or anything, but you would want her to know you also. The last thing you would want to do is try to be her "friend" and give her everything she wants to get her to like you. But most 3 year olds like Nick Jr., Playhouse Disney, etc. Try to ease your way in which shouldn't be hard because you did marry her mother, so you must know something about the girl.

Answer 6

treat her like you would treat your own. She is only three years old and you now have to be able to treat her so that she can respect and trust you. She is so young that she is very accepting of people right now. Don't ever give her reason to not trust you cause she can make your marriage hell if she ever wanted to. Your wife obviously had her little girl before you, and I know that if it were me in this situation I would always put my daughter first. That is just how it is.

Answer 7

Love her! You and your wife need to discuss what is appropriate in the way of discipline, etc. But be there for her, love her just like she were your own daughter from the very beginning. And thank you for giving a single mom a chance!

Answer 8

could the question be a little more vague??
anyway - the daughter will most likely look at you as her father - where is the real Dad is he around?? just be sure that if u get close to her and it doesnt work out in your marriage - try to stay in the her life if at all possible - u could cause serious abandonment issues -- depending on the circumstances of her bio-dad

Answer 9

Just go with the flow, dont try to push any relationship with the child....dont try to hard, i have found that in my relationship my daughter has taken to my new girlfriend in time and they are great friends and that is a start....hope this has helped
Cheer's Jake!

Answer 10

the most important thing you can do is to sit down with her and if possible the childs father ( not at the same time necessarily) and ask what they think your role as a step parent should be in disipline and decision making, then you need to show the child love and respect, treat her as if she were your own!