Never drank, smoked, kissed at 18? Is this weird?

Question

I'm eighteen years old, and I've never drank alcohol, smoked, done drugs, had any type of sexual intercourse, or even kissed a guy. I've never even been on a date. It's not that I'm unattractive, I think...I'm just shy about approaching guys.

Is it weird to wish that women's lib hadn't come so far in the dating world, to where we're expected to initiate things now? And is it weird to think that a kiss should mean something more than just "I went out with you," maybe something like "I love you?" Basically, what it comes down to is this: am I weird for never having done any of this stuff at my age?

Answer 1

That's not weird, I'm the same way. It just means that you have higher standards than most people, and you are a better person if you are able to keep from doing this stuff anyway.

Also, don't worry about the whole guy thing, guys don't seem to like me, either, and I'm not unattractive ( I look surprisingly like my avatar). It's just because I'm smart, tall, and a "good girl". That's the only reason they don't go for me.

You're fine, don't worry about it. When you're ready, guys will come after you, and when you are old enough, it's okay to drink now and then if you do it safely.

-Lella^_^

Answer 2

No. You just have what most people would call old fashion values. I didn't get kissed until I was 17 and I've never been drunk either (although i have drank), or smoked or done ANY drugs. I think your right on all of your views though. A kiss should mean more than "i went out with you". Kisses are just as special as sex is really, because when a person kisses you they touch your heart in some way. I think guys need to understand that a lot of women really don't want to make the first move, that we really enjoy being women and being, i suppose the right way to put this is girly. I think that they had it right back in the 50's. And I too am an older teen. I think that although there were a lot of world conflicts going to start soon that as far as the 'dating rules' they had it right. Girls had there places and guys had thier's. It's really kinda screwed up in the gender role as far as dating goes. So basically I don't think your weird I think your smarter than a lot of other young 'ladies' out there in this world today. Good Luck in everything that you do! and your prince will come one of these days. .if you want him.

Answer 3

No, you are definitely not weird. It sounds like you are a good girl and you should be proud of that. People experience things at different ages and these things will happen when and if you are ready. As for smoking, drinking and drugs, these things are bad habits anyway and u should be proud that you haven't done these stupid things. Its normal to be shy about approaching guys, your only human. Never think that your weird just because you may be different to others. Always remember that your unique and special just for being you. All the best :)

Answer 4

You'll change, shy people become into outgoing people... think about it, where will it get you to hide your emotions... its good that you never drank, smoked, done any drugs or had any type of sexual intercourse. keep it up... that's clean. Never do drugs its not good for your health (sound corny, but its true) there is nothing wrong with sex but when you do it for the wrong purposes, its not good, you don't want to get pregnant and all of a sudden not be able to support your baby, you should be ready for the responsibility before you actually do it. I know there is protection, but you have to remember that its not 100% protection. its not worth the experience when you become that percentage that actually gets pregnant. You can kiss a guy... just find out who likes you and ignore your instincts and go for the kiss...

Answer 5

No, you are very smart and have a lot of self-control. There's so much more to life than those things, and those things can and should be enjoyed in their right time and responsibly.

I never smoked until I was 36. Even then, I've never gotten addicted to it. Alcohol, it's good now and then. But the taste isn't worth the stomachache and loss of better judgment, in my opinion.

I didn't date at all in high school...ok, I double-dated. I did go out on dates after high school and in college. But I agree with you. A kiss should mean more.

In fact, stick to your guns and respect yourself. Don't settle for any guy who doesn't have the same respect for you.

Before my sister married her husband (happily married almost 20 years, now), when they went out on dates, they'd hold hands and hug, but they agreed that they would save kissing (and sex) for marriage.

They dated for several months and finally got engaged. Their first kiss to each other was after the Pastor said, "You may kiss the bride."

Not everyone agrees with this. But here's the key. Don't let "women's lib," or your peers, or guys in general sway you from what feels right to you.

I kissed a lot of frogs (figuratively!) when I was dating in college, and I was so shy, I let the guys kiss me, even though it's not what I felt like doing. I lost a lot of self-respect.

You are not weird.

A great way to meet guys is to get involved in something you enjoy and see if you meet guys with like interests. Is there a Habitat for Humanity in your city? Volunteer with them. Or volunteer to serve food or answer phones at a homeless shelter. Or take an art class. Get busy developing the yourself, your dreams, your goals, and you will likely meet a guy who is on that same path as you.

You sound like a neat person to me!

Answer 6

No its not weird the drinking and smoking some people have never done it and never will its more of a saftey choice...maybe alittle on the kissing but my guess is you're waiting for the right guy and thats smart.

Answer 7

well i think that it is kind of weird not about the drinking, doing drugs, and the rest of the things i mean those are good things, but probably never been kissed probably you will do it when u are comfortable with someone i mean it is not of just here and that is it........ especially when some guys are players... and u know... well do not worry it is not weird it is normal i know someone that is 21 and she was going through the same as u and at last she found the perfect guy........ so yeah just wait........ good luck my friend..........

Answer 8

hi im 13 years old and a girl just to let u know who i am ok. so ur not weird for not doing any of that stuff. ur just problably scared of something bad that might happen if u do that stuff and dont do it cause u wanna get noticed or cause u wanna get in with a croud or for even with a guy. try ur best to keep away from this stuff and if u wanna guy then just flirt and smile and laugh dont do anything u wouldnt normaly do ok . i hope i answered ur question like u wanted it to be.

Answer 9

Not really I think that you are putting to much stress on things you think come naturally to everyone you are just a late bloomer stop getting stressed I bet there is some boy in your life who is to shy to ask you out just relax k it will all work out in the end a little tmif I didn't really do any of things till my early 20's

Answer 10

I don't think necessarily you're weird, although I myself have done all of those things at a very early age. Remember to follow the tenets of whatever belief structure you feel works best for you. Don't let others press upon you to feel awkward because they feel something is meaningless whereas you ascribe value to it. Always ask questions and remember to always check your premises.