why should I respect my grandma, when she doesnt respect me?

Question

she's mean.

Answer 1

respect whoever you want. it's freedom of respect lol

Answer 2

I'd remove the "why" from the start of that question if I were you :)

Seriously though, she is much older than you and probably understands a lot more about the world than she seems to. There may be issues about which you are outspoken, that she remains silent about -- you don't understand why she doesn't speak up, and she has said the same as you before and learned that it makes difference. That's one very general example which may or may not apply -- but remember she was young once too -- try to imagine what girls your age will act like in 50 years.

Having said all that, I have great trouble relating to my grandmother, we have nothing in common and she speaks about inane subjects whenever we spend time together. I don't have anything interesting to say that will interest her (I've tried talking about my interests, it does not work). She has made some small attempts to bridge the gap between us, but they were always disrespectful in some way. She has taken advantage of my skills and my willingness to help her.

So, I know that she has a lot of life experience, and I can tell when she does/says wise things because of this. I understand why we should "respect our elders" and choose not to because of the reasons I stated above.

Please try to make an effort to relate to your grandparents, and understand where they are coming from. Ask them about what they did when they were your age -- show an interest in them. If they show disrespect to you, seek to understand why. Maybe you deserve it. Try to earn their respect (this will make other adults respect you more too) and see if their attitudes change.

If you make an honest attempt to do all of that, and they are still bastards, then I think you're justified in showing less respect for them.

Answer 3

Your grandma is your elder and no matter how you feel and she upsets you sometimes you have to hear what she says and understand she is older. She does not have to respect you and will tell you that you have to earn your respect. Its hard to do but let it slide and smile its better to be sweet to her than to be evil. It will change in due time. Even though you feel like it wont just continue to respect her and in your mind you may agree to dissagree. She may not even know she is doing it either so keep your chin up.

Answer 4

What do you mean by mean?

I think it's absolute hog wash for people to bow down to their elders (or ANYONE) if they don't feel true respect for them in their heart.

One of the most important things you can do in this life is learn to listen to your GUTS.

Is it your GUTS that are telling you she's mean? Or is it your ego/ pride? Is she really being mean? Or are you being a little brat?

Be who you are and how you feel. If you feel disrespected, you don't have to subject yourself to that. You can tastefully remove yourself from the situation.

Try talking to her person to person. Not as your elder. Be real.

This is a good opportunity for you because there will be a lot of situations in life where you feel like people are being disrespectful or mean. Take this time to figure out a way to deal with these types of situations that is true to you that will leave you with no regrets.

Answer 5

she doesn't have to respect you, but you have to respect her. she is part of the reason you're even here at all, so you shouldn't really complain. she might be mean because you aren't being nice to her, so if you try to show her respect and kindness, she might warm up to her. you have to understand if she's still mean to you though, because it might just be the way she shows her love to you (i know that sounds wierd, but my grandma shows me her love by cutting my hair while i'm sleeping, and poking me in the back with her buck knife)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

She is old and perhaps has dementia. Take the high road here.....be nice to Grandma. Do something nice for her. Bring her some flowers. Give her a kiss. Come on.....you will feel so much better about yourself in the end by doing that.

Answer 8

i was raised to ALWAYS respect my elders, right or wrong
she may seem mean, but, does she have an underlying health issue that makes it seem like she is mean? does she really mean to be that way? can she help it?
does she love you?
you don't state why you think she is mean, so therefore it is hard to tell why...but, i would say that if all you show her is respect, she will sooner or later realize that you are older than your years and will maybe respect you in return...
then again, maybe she really can't help it

Answer 9

Adults are not required to respect children. If you want her respect, you have to earn it. She does not have to earn yours. You just think she's mean because she probably didn't let you do something that you shouldn't do anyway. Trust her, she knows better than you do.

Answer 10

you should respect everyone older than you, that is what the world is lacking now " respect " for one another family & friends & for your self, & your grandma because without her you wouldn"t be here,

Answer 11

Because she is your grandmother. She could just be old and cranky. But nonetheless she is your elder, and she is family. Show her some respect, and you might find that she shows you more in return.