my wife cheated on me while i was deployed, now i want payback is it right? is so anybody intrested?
2006-08-05 13:47:16 · 19 answers · asked by againstallodds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have a kid, i put my life on the line for a hole year to come back to her unfaithfullness, not only that she used my money to take him out,
2006-08-05 13:52:49 · update #1
i found out one day at my boys house someguy was running his mouth bout this girl who turnout to be my wife it wasnt once nor twice it went on for a hole year. but shes the mother of my child, and i dont want to loose my kid if i kick her out shell move back out of state....
2006-08-05 14:01:38 · update #2
talk to her bout it. but dont try to get back at her, it will just make things worse.
2006-08-05 13:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Madison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's the thing... a wrong is a negative, two negatives equal a greater negative. two wrongs never equal a positive. You're feelings of anger and frustration are justified. You've been betrayed. And the sting is particularly hurtful because of where you were and what you were doing when she screwed you and your relationship. She didn't "sleep" with this other person, she probably didn't make "love" to them she had "sex" with them and in the process "screwed" up the marriage she had with you. My suggestion to you is do not act from revenge if you do you'll become someone you're not. When a life situation tests you it will either bring out the best in you or the worse. Don't let her mistake mess you up. Separate, get counseling alone or together but take good care of you and trust me that does not mean finding someone to "f" I'm an navy vet and I salute you for your service to our country and with my BA, & MA degrees in Psychology I tell you as a friend sometimes the best payback to someone who has treated you like **** is to walk away with your head held high and not look back, there's someone out there who will honor you and love you again and maybe next time keep their vows.
2006-08-05 14:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not right to cheat even though she cheated on you. You should just leave her if you can't trust her anymore, particularly if you have no children with her. You can't have a healthy relationship without trust. Good luck!
Edit: Children complicate matters. Be glad you only have one with her. I would advise you to not have any more with her until you are absolutely certain you have everything worked out. If you cannot work everything out, your child will survive the breakup alright (especially if s/he's young). You will stand to lose any custody or child support case, but it's better than being trapped in a relationship like that IMHO. Good luck!
2006-08-05 13:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. You need to put the energy into either wanting to repair the damage or start a new life. Revenge only continues to hurt every one. What you want is a resolution. Look what is happening over in the Middle East......those crazy people have been seeking revenge for thousands of years and look what is still happening......nothing but hurt, pain and death. Your choice.
2006-08-05 13:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right but it makes you feel better that's a saying i learned from my sister but as an adult we know we have to either deal with the situation or leave it! if you really want to divorce her try to go to counseling first to see if these issues can be worked out see what she really wants to be married or single remember that a child is involved so you 2 have to be civilized about this if its really time to divorced get visitation rights no need to stay if it cant work...........best wishes!
2006-08-05 14:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by dominicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave her for your own sanity. The absolute only reason you shouldn't leave her, is because of the kid. If that's not your reason, then you need to leave. She will do it again, and that's just who she is. You hate the fact she did this, right? You would be the same person if you did it also.
2006-08-05 13:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, two wrongs do not make a right. Do you honestly think it will make you feel better?? Somebody needs to think about the child.
2006-08-05 14:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it may make you feel better at first but after wards you would feel lousy and then you would be no better than her. You have to ask yourself should i stay or should i go? Depending on your choice do what ya gotta to make it so.
2006-08-05 13:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either divorce her or make it work. If you want it to work then don't cheat. Two wrongs DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT. Good luck and welcome home.
2006-08-05 13:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how the heck would cheating on her help the situation at all? it would just make it so much worse!
2006-08-05 13:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by xxjoanna_maexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋