My husband and I want to go out tonight for my b-day.its next saturday but i have to work. Our 7 yr old is crying begging us not to go.we hardly go out.And we always do things with them.I will bad if i go.Ifeel im choosing to go out over my daughter. But me and my husband havent had alone time for a long time. what should we do???????
2006-08-05 13:43:48 · 25 answers · asked by Moniluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is completely normal for kids to "guilt-trip" their parents - when in all reality, if they're occupied with something fun when you're gone, they don't even think about it. Don't feel guity, go out and have fun! It is completely healthy for parents to want some time away from their kids, as long as you don't neglect your children.
2006-08-05 13:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~~Happy Birthday to you! is there a speciffic reason your child is upset about you going out? children generally that are secure don't mind so much when their parents take a night off.... i would talk to your daughter and find out her reasons... maybe the babysitter mistreats her? it's hard to say... if it is just an irrational fear the kid has, get a sitter, and go out for the evening, and when you come home go kiss your daughter good night and let her know that you are home. this should re assure her for the next time that you will come back home and that her fears are irrational... but, first, be sure that your babysitter is trust worthy, and that your child is not in harms way. a friend of the family had got another friend of theirs to watch their children while they went out for a couple hours, and the babysitter had friends over and they gang raped the little girl and threatend her if she told... it was several months later that they finally got the little girl to talk about why she didn't want her parents going out. there are a lot of sick people in this world... if your daughter has a legitamit reason for not wanting you to go out, she may just be willing to share if you ask.~~
2006-08-05 20:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something special with your children to celebrate your birthday all together one day and on another day just you and your husband go out and enjoy some quality time just the two of you. That way.. the children get to celebrate and you and your husband can have some time alone too. Good Luck.
2006-08-05 20:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marital relationship comes first, then the relationship with the child(ren). They are BOTH very important, but it is more important to maintain the stability, love, passion of your relationship with your huisband for the long run, than to give in to your child's sadness for a quick fix.
If you make sure that EACH of you spends quality time with your daughter during the week, times that you go out will be less difficult for her because you will instill in her that she is important, too.... even if you and daddy sometimes go out and have alone time from time to time.
2006-08-05 20:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by A Designer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey please!! I have 3 children of my own. A 16yr. old and a set twins that will be 7 in sept. The boy twin is a mama's boy and he never wants me to do any thing with out him, let alone let me out of his sight. The girl is not as bad but she complains that she never has anyone to play with so she is always under me too, but I am the Mommy 24/7 without any vacation time. so when I need some me time I take it. I give them some kisses and hugs and tell them i love them in I will be back. Then I go OUT!!!
You, see if I'm not happy no one is happy!!! I NEED MY SANITY!!! Plus I DESERVE IT!!!
2006-08-05 21:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by dj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her understand that you and your husband need time to go out and to have fun. Maybe contact some friends of hers and order pizza and maybe rent some movies. Call a relative of yours to take care of the girls while you are gone. Hope this advice of mine helps.
2006-08-05 20:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Manapazza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it because she doesn't want to be away from you or is it because of who is going to be watching her. Talk to her, pay close attention to what she says. She needs to know that you will go out on your own sometimes, but she also needs to feel safe when you are gone. Sometimes the people we trust the best are the ones who hurt us the most.
2006-08-05 20:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our children's needs come first but we also need time for ourselves and our partners. Don't worry about your children, they'll be fine and it's not like you're going to be gone for a week, it's just a few hours. Go out and have fun. Happy Birthday!
2006-08-05 22:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! You daughter is spoiled. Do her a favor and stop letting her run your lives. She will quit crying. Just be sure to leave her in capable hands while you are out.
2006-08-05 20:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by chick a dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Out! You deserve some time alone. Your daughter will be fine. She will never want you to go. She is too young to really understand that you need this time, and I can assure you that she will forgive you.
2006-08-05 20:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by nakitars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋