Am i wrong if i hate my dad because when I was little he was abusive?I grew up with my mom and dad fighting and threating to kill each other.My dad has pulled a gun to my head because i allways protected my mom.I saved my moms life countless times.I have had beer poured on me countless times I remember one night my dad was mad and pulled the meter box off the side of the house and mom thought he left, So then mom went out to put it back and my dad was draging her to it and it would of killed her right there.Soo i seen him dragging her and ran out screaming stop. Then when my dad and mom were going throgh there divorice he took me out and told me to dig for gold, well i was 6 and i started digging and he did to. But come to find out i was diging my own grave. He was going to shoot me and my mom and take my older brothers and say mom ran off with me.So am I wrong if i hate my own dad?
2006-08-05 13:38:13 · 17 answers · asked by Stacy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am now 14 years old.
2006-08-05 13:53:47 · update #1
no you wold not be rong for hateing your dad for what he has done My dad was the same way and he allso molested me when I was five and to this day I still hate him I have not talked to him in about 12 years and I tryed to forgive him but I just cant After he did all this stuff to me all I can say is it made me stronger and now I have a good job and no one to love but what hurts me just makes me stronger so hold your head up high and just take what life throws at you and it will make you a better person
2006-08-05 13:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 03:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by tollefson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old you are now. Regardless of your age, you need to seek counselling to resolve some of the conflicts you are experiencing. Remember, right or wrong, you are entitled to your feelings and I honestly can't say that in this case you're wrong. But, even if you can justify what/how you feel, you still need someone to help you learn to live with your past experiences and how they impact your life today. You don't want your past to take over your future.
2006-08-05 13:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong. That is wasted energy. He did mean things to you, but the longer you harbor those feelings and he knows he still controls you. Allow yourself time to forgive him. Hate is a strong emotion that eats you from within. The moment you have forgiven him, he has NO control on you, and you have won. You will gain the best thing in life...your life. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-05 13:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by jhaiop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book; Adult Children of Abused Parents written by Steven Farmer, M.A., M.F.C.C.
My heart goes out to you. Good Luck
2006-08-05 13:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by chick a dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Why didn't someone call the police?? I can't believe you had to live like that. I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I hope life is better for you now.
2006-08-05 13:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont know how to tell you this but it seems that you took the role of the mediator in the family........My advice is not to think whether you hate him or not......Instead think of how to leave this torturing person.....I think you should tell your mom to take you and move out of the house with your siblings......Good Luck
2006-08-05 21:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to dislike him at all. Was he ever reported to the police? That is just plain abuse for what he put both of you threw, there was no excuse for what he did. He is a very sick person to say the least and he needs help very badly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-05 13:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally justified in hating your dad. I hope you have been able to talk to a therapist or someone trusted about all of this.
2006-08-05 13:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by erica_m16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no unfortunately you are not wrong. you were abused mentally and physically. do not feel as if you are wrong. He never cared about you nor your mother. I am glad you are okay and have gotten away from him. he never respected you and you have know reason to respect him or love him.
2006-08-05 13:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋